r/cancer • u/ladybug_06 • Jun 23 '25
Patient Rejected because of my cancer
So I thought I would post this story on here because I figured you all from this sub would understand. I’ve heard stories from people where guys have left or turned women down because of their breast cancer but I finally experienced that. He didn’t reject me because I had cancer instead he rejected me because he couldn’t deal with the fact that I have no boobs because I chose to go with an aesthetic flat closure. I was told by him “I’m just a guy..” and “I have a list of things I look for in someone and this is part of it…” it just blows my mind to come across people who are not empathetic towards us and who do not realize that I did this to protect myself and my body. And just because I did not get reconstruction does not make me any less of a woman. This man had the audacity to lead me on tell me all of these things but the moment I tell him of my cancer he decided to “keep his options open.” He tells me he prefers a b/c cup on a girl. Like the audacity of this man. I have never met someone so self centered before in my life. I’m just sharing this because I know you all can relate to this in this sub and truly know the pain and heartbreak we have gone through. But it does not make us less than!
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u/Optimal-Owl9903 Jun 23 '25
Long story short colon cancer, surgery removal, ostomy bag. Met someone before all this became an issue. We're older I'm 64 now, he's 61. We sorta of went our separate ways, It bothered me because I felt when couples first meet it should be a happy journey I didn't feel like taking him down this road so I said my goodbyes. At the time I was waiting for results. For 6 months we had no contact with each other, I thought of him every nite, I'm fact I don't even think he's knows how much my thoughts of him got me thru my dark moments of this cancer. So now it is June '25 in April he reached out, I told him right out what was what with me. I told him there was only 3 people who knew of my ostomy, my 3 children now him. As of now we've kind of rekindled our flame so to speak we've had sex! I don't pressure him in anyway or demand more time because I have to focus on my "almost there" with my medical situation. I'm hoping & praying for a reversal. In the mean time when I put the ball in his court I was so happy & so appreciate of his "looking beyond" the ostomy! I truly hope you find someone that'll do the same for you....🌿 Prayers....♥️