r/cancer • u/tylerdurdin58 • 3d ago

Caregiver Hair loss

My wife is loosing hair during her chemo even with cold capping. She is absolutely traumatized and said she would rather die than loose her hair. She is blaming me loosing her hair by her temples because I put the tape to protect her scalp from frost bite, on the exposed scalp with thin hair and it all came out when she removed it. She is devastated beyond reason. I have no idea how to support her through this part? I love her more than anything in this world and I feel hopeless hearing her say she wants to die. I don't know what to do or how to support her, I am speechless other than I can say I'm sorry. This whole thing sux for everyone involved, it sux the worst for her. When I tell her she is still beautiful, my words mean nothing to her. How can I help when my words are empty to her even though I mean what I say? I try to make her laugh and that does not work. Nothing I do or say works. Sorry for the rant I just need to vent, I can't vent to my only friend, the love of my life , because she is fighting cancer.

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u/Final-Bend-7983 3d ago

I wish hospitals were more up-front about cold caps. They don’t really work. You save like 15% of your hair but you still have bald spots. You’re better off just shaving it and letting it grow back instead of spending that money on that product.

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u/macaroniandbeans 3d ago

they do work, they worked for me.

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u/Final-Bend-7983 3d ago

Really? You didn’t lose any hair on it?

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u/macaroniandbeans 3d ago

my hair thinned a little and i got a few bald patches but i kept maybe 70% of my hair

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u/tylerdurdin58 3d ago

What brand did you use? We are using penguin

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u/macaroniandbeans 3d ago

i had paxman. my mum used the same and kept most of hers too

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u/mcmurrml 2d ago

There are some that are better than others.