r/cancer • u/Rachel21321 • 3d ago

Patient Annoyed at calling it a fight?

Anyone else thankful but also get annoyed when people call you a fighter or this cancer a fight or that you are so brave? I don’t think I am any of those things. I am doing what I need to do to get better. It doesn’t feel like anything I’m really doing is “fighting” or “brave” or even changing the situation aside from making decisions. It feels like these steps I take either work or they don’t but not through much conscious fault of my own. To me it just feels like this shitty thing to hopefully get through.

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u/feathernose 3d ago

Yes it is so annoying. They all mean it so well, but it does not help. And i never know what to say. I have to hold myself in to not get angry with friends who call me a warrior or whatever.

I do appreciate it when people call me (mentally) strong because yes, i have been living with cancer, many treatments and a lot of pain for 7 years now and i am still able to enjoy life, also in the little things, and that is not easy. It's nice that people are able to see that i am able to keep my head up in difficult times. It is nice to hear that i am still appreciated for my positive energy.

But it is getting harder and harder, the more the cancer is progressing.

One day i wil say 'i am done'. The people who call 'giving up' weak, should get a punch in the face and don't deserve to be around me. Like my brother. He told me he would force chemo down my throat if needed, when i told him i am thinking about quitting treatment because it is costing me more than it gives me. A year of being miserable om chemo just for a few months extra? No thanks.

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u/Rachel21321 3d ago

It definitely makes not wanting to “fight” seem like a lesser, weak decision. So much of all of this is so hard and isolating <3

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u/No-Camera-720 3d ago

Ahh you see how it works.

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u/feathernose 3d ago

It is. I am sorry you are experiencing this, too. I hope you will get out of this misery💜

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u/PATRIOT-OF-YESHUA99 2d ago

It is NOT WEAKNESS. It is accepting that chemo radiation can do more harm if any good..to live quality not quantity.

Your Brother loves you dearly..he just doesn't want to know that chemo is a bitch.

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u/Frosty_Grand_4039 12h ago

Forgive your brother. He loves you and this how he is dealing with this pain.

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u/PATRIOT-OF-YESHUA99 2d ago

🤗🤗🤗😇🥹...the world is brainwashed to think "chemo saves" My Sister got worse after that Chemo pill, radiation...My Mom nd me nd My Husband said NO to My Mom having chemo, radiation!.. Doctors of Mount Sinai and other Doctors NOT CHECKING THAT MY MOTHER HAD DIVERCULOSIS THAT TURNED DIVERCULITIS! IMAGINE CHEMO RADIATION WITH A HOLE IN YOUR INTESTINE!