Tbh, being told to "Man up" or "You're a man! Figure it out!" Has become more and more of a philosophy of mine over the last 10-15 years that has helped me more than anything else.
I am a man, I can solve my own fucking problems. Probably yours too.
Glad it works for you, for me it was really the opposite as I was struggling with depression.
Having my friends tell me to man up when i can't even get out of bed in the morning without crying for 30 minutes didn't really do wonders for my situation.
I think people get confused about what its supposed to mean to man up. It gets used alot to say stop being depressed or injured but really its just about getting whatever needs done. Gotta fix something but dont want to? Man up and do it. Feelings got you in a slump isnt something to exactly man up to. You need some help
Stoicism is actually pretty based. I'm learning and feeling that more and more as the years go on. I can be soft with my wife, but I must be sober and stone to the world. Unmoving, unyielding. Defend what I know is right and moral, and let others become the cautionary tale of their own demise.
It's not "reject everything" it's "put everything to the fire". Why accept what will only make you weaker? Why replace stone foundations with clay? Someone else will walk on it and deform and destroy it with no effort. Stone requires work and dedication to change, and only work and dedication should change you.
It’s not about what it’s supposed to mean, the fact is there are a preponderance of dudes who do use it inappropriately and that’s damaging for dudes on the receiving end who try to apply it where it was used with toxicity. It’s basically toxic social support in those cases.
I thought that too, but internalizing the meaning and breaking it down led me to a deeper understand of what being a man is, and how to become a higher version of that. I genuinely believe the modern understanding of "man up" is far and large a perversion of the true and more wholesome, and meaningful, meaning.
Yeah I always took it with a healthy grain of salt. Feelings are complicated but I gotta do the dishes abs laundry regardless of how I feel. I can man up and solve those problems and still have negative feelings.
It's also a good yoyo your on your own in a lot od things.
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u/Kiyan1159 Jun 05 '25
Tbh, being told to "Man up" or "You're a man! Figure it out!" Has become more and more of a philosophy of mine over the last 10-15 years that has helped me more than anything else.
I am a man, I can solve my own fucking problems. Probably yours too.