r/cancer • u/skylover1238 • 1d ago
Caregiver Hospital will not admit my mom
Hello. So my mom is in remission for lung and brain cancer. Although she’s been dealing with her pancreatic cancer since fall. She’s been doing good. Except recently things have been really bad.
She doesn’t want to eat or drink. We’ve been getting her to drink ensure drinks and little meals. She fainted on Sunday.. stopped breathing for a bit. We took her to the ER at a Sanford location. They took her labs and everything was normal.. so they said they can’t admit her. Same thing happened yesterday too. Their excuse was “it’s a side effect of chemo.” I know this is not that.
She has lost about 30-40lbs in the last 6 weeks. She now has a hard time walking, going to the bathroom, etc. She is sleeping a lot. She threw up yesterday at the ER. All liquids, no chunks. I’m very scared that this is resembling end stage pancreatic cancer/failure. I don’t want her to die. I’m only 22. I need my mom.
Is there any way to get her admitted? Is there anything I can do for her to help her more than getting her to eat? Please help me.
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u/Cwilde7 1d ago
I’m so sorry for all of you. My children were quite young when my husband passed from PC, and it’s crushing to watch. My heart goes out to you.
Without knowing all the details, her symptoms are very common for PC patients near the end. Is she on neoadjuvant chemo in hopes of surgery, or is this palliative chemo to extend her life?