Studies that gauge women's preferences are bullshit and often contradict themselves.
You'll see a study saying women prefer men with facial hair immediately followed by one saying they prefer a clean shave. One study will tell you that women prefer men with sharp facial features and a strong jaw while another will tell you they find babyfaced men cuter and more trustworthy as partners.
Granted, there seems to be a general preference towards height, but what exact figure of height is preferred and how much that preference actually influences partner choice is up to anyone's guess.
My guy really just went ”oh this is universal for over half the world population source: trust me” 😭😭 the day people stop giving women attributes like we’re a monolith is the day I find peace of mind.
oh trust me it's way more commonly being done to women. Especially here on reddit I constanly see some incel bullshit on mainstream subs even though I deliberatery try to stay away from it. And dont even get me started on the "women have it so easy" and "men's loneliness is not talked about enough" posts
Maybe not posting in ForeverAlone and IncelExit all the time will significantly help your chances with a partner. In the kindest way possible, nobody wants to be with a whiny bitch. Find hobbies, fake confidence, and just put yourself into social situations. Don't go into every conversation with a woman desperate to impress her or anything. Literally just treat women like one of your homies, and they will start to like you. Stop caring whether or not they will love you, and one or two eventually will. If you generalize them and shit like this a. You're going in with a defeatist mindset and that will only hinder you and b. You're gonna look like a misogynist. I'm about to be engaged for the second time, and that happens by treating women like individual humans
Completely agree with everything here, just wanna say 1 thing about the faking confidence part.
The amount of women I've dated who decided that their best foot forwards when organising things was to put their hands up and make me decide everything despite not knowing their preferences (or even what times they were available) was surprisingly high. Like we'd agree to go out, I'd try asking them what sort of places they enjoy or what times they're available and they'd either dodge the question or just turn it back to me instead so I'd decide it for them. I get that confidence is attractive so someone being confident enough to organise things themselves would be good, but at a certain point it started to feel like I was their parent making all the decisions for them. It was also pretty awkward when we'd get somewhere and it was obvious they didn't actually like what we were doing or the type of food we ate but they never vocalised it at any point beforehand or during so it just became this painful guessing game every time we did something. If it was just a 1 off I'd agree it's just them, but anecdotally at least I encountered this enough to put me off dating for a while. I hope I just had really bad luck.
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u/Designated_Lurker_32 May 04 '25
Studies that gauge women's preferences are bullshit and often contradict themselves.
You'll see a study saying women prefer men with facial hair immediately followed by one saying they prefer a clean shave. One study will tell you that women prefer men with sharp facial features and a strong jaw while another will tell you they find babyfaced men cuter and more trustworthy as partners.
Granted, there seems to be a general preference towards height, but what exact figure of height is preferred and how much that preference actually influences partner choice is up to anyone's guess.