Rejected because of my cancer

[u/ladybug_06]

So I thought I would post this story on here because I figured you all from this sub would understand. I’ve heard stories from people where guys have left or turned women down because of their breast cancer but I finally experienced that. He didn’t reject me because I had cancer instead he rejected me because he couldn’t deal with the fact that I have no boobs because I chose to go with an aesthetic flat closure. I was told by him “I’m just a guy..” and “I have a list of things I look for in someone and this is part of it…” it just blows my mind to come across people who are not empathetic towards us and who do not realize that I did this to protect myself and my body. And just because I did not get reconstruction does not make me any less of a woman. This man had the audacity to lead me on tell me all of these things but the moment I tell him of my cancer he decided to “keep his options open.” He tells me he prefers a b/c cup on a girl. Like the audacity of this man. I have never met someone so self centered before in my life. I’m just sharing this because I know you all can relate to this in this sub and truly know the pain and heartbreak we have gone through. But it does not make us less than!

[u/Just_Dont88]

Men are asses. My fiancé left me 7 months into my treatments. Probably because I had no hair. Who the fuck knows. Ive met some guys that are sympathetic about the cancer and I definitely have the conversation about appearance being a standard for them. I’ll probably never have long hair again like I did and definitely don’t want kids at this point. Some people really don’t understand the mental strength to overcome the losses you take with cancer like losing your breasts. It was horrible the way be put it though. You’ll find the right person. I’ve honestly put my dating on hold until after my transplant. The betrayal from my ex fiancé is still pretty hurtful. He had his right to leave but the fact he was shady and went about it are pretty fucked up.