r/dankmemes I Wanna Be Sedated☣️ Jun 05 '25

OC Maymay ♨ Happy Men’s Health Month

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u/Kiyan1159 Jun 05 '25

Tbh, being told to "Man up" or "You're a man! Figure it out!" Has become more and more of a philosophy of mine over the last 10-15 years that has helped me more than anything else.

I am a man, I can solve my own fucking problems. Probably yours too.

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u/Mellowturtlle Jun 05 '25 edited Jun 05 '25

Glad it works for you, for me it was really the opposite as I was struggling with depression.

Having my friends tell me to man up when i can't even get out of bed in the morning without crying for 30 minutes didn't really do wonders for my situation.

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u/J3sush8sm3 The Monty Pythons Jun 05 '25

I think people get confused about what its supposed to mean to man up.  It gets used alot to say stop being depressed or injured but really its just about getting whatever needs done.  Gotta fix something but dont want to? Man up and do it.  Feelings got you in a slump isnt something to exactly man up to.  You need some help

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u/Froggn_Bullfish Jun 05 '25

It’s not about what it’s supposed to mean, the fact is there are a preponderance of dudes who do use it inappropriately and that’s damaging for dudes on the receiving end who try to apply it where it was used with toxicity. It’s basically toxic social support in those cases.

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u/dende5416 Jun 05 '25

There was never really an appropriate use of it. It was always about not crying, drinking the wrong thing, etc.

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u/Froggn_Bullfish Jun 05 '25

idk I think it’s ok for motivating yourself to do stuff no one ever wants to do like the other guy said. Like for chores and things.

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u/angelis0236 Vegemite Victim 🦘🦖 Jun 05 '25

Why does it have to be "man up" then? Why not "just fucking do it"

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u/dende5416 Jun 05 '25

What is manly about doing chores? Do women just do nothing? It makes no sense.