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u/LorenzoCopter 26d ago
Shit in kid’s pants and blame the kid!
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u/0wlsamura1 26d ago
if i ever get to this level put me out of my misery
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u/_regionrat 26d ago
What's the level, though? Trying to be friends with a woman you want to date or having a friend?
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u/IMN0VIRGIN 26d ago
Getting to BFFs status with the girl you wanna date and being comfortable with the fact that you can look after her kids while she goes out to get railed by another stranger...
I will tell you from experience of something similar to this situation that I'd rather just put one in my skull than do that and go back to the mental hospital again.
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u/spokenandpoken 26d ago
Let's say your suicidal or got a drug problem maybe it's the only friend u have.
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u/IMN0VIRGIN 26d ago
If you're there platonically, then cool.
But if you're suffering from the above and want to be romantically involved with said person... then you're only torturing yourself.
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u/receuitOP Professional dumbfuck 26d ago
Nah I wouldn't mind this, I have a close female friend but I don't see her romantically. If she had kids and asked me to watch them for her I wouldn't mind if I'm free. I wasn't there to date her anyway
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u/Neka_JP 26d ago
Yeah people are assuming OP has feelings for her and is friendzoned. I would feel happy and honored she trusts me with her kid
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u/ohrofl 25d ago
Isn’t that kind of implied with the meme template the chose?
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u/Neka_JP 25d ago
Not sure, a template is not an undeviating form, you could use a template for another purpose.
I don't know how it's normally used, but according to Know Your Meme, the bottom text is not necessarily sarcastic or joking, just something that the poster wants to inform the viewer about
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u/haroldflower27 26d ago
My befriend just left one day. Had our wedding planned out and all . It can get a lot worse sadly
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u/kamekaze1024 Obamasjuicyass 26d ago
Surely this is about your dislike with kids and not because you only see woman companionships as a means to get intimate, right?
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u/popcornsprinkled 26d ago
If you're doing it as a genuine friend, good for you.
If it's because you want a chance with her. Bro, you deserve better. Move on and find a woman who will respect you, and most importantly, respect yourself.
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u/TalithePally pogchamp researcher 26d ago
Doesn't sound like she's doing anything wrong. If OP wants to date her he has to ask her out, plain and simple. If she says no, they make the choice to stay friends or not. The friend zone is a place you put yourself
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u/Whiterhino77 26d ago
If dude openly designates himself as a “best friend” expecting anything romantic is pretty entitled
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u/Maxsmack 26d ago
Bro literally has one of the best ins ever, ask her how the date went, then hit her with the “id like to take you on one sometime”
It’s either a yes or no, then move on
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u/TBNRhash :nu: 26d ago
Ik hes already friends now, so he has to ask her out, but y do guys do this? Stop thinking being a best friend will lead to you being with them, 90% of the time what happens is that the other person thought you were a genuine friend and then you confess and if you dip then they lost someone they genuinely cared about. You're just hurting the girls feelings for no reason when you could've confessed earlier and been done with it, before you put yourself in a best friend relationship that's fake. Unless of course it's real.
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u/Ramfix_G4 26d ago edited 26d ago
Yeah, I get what you mean and it's definitely gotta suck. But I have to say that it's also definitely a confusing subject matter since I'd like to think most people (or at least most guys, i guess?) would like to be with someone they're already close with whether it is because they know they have stuff in common with that person or something else. Thing is, sometimes going straight for the shot kinda messes up the chances those people would have in becoming closer.
Now, you could argue that is a fundamental issue with the relationship to begin with, as most people also seek those same qualities in friendships, but they wouldn't proceed if they knew the other party had romantic intentions. And, at the very least partly, I'd say you're right, though it's understandable in why it happens. I'd argue that in some cases, the romantic feelings start after getting close to that person as they got to a point where they're close enough to consider getting romantically involved, while the person they're interested isn't only unaware of those feelings as nothing really changed from their perspective, but they're also comfortable with their current relationship.
Like, don't get me wrong, just straight up dipping out after having establishes that close relationship is a jerk move no matter the context, but the line is definitely thin enough for it to be rather common. Now, I cannot begin tell you why this happens more commonly for men though, as nothing I've described really excludes women, and I'm sure at least some have gone through similar experiences.
But oh well, I really began rambling on and on with this one, not really sure what came unto me but I'm sorry about jumpscaring you with this massive wall of text lol
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u/Sandee1997 24d ago
I mean tbf the alternative is sometimes they just get a rude no and now they don’t even get a friend, but i understand both positions can be shitty.
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u/Haggis442312 26d ago edited 26d ago
Catching feelings is a thing mate. As is the pretty common(stupid) advice that you should be friends first.
You’re just hurting the girls feelings for no reason
Being honest about your own feelings is a pretty good reason. And this idea that she’s entitled to the friendship of a guy she’s already rejected is pretty gross.
I get that this kind of situation sucks for everyone, but trying to keep it platonic after you’ve caught feelings or confessed them is just going to lead to more pain.
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u/TBNRhash :nu: 26d ago
sorry, maybe I wasn't clear, I'm talking about ppl who specifically try to be close friends with the intention of later asking them out, not ppl who catch feelings later on.
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u/Maxsmack 26d ago
Yeah, potential relationships shouldn’t go past a few months before you confess romantic feelings, anything after that, and those feelings better have manifested later into the relationship
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u/popcornsprinkled 26d ago
I agree, hence me telling him to move on.
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u/eat_my_bowls92 26d ago
I think it’s the “you deserve better” part, which insinuates she’s not a good person
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u/popcornsprinkled 26d ago
If she knows, then she's being a bad friend.
That said, EVERYONE deserves better than that. I tell girls the same when they are in a fuck buddy relationship and want something more. If he's not into a serious relationship and she wants one, she deserves better. If a guy is " Friend zoned" and the girl isn't into him, he deserves better.
It doesn't make the guy going through his hoe phase or the uninterested female friend bad. They know what they're about, but the other party who wants more deserves better. They deserve to move on and find something better for them.
It's better for all parties to move on.
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u/Fan_Here 26d ago
Had to do that. It was the hardest decision ever because it meant i had to stop seeing her. It bothered me but didn’t seem to affect her in the slightest. 2 months after we stopped talking, she got into a relationship. That hurts.
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u/DolanTheCaptan 25d ago
If she's truly clueless about OP being interested in her, sure, thing is I've heard it enough times that "come on, we all know, you guys are fairly obvious", that there's a chance she does know.
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u/ibonek_naw_ibo 26d ago
No, it's not. The friend zone is the timeout zone used as a tool of fear.
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u/Used_Raccoon6789 26d ago
Could also be the kid is cool and OP wants another friend which is good too.
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u/popcornsprinkled 26d ago
Agreed, I used to watch my friends kids all the time because I would like to have kids and have not been able to have any yet.
Which is why I said " If you're doing it a genuine friend, good for you."
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u/Issac-Cox-Daley 26d ago
The new King of the Hill season addresses this in my favourite episode of the reboot. Hanks brother GH is friend zoned and he explains that having a good friend is not a bad thing.
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u/DolanTheCaptan 25d ago
That is completely true, however it is also totally ok if you can't handle being friends with someone you have romantic feelings for.
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u/Issac-Cox-Daley 25d ago
Yeah, then if you can't handle being friends with them it's your onus to tell them the truth. Not just sit on it for an eternity waiting for them.
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u/Hellas2002 26d ago
How is asking your friend to watch your kid disrespectful to them?
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u/popcornsprinkled 26d ago
The implication of the meme is that he's only doing it for her attention.
If that's not the case, my first statement covers it. If it is the case, then the second part covers it.
As for the disrespect, if she knows he likes her and is asking because she knows he'll do it for her, that's disrespectful. I keep going back to female friends with fuck buddies, but damn it the mentality is the damned same. If a guy only wants a physical relationship with you and you want more, you need to move on. He knows he can call you in the middle of the night and you'll show up because maybe he'll commit. That isn't respect. Same with a friend who uses your affections to push you to do more for them.
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u/Hellas2002 26d ago
If he’s only doing it for for her attention then the second part covers it
You’re presupposing that the woman knows necessarily knows that he’s only her best friend for a possible physical reward. Why would you assume that? It’s very possible that she doesn’t know he likes her romantically and that she’s asking, who she believes is, a good friend for help. That’s in no way her not respecting him.
The only person who is necessarily disrespecting him in the second case is himself. Not only that, but he’s disrespecting their friendship and possibly using her.
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u/popcornsprinkled 25d ago
I can't speak for her, but I can speak as a woman. We tend to notice these things.
I still say he should respect himself and set up that boundary.
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u/AnxiousStomach5297 26d ago
My thoughts exactly, I looked at it like watching over a friend’s dog. Have the boys over to chill maybe have a few beer.
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u/FatLikeSnorlax_ 25d ago
Doesn’t respect him?? Either he’s trying to get in her pants under the guise of being her friend or he’s doing it help a friend
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u/Snoo_58305 26d ago
Why does he deserve better based on his intentions?
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u/TeriyakiToothpaste 26d ago
Because he deserves to treat himself better.
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u/Hellas2002 26d ago
How is watching your friends kid somehow treating yourself poorly?
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u/LeagueOfLegendsAcc 26d ago
His intentions to presumably find a girlfriend? Is that bad or something? Please clue us in.
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u/Yakman311 26d ago
Potential has long set sail on that one if this is where we are
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u/popcornsprinkled 26d ago
Same reason I ask my female friends about their fuck buddies. If they're both just having fun, go spread your legs and fly. Just keep it safe.
If they're hoping he'll eventually commit, girl just respect yourself and leave.
Same with guys in the friend zone. No one deserves to be put in a toxic situation like that. Respect yourself and move on. There are other options out there.
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u/quantum-grapefruit 26d ago
Why do you think anybody should allow themselves to be used in a 1-way relationship?
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u/PoetBoye EVIL BATMAN 26d ago
This is peak incel bait
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u/Unimpressive_Box 26d ago edited 26d ago
I'm in these comments solely for the incels misconstruing the situation.
Edit: Nah, he's "waiting his turn" in his own words.
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u/Haggis442312 26d ago
„Waiting his turn“ which will definitely, indubitably, inevitably come!
Man needs some self respect. She’s not into him, so he can either be her friend, and acknowledge that it’s never going to proceed past that, or make a clean cut.
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u/turndownforwomp 26d ago
That’s nice of you…I think lol
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u/rantonidi 26d ago
Nicest
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u/_Weyland_ Yellow 26d ago
Babe wake up, new -cest just dropped.
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u/CryNo568 26d ago
Im about to get downvoted into oblivion, but here it goes.
Why is this bad? He's a friend, best friend, it seems, and he's watching his friends kid. Why is this bad?
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u/positive_express 26d ago
Seriously. Dude is probably just excited his friend is meeting someone and possibly starting a relationship. Oh yeah and the kid could possibly get a father. It's a win all around. I would certainly watch my friends kid for this reason.
Edit. Ha, never mind I didn t read the other comments in your thread.
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u/wellwaffled 26d ago
Is she really your BFF or you just like her? My BFF is a woman and I would rather sit in a pile of fire ants than date her.
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u/TPChocolate 26d ago
How can I find more BFFs like you? What's your friends secret?
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u/jd_maybe 26d ago
Lov… Loyalty
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u/charlie-the-Waffle 26d ago
"wah wah my friends trust me enough to watch their children while they can't, id better complain about it online!" grow up
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u/bitchwhuut 26d ago
Question: Are you truly a bff or do you want to be in a romantic relationship?
If it's the former, then Congratulations, you have been bestowed a great honour. If it's the latter then
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u/Epicsaber 26d ago
Fellas... you do realize you can be friend with a women and not wanna be with her/smash...
It's gonna hurt you in the long run to think otherwise. Introspect a little and your world will expand in scope and meaning
OP, congrats on being a good, trustworthy friend while she needs time off from watching her kid.
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u/S3lvah 26d ago
Good on you for being a true friend.
Helping people you care about & who care about you is a key tenet of a happy and fulfilling life.
Solid friendships bring a lifetime of comfort and happiness; dates rarely do.
Besides, if you show good dad energy and are good with the kid, she might just put in a good word for you with her hot friends. This part isn't guaranteed and more importantly not the point, but it could be a bonus, you never know
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u/thewiburi 26d ago
Okay If your genuinely her friend congratulations your effectively her family if she trusts you with her kids, if your trying to sleep with her you could have stopped all of this by simply telling her how you feel. the friend zone is a myth perpetuated by men who think the best way to sleep with women is too trick then into believing that they are actually thier frends
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u/metta01010 26d ago
? Most men, want to be actual friends with the woman in question. You wanting to court them, or smash them, isn’t in any way an indication of being a fake friend. The there is nothing wrong, with becoming acquainted before you have a romantic/sexual relationship. Thats how most relationships are formed, and casual hookups work the same, you can be actively enjoying a persons presence, while being attracted to them.
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u/soldier_of_death I am fucking hilarious 26d ago
You got asked to babysit?
I mean, if that’s a victory for you then it’s a victory. Congratulations.
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u/MathematicianLow7460 26d ago
I don't get it? You wanted to be YOU in this date with her? Sounds like you just waited too much and didn't take the first step. Also you deserve better anyway.
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u/Dangerous_Seaweed80 26d ago
I have a friend who chose to help babysit his ex's kid while she worked. She is a bartender. They had recently broken up after almost 2 yrs. She was probably going on dates, too. I just thought that was weird. Also, she blocked him on social media, but not me.
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u/Overwatchhatesme 26d ago
I mean it shows she trusts you with her son so take that as a reflection on your character and relationship with her but if you’re gonna be salty she’s dating not you then you probably shouldn’t be close friends with her or at least make it clear to her how you feel. If you don’t you’ll just grow toxic and behave shitty to her and ruin the friendship so better to end it on better terms or at least shoot your shot and see what happens.
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u/dAnKsFourTheMemes 26d ago
"BFF" yeah bro you already got the title. Yall are best friends forever. This is why we don't speak in absolutes. You aren't escaping the friend zone bro.
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u/Juiceinmyoven 26d ago
I don’t get how the meme has 3k+ upvotes when the comment section is mostly filled with negative feedback.
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u/TheNorthFIN 26d ago
A hero surely. Sniff some panties or whatever idk what you folks do these days. 🫡
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u/SophisticatedTitan 26d ago
The fact you made this post, the flair, and the way you worded it leads me to believe you expect more out of your "female bff" than just plain friendship.
You've fallen really low. Sorry.
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u/SpectrumSense 25d ago
I guess the context is important;
Is she actually just your friend? Like you have no romantic interest in her? Then awesome!
If you DO have romantic interest... you may need to seek new partners.
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u/Turbulent_Train7983 25d ago
Now this is an anecdote for a person who cannot set boundaries to his friend. Same as "I have to watch my bro's kids as he goes out for a date, while I don't want to" . If this is anything else, OP is a creep and not someone that woman should be leaving her kids with.
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u/VRPornGuy69 25d ago
Idk If I have feelings for someone, I tell them. If they don’t feel the same way we can be homies but I’m gonna keep a safe distance til I can come to terms with that information fully. I don’t think being besties with someone you want to date is a good mental health decision
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u/Aia_Mistwalker 24d ago
If someone is into you, they rarely do a good job of hiding it over time. If you have known someone for a long time and have gotten zero romantic interest from them, they almost certainly aren't interested.
I work with this lady. We're both married, and happily so. But our chemistry is off the charts. Every time we catch eyes, the yearning is there. She knows it. I know it. It's hard for even grown, experienced adults to hide that shit.
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u/82772910 26d ago
Misuse of the frog meme. It’s not supposed to be cringy bad news lol!
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u/jd_maybe 26d ago
I think it’s good news. It’s like a light at the end of a tunnel.
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u/82772910 25d ago
Oh well then you used the meme correctly. My mistake.
Anyway, do you mean you think that you’ll eventually hook up with her romantically? I think youve been friend zoned bro. Sorry.
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u/jd_maybe 25d ago
We’ve hooked up before, didn’t work out
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u/82772910 20d ago
Wait so then what is the light at the end of the tunnel leading to if not hooking up and being in a romantic relationship with this woman?
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u/De5perad0 susan made me do it 26d ago
Hide the pain Harold? How did you get out of your cell!
Back in you go!
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u/Desert_Centipede 26d ago
I have some female friends and i mostly stay away from them, reason -> they are not as funny as my goofy male friends
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u/OperatorJolly 26d ago
Do it for the Kid, not for her.
You don't have to be the Kids dad or any shit like that, but if they get a cool older dude to hang out with for a few hours every couple of weeks, it might be a positive impact in their life. Especially when their mother is out spreading it.
Also if there's any feelings for this woman, then these actions should end it. Respect yourself more.
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u/KeepingDankMemesDank Hello dankness my old friend 26d ago
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