Annoyed at calling it a fight?

[u/Rachel21321]

Anyone else thankful but also get annoyed when people call you a fighter or this cancer a fight or that you are so brave? I don’t think I am any of those things. I am doing what I need to do to get better. It doesn’t feel like anything I’m really doing is “fighting” or “brave” or even changing the situation aside from making decisions. It feels like these steps I take either work or they don’t but not through much conscious fault of my own. To me it just feels like this shitty thing to hopefully get through.

[u/femcsw2]

My husband (54) actually is fighting for his life right now and I'm so very proud. Diagnosed 2 months ago, still not sure of primary because the pain and hospital stays have made him unable to withstand a petscan. Suspected primary nscl but we do know he has numerous mets to bone and lymph nodes. Radiation put him the hospital the 1st time with encephalopathy. Took 50 hours for them to even calm him long enough for a brain scan. Brain scan was clear. He spent 6 days in the hospital and was back in after 4 days for failure to thrive. Platelet count was 18. The day after he was admitted pallative care basically told him he would never recover enough for treatment and said hospice was the way to go. He was in a very dark place for 24 hours. The next day the oncologist gave him 3 choices. In patient hospice, out patient hospice or give it time and see if he recovered. He said "I need a week" . All of his dr's rallied around and kept giving him hope. Slow but sure he is getting better every day and after 9 days his platelets went to 52 and he's home. Still weak and tired but his mental state is so much better. The amount of support he is receiving is phenomenal and he told me yesterday it's helping him fight! We won't know anything more till wednsday but what we do know is that no more treatments will be possible until platelets reach 100. So we wait.....