r/cancer • u/ladybug_06 • Jun 23 '25
Patient Rejected because of my cancer
So I thought I would post this story on here because I figured you all from this sub would understand. I’ve heard stories from people where guys have left or turned women down because of their breast cancer but I finally experienced that. He didn’t reject me because I had cancer instead he rejected me because he couldn’t deal with the fact that I have no boobs because I chose to go with an aesthetic flat closure. I was told by him “I’m just a guy..” and “I have a list of things I look for in someone and this is part of it…” it just blows my mind to come across people who are not empathetic towards us and who do not realize that I did this to protect myself and my body. And just because I did not get reconstruction does not make me any less of a woman. This man had the audacity to lead me on tell me all of these things but the moment I tell him of my cancer he decided to “keep his options open.” He tells me he prefers a b/c cup on a girl. Like the audacity of this man. I have never met someone so self centered before in my life. I’m just sharing this because I know you all can relate to this in this sub and truly know the pain and heartbreak we have gone through. But it does not make us less than!
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u/COFFEECOMS Jun 23 '25
I empathize, last thing we need is rejection on top of all that comes with cancer. I am single with Stage IV colon cancer and am somewhat scared to get serious with a woman fearing rejection over my cancer. I get that a person might not want to choose a life with a cancer patient and the trials that come with it. Ironically I need the love and compassion more than ever and it feels there is another barrier to a meaningful relationship. I am envious of people that have a romantic partner to help them in this. I jokingly call it the “cancer cock block” for lack of a better term but it about way more than sex. I’ve said it before, perhaps we need a cancer patient dating app so we can meet people that “get it”. Life is short. I’d like to spend more time loving someone and having them love me.