r/cancer • u/Rachel21321 • 3d ago

Patient Annoyed at calling it a fight?

Anyone else thankful but also get annoyed when people call you a fighter or this cancer a fight or that you are so brave? I don’t think I am any of those things. I am doing what I need to do to get better. It doesn’t feel like anything I’m really doing is “fighting” or “brave” or even changing the situation aside from making decisions. It feels like these steps I take either work or they don’t but not through much conscious fault of my own. To me it just feels like this shitty thing to hopefully get through.

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u/No-Camera-720 2d ago

I have multiple myeloma. Your hope is in vain, as are your words. It is incurable and given enough time, will kill me. I'm fine with that. Just making sure I do all I can to extend the part of my life that is still worth living, and don't leave a stone unturned. But at some point, I'm going to say fuck it.

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u/kdj00940 2d ago

Holy hell, I’m sorry. I hear you. Reasonable 100%

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u/No-Camera-720 2d ago

No need to apologize. I'm fine with my situation. It is what it is. No offense, but your post is a perfect example: Nice-sounding words that change nothing. Better to say nothing unless you know to whom you are speaking.

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u/kdj00940 2d ago

Heard. Learning lesson