My dad was just diagnosed

[u/CoheedMe]

Hi everyone, my father (55) was just diagnosed with lymphoma. I don’t know much but I know it’s in his lung and spleen. The first lump he noticed was in his neck. It grew. Then his armpit. He did not go to the doctor for months. He has always been irresponsible. He is an alcoholic and smokes 2 packs a day. Stage 2 diabetic 6 feet tall and around 270 or more. Eats like crap and treats his body like crap. No exercise at all.

I’m upset. I’m upset because for 7 years, since my daughter was born and I chose sobriety I have tried to get him on board. I help them go to rehab. I helped them with money and rides. I did everything I could and he made zero effort. I even asked to take out a life insurance policy years ago so we could bury him, he told me “your f***** for trying to profit off my death” which I understand was projection and something he would clearly do.

I’m just, upset. Sad sure, mad for sure. I don’t know what or if this will kill him. I’m not sure how to feel. I just needed to vent. Sorry if this is not the place for that.