r/cancer • u/ladybug_06 • Jun 23 '25

Patient Rejected because of my cancer

So I thought I would post this story on here because I figured you all from this sub would understand. I’ve heard stories from people where guys have left or turned women down because of their breast cancer but I finally experienced that. He didn’t reject me because I had cancer instead he rejected me because he couldn’t deal with the fact that I have no boobs because I chose to go with an aesthetic flat closure. I was told by him “I’m just a guy..” and “I have a list of things I look for in someone and this is part of it…” it just blows my mind to come across people who are not empathetic towards us and who do not realize that I did this to protect myself and my body. And just because I did not get reconstruction does not make me any less of a woman. This man had the audacity to lead me on tell me all of these things but the moment I tell him of my cancer he decided to “keep his options open.” He tells me he prefers a b/c cup on a girl. Like the audacity of this man. I have never met someone so self centered before in my life. I’m just sharing this because I know you all can relate to this in this sub and truly know the pain and heartbreak we have gone through. But it does not make us less than!

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u/tanari_atari Jun 23 '25

What the actual fuck???? You deserve someone, who loves you for who you are, not despite having cancer. I’m so sorry you had to hear such hurtful words. He didn’t deserve you, period. All the best to you

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u/ladybug_06 Jun 23 '25

Thank you. It was hurtful. I’ve never cried in front of someone before but I did with him because the words he said to me were so insensitive and hurtful that he wasn’t thinking about what I went through and the trauma I had to endure. Instead my tears were “too much” for him.

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u/madeyoulurk Jun 23 '25

I feel you, sweetheart. I’m so sorry. In the middle of breast cancer treatment right now and was diagnosed just when I started talking to someone that I really like. Let me just say, you aren’t too much- he’s not enough. 🩷🩷🩷