r/cancer • u/tylerdurdin58 • 3d ago
Caregiver Hair loss
My wife is loosing hair during her chemo even with cold capping. She is absolutely traumatized and said she would rather die than loose her hair. She is blaming me loosing her hair by her temples because I put the tape to protect her scalp from frost bite, on the exposed scalp with thin hair and it all came out when she removed it. She is devastated beyond reason. I have no idea how to support her through this part? I love her more than anything in this world and I feel hopeless hearing her say she wants to die. I don't know what to do or how to support her, I am speechless other than I can say I'm sorry. This whole thing sux for everyone involved, it sux the worst for her. When I tell her she is still beautiful, my words mean nothing to her. How can I help when my words are empty to her even though I mean what I say? I try to make her laugh and that does not work. Nothing I do or say works. Sorry for the rant I just need to vent, I can't vent to my only friend, the love of my life , because she is fighting cancer.
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u/Mylegionares 2d ago
Theres nothing you could have done. The tape didn’t make her loose her hair. Chemo is a very strong and toxic medicine which is why so many percautions are made. Which is why you shouldn’t use the same bathroom as her while she undergoes treatment. I would invest in a very expensive wig. She’s grieving her hair and right now for her it’s “the worst” but there are a lot more things which are actually worse like dying a long painful death.