Rejected because of my cancer

[u/ladybug_06]

So I thought I would post this story on here because I figured you all from this sub would understand. I’ve heard stories from people where guys have left or turned women down because of their breast cancer but I finally experienced that. He didn’t reject me because I had cancer instead he rejected me because he couldn’t deal with the fact that I have no boobs because I chose to go with an aesthetic flat closure. I was told by him “I’m just a guy..” and “I have a list of things I look for in someone and this is part of it…” it just blows my mind to come across people who are not empathetic towards us and who do not realize that I did this to protect myself and my body. And just because I did not get reconstruction does not make me any less of a woman. This man had the audacity to lead me on tell me all of these things but the moment I tell him of my cancer he decided to “keep his options open.” He tells me he prefers a b/c cup on a girl. Like the audacity of this man. I have never met someone so self centered before in my life. I’m just sharing this because I know you all can relate to this in this sub and truly know the pain and heartbreak we have gone through. But it does not make us less than!

[u/shiddyfiddy]

I have never been able to tell if they're being THAT shallow and self centred or if they are just so scared that they pick the worst thing possible to hind behind because they think it sounds the most truthful.

Ultimately I skew towards the shallow end of the spectrum, because if they are scared out of their pants, they're still being selfish with the reason they choose. There is NO empathy even in their fear, so therefore they can go suck it and ruin their life over their inability to grow as a person, and I will have no interest in caring about it.

Good riddance to him and I'm glad you're in our little club here (not glad you have cancer, just glad you found us to help cope with it I mean)