r/cancer • u/Rachel21321 • 3d ago
Patient Annoyed at calling it a fight?
Anyone else thankful but also get annoyed when people call you a fighter or this cancer a fight or that you are so brave? I don’t think I am any of those things. I am doing what I need to do to get better. It doesn’t feel like anything I’m really doing is “fighting” or “brave” or even changing the situation aside from making decisions. It feels like these steps I take either work or they don’t but not through much conscious fault of my own. To me it just feels like this shitty thing to hopefully get through.
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u/4Bigdaddy73 3d ago
I chalk it up to folks not knowing the right words to say. Hell, I’ve been “battling “ cancer ( see what I did there?) for 3 yrs, I still don’t know what to say to others or what will irritate me on any given day. The fact that you have people rooting for you during your “fight”( oops I did it again🎶) is incredible.
That was posted in jest, obviously. But I get it. At first I didn’t even want to know what they were going to do for treatment. I figured I simply had to do what they planned out for my best chance of survival, so what do I care what the words were or what the plan was? They have a decade of higher education on the subject and I barely graduated high school. I was just a pawn in their effort to save me. There was nothing brave about me going along for the ride.
Best of everything to you!