Rejected because of my cancer

[u/ladybug_06]

So I thought I would post this story on here because I figured you all from this sub would understand. I’ve heard stories from people where guys have left or turned women down because of their breast cancer but I finally experienced that. He didn’t reject me because I had cancer instead he rejected me because he couldn’t deal with the fact that I have no boobs because I chose to go with an aesthetic flat closure. I was told by him “I’m just a guy..” and “I have a list of things I look for in someone and this is part of it…” it just blows my mind to come across people who are not empathetic towards us and who do not realize that I did this to protect myself and my body. And just because I did not get reconstruction does not make me any less of a woman. This man had the audacity to lead me on tell me all of these things but the moment I tell him of my cancer he decided to “keep his options open.” He tells me he prefers a b/c cup on a girl. Like the audacity of this man. I have never met someone so self centered before in my life. I’m just sharing this because I know you all can relate to this in this sub and truly know the pain and heartbreak we have gone through. But it does not make us less than!

[u/firemn317]

I'm sorry this has happened to you . I am here to tell you that there are worthwhile guys out there. but you have to look. And we live in a society that has bizarre standards. Don't feel as bad as you do but possibly feel that you've escaped the shallow person. My wife and I have been through quite a bit in the last few years but doesn't mean we still don't have tremendous desire. there are people out there who will understand you and want you for you. Bodies change through time and that's just how it goes so what. be proactive is something I would tell you Go find whoever but you just have to look. Don't wait for it to come to you. there is a story there but too long for this. so if you want to DM me fine I'll explain but take control don't be controlled find the person or persons that you like and want to be around and hang out with that's what we would tell you. we're going on over 20 years and we've been through a lot but we're still super strong actually stronger. so don't give up please and continue your journey to look. Don't let cancer define you.