r/discgolf 22d ago

Discussion Partner broke up with me to focus on disc golf

We had been together for 3+ years. About a year and half ago he got into disc golf, he introduced me to the game and I enjoy it. I wouldn’t always play the whole course with him but I liked walking with him while he played and was always encouraging when he talked about it. Now he has gotten very serious about disc golf and decided to pursue it professionally, I was supportive of that, whatever. He’s determined that he’ll need to spend most of his free time practicing so he won’t have time for a relationship anymore. We had a few other solvable issues, and otherwise a solid relationship, but his main reasoning was disc golf.

With that, I have a few questions;

How likely is he to make it to the professional level?

Are the discs laced with something?

and most importantly, Wtf?

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u/Salty_Holiday_495 22d ago

He found an excuse 

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u/CodeNameCobra666 22d ago

“An” excuse, not a great one. Any disc-golfer worth a shit, knows they’ll need a cart pusher. Just ask Jerm.

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u/SpikeHyzerberg FLAIR 22d ago

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u/jaspingrobus We are the BERG, resistance is futile 22d ago

One world championship and she already blessed us with one of the best disc golf gifs

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u/SpikeHyzerberg FLAIR 22d ago

the other one I made today.

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u/slotrod 21d ago

This will probably be a good representation of how the dudes pro career will go.

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u/blbeach33 21d ago

What!? How have I never seen this??

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u/Kindof5150 21d ago

When the Geese said, " Somebody meme that!", they meant it.

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u/the_honest_asshole 22d ago

Yeah,  as someone in a similar situation, its my zen.  We are working on it, and I'd be on the course three times a week regardless. But I use the walks through the woods to slowly process stuff in a calmer enviorment.   25 years in, shit happens, disc golf soothes the soul.  Op, unfortunately was past the breaking point, anything but home..... you nailed it here I believe. Anything but home mentality. 

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u/yoloxolo Sol Jaboi ☀️ 22d ago

Start dating a better pro than him, problem solved. I hear Gannon is single.

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u/Macktologist I should have started at a younger age. 22d ago

That would actually be pretty funny. Dude gets done with his early weekend double 18, comes home to his quiet little place where nobody else tells him what to do, flips on a tournament because he's so into DG he definitely has his DGN subscription, and there she is. His ex-gf caddying for Nikko.

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u/Extension-Neat-8757 22d ago

Don’t insult her by suggesting she’d even consider Nikko 🤣

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u/Macktologist I should have started at a younger age. 21d ago

Ha! I know but I felt what better person to really get under the ex bf’s skin.

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u/kiffallen 22d ago

Unless she's into delayed gratification... Never know, bwaaaahahahaha

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u/slotrod 21d ago

Follow his tournaments and caddy for anyone on his card. Stare until his soul on every throw, every putt.

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u/Mysterious_Heat_1340 21d ago

Just start playing on your own, play a couple tourneys, you'll find a pro that can handle dating a woman while playing disc. It's not that hard

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u/IsaacSam98 Weird Discs Fly Better 22d ago

Oh man that guy is probably on r/discgolf too lol

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u/nvjck Maritime Law Says OB - Milwaukee 22d ago

Complaining about bag posts and reposting the Japanese pizza in the microwave video.

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u/Kellan_OConnor Blue Discs Fly Worse Than Pink Discs 22d ago

Or the bear with sliced cheese: "Sick putt!"

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u/YallNeedDrugsOrJesus 22d ago

Nothing wrong with complaining about bag posts.

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u/Digger_Pine 21d ago

Especially when it's "Check out my bag" and it's just a picture of some discs on the carpet.

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u/n1rvous 🦌 M I L W A U K E E 🦌 22d ago

Well shit now I wanna see that video again

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u/mac754 22d ago

I hope he reads this.

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u/dickiefrisbee 22d ago

One might argue he’s u/discgolffanatic but that dude has clearly never had a girlfriend

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u/DiscGolfFanatic I've played 323 rounds in 2025! 22d ago

Disc golf is my mistress.

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u/dickiefrisbee 22d ago

You’re a good sport

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u/SharpedHisTooths 21d ago

Except he's not real.

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u/microcrave 21d ago

I don’t think he really uses reddit so I doubt he will see this

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u/patronizingperv 22d ago

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u/LtwoK 22d ago

Outjerked again

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u/titraniumthestrong 22d ago

Was looking for this comment

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u/Freejak33 22d ago

as the saying goes, you probably dodged a bullet.

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u/jwillo_88 22d ago

Op dodged a “disc”, probably

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u/botejohn 22d ago

Dodged a halo star destroyer

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u/maladroit_marmot 22d ago

Ironically a disc more stable than the ex

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u/Ballandchains97 22d ago

Op's ex probably throws bullets as his throwing putter

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u/Freejak33 22d ago

Honestly Mint apex bullets are money

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u/patruck87 22d ago

"If you can dodge a disc, you can dodge a bullet"

You didn't fuck up, your partner used that as an excuse

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u/archbido 22d ago

Honestly they’re probably just using disc golf as an excuse. Break ups hurt, but you’ll be alright, I promise.

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u/Drivingintodisco 22d ago

Good comment. To add op, if you enjoyed playing and enjoy playing don’t give it up!

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u/jameson8016 22d ago

Better yet, go pro and whoop him in the tournament. Wear a fake moustache and tear it off as he watches them hand you whatever weird sculpture they use as a trophy next time. Lol

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u/OneCallSystem 22d ago edited 22d ago

This is the answer. Its def super lame, but its an excuse. I myself have conjured up bullshit to get out of relationships to in the past.

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u/millionsofmonkeys 22d ago

Sounds like a real Costanza

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u/Kirk712 22d ago

I wouldn't assume that without knowing them or their relationship. There are a lot of delusional kids and young adults who think they're going to go pro. I see it in tournaments all the time. If he's of the dating age, and just started disc golf a year ago, it's not gonna happen. It's a pipe dream

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u/CryptographerFree305 22d ago

No, I’ve seen a few marriages and relationships end when the man uses disc golf as an escape he otherwise wouldn’t have.

Sureeee, there are reasons one needs to have in order to end a relationship, but the cut and dry part of it is: he wants to play disc golf more than he wants to be around you.

There’s no real middle line, there. That’s the end of it .

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u/shepilepsy53 22d ago

Go be with someone who prioritizes you. Better now than after marriage and kids!

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u/Macktologist I should have started at a younger age. 22d ago

Still hurts to be dumped. Be rejected, etc. Even good, solid advice can be hard to accept when you just feel abandoned.

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u/lame_sauce9 22d ago

I hope this is a satire post lol. But to answer your questions:

1) Technically anyone can sign up for MPO, but if we're talking about the touring professionals that he watches on YouTube, his likelihood of going from 850 rated to 1020+ and top 0.01%, lol no.

2) Discs are laced with crack

3) Please keep tabs on him and in the off chance that he does become a touring pro, we need to know who this dingus is

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u/GregEgg4President 22d ago

Also this is the plot of the movie Whiplash

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u/durkaflurkaflame TURBO!!!!!! 22d ago

God I love crack

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u/ok-kitty 22d ago

I once had a guy break up with me because I wasn't the type of person to do field work 🤷🏻‍♀️ LOL. It was hard at the time but now I can laugh at it haha. We dodged a bullet.

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u/AsvpLovin #97839 | Central IA 22d ago

One time I fell hard for a girl because she was the type to want to do field work. She left me to "help her ex thru his DUI issues" 🙃 the good thing is frisbees always there whether your single or in a shitty relationship lol

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u/Holls867 22d ago

I’m not sure when my shoulder is going to give out, so I’m not wasting any shots on field work lol

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u/KingdomCulture 22d ago

I get to play twice a week.

Hmmm, should I play casual rounds with the homies, or do fieldwork?

You know what wins every time.

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u/ThePythagoreonSerum 22d ago

I live 3 min from a park with a field big enough for field work, so on summer nights when I get an hour of free time before the sun goes down I grab the dog and run over. Doesn’t interfere with my usual play time. Just squeezes in another 100+ throws a week. It’s great.

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u/SeasonalBlackout Proxy > Envy 21d ago

Not to mention it's fun to throw discs as hard as you can and not have to worry about losing them. Fun to see how far you can throw. Fun to practice flexing a disc and watch the entire flight without it kicking off a tree. Practice shots you don't dare throw on the course, etc.. I think calling it field 'work' is a disservice to the experience. I enjoy it.

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u/ThePythagoreonSerum 21d ago

100%

I love field “work”

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u/Stokkesokning 22d ago

I'm with you on that

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u/Gnash_D_Lord 22d ago

I'm 40. I had never done field work until last Friday morning.

Figured I only got so many drives left so I might as well make 'em look good(also my form isnt too bad but it has room for improvement for sure)

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u/Expensive-Basket-862 22d ago

That’s not why they broke up with you. Also, op is trolling and yall eating it up lol

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u/Drift_Marlo 22d ago

Take the W

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u/mac754 22d ago

So she’s single?

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u/ExternalHighlight871 22d ago

buddy heard all he needed to hear😭😂

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u/mac754 22d ago

I’m on it

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u/Macktologist I should have started at a younger age. 22d ago

Go get 'em brother!

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u/gatsby712 22d ago

Plays disc golf too.

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u/turkeeeeyyyyyy 22d ago

Yeah I’ve been looking for one these.

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u/murrtrip 22d ago

I mean there might’ve been other reasons to break up. Idk.

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u/GloryGloryManUnited6 Discgolf 21d ago

I can fix her!

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u/GratefuLdPhisH 22d ago

Honestly this happened to me but in reverse, I started dating somebody and though I really liked them I realized after about 6 months that most of the time I would rather play disc golf and have been perfectly happy single ever since.

No plans on becoming Pro though I suck

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u/TPGDnelloR 22d ago

When I took exercise physiology in college, the first thing our professor (a renowned exercise physiologist that studied professional athletes and how their performance changes at altitude) told us was that “if you were born to be a professional athlete, you’d know. You’ll never train enough to be a professional athlete without having the genetics to be one and if you had them, you’d know and so would everyone else.” It was bleak but also a hard truth a lot of 20-something yr olds could use.

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u/Mountain___Goat 22d ago

In some sports that’s true… but there are plenty of obscure and less “athletic” sports that somebody with normal genes could reach a pro level at.

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u/Macktologist I should have started at a younger age. 22d ago

DG is definitely one of them.

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u/_faithtrustpixiedust 22d ago

Case in point: World Champion Ohn Scoggins. She is not the most athletic and can’t throw elite distances, but she throws 100 practice putts/day and no where within C1/2 is safe from her. That’s a practice thing, not a genetic thing

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u/S_TL2 22d ago

If you were ever going to get good, you’d already be good. 

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u/TPGDnelloR 21d ago

Thanks you sound like my mom

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u/toocleverbyhalf 22d ago

Sorry you’re going through that. Mental illness is hard to diagnose over the internet, but unless your partner is under 30 years old and rated very highly already, they will be very unlikely to become a touring pro disc golfer. Consider this a bullet dodged, and move on with your life, IMO.

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u/microcrave 22d ago

He is under 30 and his rating is around 850

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u/juraf_graff 22d ago

Big dog on the loose

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u/Tall_Tie1777 22d ago

You definitely dodged a bullet. I’m 41, full time job and kids in school and I’m 860 rated. I play once a week. He’s gonna need every last second of free time to make it big.

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u/Macktologist I should have started at a younger age. 22d ago

Hence, the breakup perhaps. Still think there's more to it (assuming it's a real story). I have to imagine he felt obligated to spend time with her, which one should with their SO, and whether she gave him shit about playing all the time or not, he decided he didn't want to split that commitment. My guess is he spent enough time away and enjoyed himself more when playing than when in her company and used it as an excuse.

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u/Tasty-Conclusion2492 22d ago

You seem like a good partner and your post is funny even though youre dealing with a sad situation. You'll find someone that deserves you. Your ex is big time delusional; there are teenagers pushing 1000 rated; if this is truly why he's breaking up he will come to terms with the reality of his situation sooner than later 

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u/notthesethings 22d ago

A 13 year old just came to my local course and won MA1 with a 1002 rated round.

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u/Macktologist I should have started at a younger age. 22d ago

A 15 year old almost just won worlds. Surprisingly, the 13 year old story on your local course doesn't surprise me.

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u/jiwaburst 21d ago

My 15yo son is 995 rated. I have no doubt he will become a 1025 rated player. We still have no idea if he will be able to make it on tour. It's a very high bar.

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u/CovertMonkey 22d ago

I'm over 40 and have a full time job and I'm over 900 rated. You dodged a huge bullet

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u/mrsims2007 22d ago

This. I’m 57 and rated 899

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u/Atxlvr 22d ago

im 420 and rated 6969

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u/mrsims2007 22d ago

How much does your rating improve each time you draw a disc charger?

/jk

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u/Ostrichboy21 22d ago

🤣😂🤣 he’s not going pro lol

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u/LaughDesperate1787 22d ago

850 is not gonna make it without serious improvement, and being perfectly consistent.

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u/itsTickleMeHellmo 22d ago

Im 28, 895 rated, and would never dream of going pro. I have a buddy whos 950 rated and already plays in MPO and I don’t think he has expectations of making it to the pro tour, it’s just a completely different level. Your ex is either stupid, delusional, or a liar, possibly a mix of all 3.

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u/blackteeshirt6 22d ago

850!?!?!?

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u/Neat_On_The_Rocks 22d ago

850 is not terrible. But he will never be pro, extremely extremely unlikely.

Nowadays, getting started even at 22 is pretty damn late. We’ve got 15 year olds knocking on the door of the pros.

No matter how you slice it, this is probably for the best in the long run for you.

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u/AttackMacAgain 22d ago

There is nothing wrong with an 850 rating. With that being said if someone is playing MA3 and breaking up with someone with expectations that they are going pro, they are delusional.

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u/Macktologist I should have started at a younger age. 22d ago

"The Breaker" Super understable.

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u/stowgood 22d ago

Haha that's the absolute best. He's only like 50 rated higher than me and I got beat by a (admittedly very good) 12 year old in a tournament this summer. This can't be real haha

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u/linkin1992 22d ago

Honestly under 20 probably a better reference age these days.

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u/KAIMI01 22d ago

He’s over 30 and is rated at 850? He’s a solid MA4 player. He will undoubtedly be a pro by NEVER. Forget about him he sounds like a jerk

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u/SharpedHisTooths 21d ago

They said he's under 30 but it doesn't matter. I played my first rated round after I had been in the sport for a year and I started at 863. No offense to anyone out there but 850 is not good.

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u/hymen_destroyer 22d ago

He didn't break up with you to focus on disc golf.

He broke up with you because he doesn't want to be in a relationship with you for whatever reason. That was his excuse.

It's a childish thing to do, I'm hoping you guys are in your early 20s where that sort of behavior wouldn't be particularly out of place, and at least he had the "courtesy" to fabricate an excuse rather than just ghost you or do something more dramatic.

At least it's "only" 3 years of your life....all told I've spent about a decade in various relationships that either went nowhere or ended in disaster

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u/Stopbreakindown 22d ago

RIP your dm inbox

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u/username617508 Turbo-putts Firebirds 22d ago

"We are discin' buds"

"You ain't discing up there"

"I CAN'T QUIT YOU!"

Brokeback Throwdown the Mountain in theaters soon....

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u/UknownSk8er 22d ago

BEST. COMMENT. OF. THE. NIGHT. Why this doesn’t have all the upvotes, is beyond me….but here, please, take mine as a show of gratitude 🙏

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u/username617508 Turbo-putts Firebirds 22d ago

Hahahha I appreciate you!

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u/BoomerBarnes 22d ago

How is this not a post on the other sub. This is bonkers

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u/Ospov 22d ago

Date the guy that consistently beats him in local tournaments.

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u/roscoesdad 22d ago

It’s totally an excuse to avoid a long term relationship.

To attempt to make light of the situation.

This reminds me of that old joke.

What do you call a single musician?

Homeless

There are 10s of dollars in disc golf. 10s

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u/PsyferRL Would rather be GC2 at Disc Golf 22d ago

How likely is he to make it to the professional level?

Highly unlikely. More likely than going pro in a more well-established sport, but still highly unlikely.

Are the discs laced with something?

Yep. Not sure what with, though. Methamphetafentapsiloketacodone acid or something.

and most importantly, Wtf?

If this is genuinely true, I'm both sorry but also happy for you that you clearly dodged a bullet. Or he's lying and too wimpy to admit that he wanted out of the relationship, in which case you still dodged a bullet.

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u/blackteeshirt6 22d ago

Very unlikely.

Microplastics.

He is a dumb loser, congratulations.

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u/Costcornucopia 22d ago edited 22d ago

Don't worry, you'll get a ton of late night texts saying "miss you" when they're sleeping in their honda accord in bum fuck nowhere eating a gas station burrito.

If you do want him to succeed, though, as well as have some grievances to air out, create a YouTube channel dishing all the dirt from your relationship. It may make him more famous (money) and could be cathartic for you.

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u/microcrave 22d ago

I’m gonna keep this image in the back of my mind when I’m thinking about it. It is absolutely killing me, hysterical, thank you

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u/Actually_i_like_dogs 22d ago

Frisbees are always there for us.

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u/dzedajev Belgrade Disc Golf Course (Serbia) 22d ago

I mean, me and my friends often have disagreements with out partners but that’s because we literally always want to hang out and play dg together, not because we want to go pro lol. Also, we would love if out partners would hang with us on the course with us even if they didn’t want to play all the time so this is really his loss.

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u/KingdomCulture 22d ago

If he ain’t smoking league every week, Then he’s just looking for an exit, And blamed frisbees for his inability to face conflict.

Every pro needs a good caddie, and I guess he made his choice.

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u/Nochruto 22d ago

You should date a current tour player just show him whats up…. I heard the Gannon is single 😂

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u/odarol 22d ago

Professional level as is win some money at a tournament? Reasonably likely. As in profit from playing? Very unlikely.

The discs aren’t laced, but playing is addictive.

As for WTF, way too little info here, but it seems like a b.s. scapegoat for ending a relationship.

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u/Almith_89 22d ago

"How likely is he to make it to the professional level?" Oh honey, the guys doing you a favor. Just call it.

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u/QbiinZ 22d ago

I would disagree on the unlikelihood of going pro. I don’t think it’s a giant barrier for playing in MPO, but whether you’re competitive at your local B/C tiers or on the pro tour are 2 completely different scenarios.

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u/KingdomCulture 22d ago

If you ain’t winning regional a-tiers, you shouldn’t be “investing” in a transit van, bro.

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u/kehpeli 22d ago

Yup, grinding a 1000 rating is possible for most, you just need to pick your tournaments wisely, have 100m golf drive and consistent 90%+ putt in C1 which is enough for local pro status. There is a lot of those type of players. Pushing yourself into touring pro status is a different mountain to climb, you need to have solid mental abilities along with many other skills.

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u/JuliusSeizuresalad 22d ago

Just like many men before him you have to accept that he’s attracted to disc. It’s so alluring is a fiscal beast but enticing none the less

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u/EVANakaMLG 22d ago

I cannot believe Bodanza would do this!

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u/reverbex 22d ago

850ish is where I was at after a year and in all sincerity… I know I have nowhere near the talent to be pro. In sports, it’s easy to underestimate how far you are from the next level up after a certain point. In tennis, a good high school player will get 6-0 6-0ed by a good D2 player who will get 6-0 6-0ed by a good D1 player who will get 6-0 6-0ed by the 1000th ranked player in the world who will get 6-0 6-0ed by the 100th ranked player in the game who will get 6-1 6-2ed by the first player in the world. To be a good high school player and think that you’re close to being pro or could be pro is a drastic error in judgment. The disc golf equivalent to a good high school player is 850. Not great, just good. Don’t want to crush dreams here but like if you’ve been playing for a year or so with real focus and you aren’t like 950 at least… and your ratings history curve isn’t on a meteoric tear like I’m talking last month was 930 previous was 910 the month before was 890… you probably aren’t making it. The pros that can make a living doing this as their main job are at least like 1020 rated and going from 1000 to 1020 is about 10 times harder than going from 850 to 1000.

TLDR either the dude is completely delusional in which case bullet dodged or the dude just needed any excuse whatsoever to end things and not look back in which case bullet dodged. Congrats, you’ve managed to pull a Matrix and didn’t even move. Impressive.

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u/Rustycake 22d ago

Lmao he def read this and is regretting it.

OP please update us when you get that text. This sounds like youth.

But hey you know what I hope he makes it and you find someone who wont throw you to the side for their selfish gain.

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u/Davwader 22d ago

now you can also focus on your discgolf career and drown his ass in future competitions.

I'm here for that pettyrevenge.

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u/Johnsonvillebraj 21d ago

Real “Whiplash” situation we’ve got here

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u/FreudianNip-Slip 22d ago

I had to triple check my much subreddit I was on. I really thought this was a disc golf circle jerk shit post

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u/thesaganator Colorado! 22d ago

Is his name Bradley?

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u/Prestigious-Bike-593 22d ago

IE, It's not you it's me. Find a disc golfer that's not full of shit.

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u/TDFknFartBalloon 22d ago

Honestly... I'd blame the movie Whiplash (2014).

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u/hesstrucksback 22d ago

Ever heard of Pickleball Paul over on r/fundiesnarkuncensored?

Essentially a real godly guy (/s) with a wife and kids who is pursuing professional pickleball in a hilarious way.

You dodged a real dork, plenty of other great people to play with if you enjoyed the sport and excuse to be in the woods/nature somewhere! It's a really fun way to see the places you travel.

You didn't give your ages but unless you are both in high school this is someone you love to see walk out of your life.

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u/PopularTask2020 22d ago

Outjerked for sure

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u/RocktoberBlood Can't Putt 22d ago

Disc golf is like pro-skateboarding, if you're not destined to go pro at a young age you're not going pro. Going pro also doesn't mean you're to be magically rich. Only the top 1% get that payday. It's a nomadic lifestyle and you gotta learn to love ramen noodles and how to fix your van when it breaks down.

I also want to add, your social media presence/Youtube channel ain't gonna take off. You might get a video that hits 5k views here and there, but nobody cares.

Is disc golf addicting? Fuck yea it is. When you finally go under par at an averagely difficult course it's euphoric. But try playing a B-tier in MPO and thinking you're good when you're a solid MA3 player.

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u/bustaone 22d ago

Dude is tripping. Yeah, not worth your bother.

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u/BuffaloFart 22d ago

Drop his current PDGA rating and we will let ya know

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u/deaddiode 22d ago

My son's first grade teacher bailed on his class about a month before the end of the year and left them a video saying he was going to spend his time getting better at disc golf. I love the sport but man, what a pos. All that to say I can relate.

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u/chaunie-chaunie 22d ago

How likely is he to make it on the professional level? What's his name? Wait....Is your name Grace?

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u/OrangePlatypus81 21d ago

More than likely, hate to say it, but you should move on. It’s an excuse. Sorry. It sucks. But we make time for the people we love, and they in turn enrich us and make life worth living. If he can’t see that, then he doesn’t value you. Sorry.

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u/Tony_Misfit 21d ago edited 21d ago

Hopeium, honestly you would have a better chance of going pro than he would. The mpo division is so deep now. It's going to be quite the uphill battle for him to be competitive on that level

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u/cubesncubes 21d ago

He's unlikely to make a good living being a pro disc golfer.

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u/Zealousideal_Dig_260 21d ago

He’s using it as an excuse. If he wanted to make it work he would. He’s not going to spend all of his free time practicing. The body needs breaks, and having a supportive partner is a game changer.

Also going professional is as easy as signing up as a pro…making a living from it is wayyy harder. Not many people can do it, and even less will. I’d say in the end it’s his loss though.

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u/Imnotsureanymore8 22d ago

Sounds like he took the coward’s way out. He did you a favor. Sorry.

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u/--GhostMutt-- 22d ago

Plenty of professional athlete’s have partners. Plenty of them had partners as they were coming up.

Im not saying that road isn’t hard on relationships but if he wanted to keep dating you he would make it happen.

What you are dealing with here is a coward. He can’t just come out and say that he doesn’t want to continue the relationship while pursuing this goal. It’s not like he wouldn’t be valid to say he doesn’t want to be in a relationship while pursuing this goal - but to essentially use the pursuit as his out, that’s a pretty cowardly move.

It probably doesn’t make it feel any better, only time will do that, but I think you dodged a bullet. No sense throwing good money after bad.

And if it makes you feel any better, statistically he won’t make it as a pro, because most people don’t🤷🏻‍♂️

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u/Signal_Unit7085 22d ago

As someone who pursued becoming a professional athlete in a different sport I may be able to give you some perspective.

You have to be willing and will eventually have to sacrifice everything and everyone in your life. Every other person and aspect of life will become secondary unless they are a source of money to feed your pursuit. So as a man who dated during that time in my life it was always harder for the women to rationalize what happened because they sis not understand that my North Star was that sport and nothing else. So in that regard you are better off without him unless you like being second fiddle.

Any sport as a pro has a low likelihood of occurrence but with disc golf it is significantly higher for two reasons. 1- far less competition, far less athleticism in the sport. That said, there’s such little money in the sport that being pro just means you’re on the road a broke.

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u/SubstantialAd4500 22d ago

I prioritized a sport in throughout my 20s...a dumb one where there was never gonna be any money in it even if I had become seriously good at it. Careers, partners, friends... All took a backseat. All that's left now are injuries, stories, and regrets. Although all those roads did lead me to who I'm with now and plan to be with for good.

But I understand the drive and willingness to focus on one goal and sacrifice everything for it. It hurts a lot of ppl on the way tho and doesn't work out most of the time like we hope.

To add... Now that disc golf is my main sport/hobby, it's still not even top 3 on my priority list. I can live with just having fun with it and not being great at it. And I can live without it. Wouldn't want to find out what life is like without my almost fiance tho.

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u/ChickenChokerChuck 22d ago

pretty new account, deletes all previous posts and comments. r/thathappened partner

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u/microcrave 22d ago

I wish I were joking. I’m in some local subreddits and didn’t want to out myself. Although, this is a pretty specific situation

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u/TURBO141 22d ago

850!!!! Hahahaha jeez louise! 🤣 Definitely, he would get smoked by MA40 old guys like me in Ontario tournaments. You'll never be a touring pro give it up pal! 💯😂😂😂😂😂

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u/TonightsWhiteKnight 22d ago

So you're saying you're single and like disc golf?

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u/Tall_Candidate_686 22d ago

He did you a huge favor. Move on. You seem like a winner. Him? Not so much.

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u/Thrillpickle 22d ago

You should become a professional and completely out do him.

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u/Kowalvandal 22d ago

Hate to say it, but Gannon is now married to the game, sorry for your loss.

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u/ExplanationShoddy233 22d ago

This had nothing to do with disc golf. Trust me.

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u/Anidmountd 22d ago

You can only practice so much in a day before fatigue and/or injury risk just makes it not worth it. My dad taught me early when I was doing archery practice for bow hunting. When you are tired and making silly mistakes, it's time to call it for the day. If you do bad form often enough because of fatigue it will set in and could stick.

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u/themightycfresh 22d ago

Dude was probably one of those MA3 guys that acted like they were Paul McBeth lol

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u/RaZoR_22 22d ago

Have you seen whiplash?

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u/thatjerkatwork 22d ago

You are better off Ms.

Good riddance to a man who will miss so many events, or begrudgingly go along with you only to resent that he is not playing!

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u/alextastic 22d ago

I highly doubt disc golf was actually the real true reason, but the fact they used it as if it was tells me you're probably better off without them. Hang in there.

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u/Zenphony 21d ago

A. He won’t be professional and make much money. Margins are paper thin, guys making it have been playing for many years.

B. Flimsy excuse to leave, you don’t need to be there while he plays, if there’s a commitment, time apart is as healthy as together time.

C. You dodged a bullet, be free!

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u/Yodzilla 21d ago

Your only recourse is to start playing more yourself and always strive to be better than him.

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u/Charming-Rooster7462 21d ago

thats Bullshit he could have stayed in the relationship. Disc golfing pro wise shouldn’t be that demanding. Some of the pros are married with kids. I tell you what thats his loss because its hard to find a girlfriend that would come out and support you playing the game while spending time with her. Sounds like he is gonna be one lonely disc golfer.

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u/BowTYz 21d ago

What are your ages? If he is pursuing DG professionally I assume it is younger. Young people do things like this. Watch him realize DG is not a good profession but a fun challenge against others and come crawling back. At that point you will have already moved on. The end.

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u/Pburress017 21d ago

.000000001% he can go pro. He's just a douche who found an excuse

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u/frisbeesling3r 20d ago

The MPO field is extremely competitive and the level of play is insanely high, chances are he’s not making it 😂 Just sit back and laugh I guess

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u/SteelBeamDreamTeam 22d ago

How tall is he? Is he athletic? Does he have the drive and focus? Does he have elite disc golf physical traits? If no to all these, he could probably become a decent regional pro, and compete for cash in local and state tournaments.

If he’s tall, and has elite physical traits, he probably would be higher rated already. Definitely a pipe dream.

Has he even competed in any tournaments? Talked to people who are actually good at the sport?

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u/microcrave 22d ago

He would tell you he’s 6 foot. He has competed in tournaments and recently played a round with a world champion. Was really happy for him! lol. He undoubtedly has the focus for it

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u/Dwarfzombi 22d ago

Is he autistic? That seems like an autistic thing to do. If not, then he is probably lying and wanted out for other reasons.

Edit: now that I think about those are the only two options. People don't ever give the actual reason for the breakup unless they are autistic... Sorry for your break up. I wouldn't think too much about it. Just try to find a guy who's already a pro.

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u/TheFoolsDayShow 22d ago

Hahaha yeah she likes disc golf so she can just put that on her dating profile and start dating the highest rated mpo local player to shove it in her 850 rated ex’s face.

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u/microcrave 22d ago

He very well could be, though more likely ADHD. He has a tendency to pick up different hobbies for a bit and then drop them for another one. The most recent example being me lol. He’s stuck with disc golf for longer than anything though and seems rather passionate about it

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u/GeneralBurg 22d ago

How good is he? Like most people said though you’re probably better off in the end even though it sucks now

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u/B-Loni 22d ago

The discs are definitely laced with something. Idk what it is, but whenever I butcher a shot, I yell “Fuckin b*tch!” Like I’m yelling at the wife….

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u/Appropriate_Car4999 22d ago

He goofed up, he coulda had a baddie caddie. That’s every disc golfers dream

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u/iam_Erin_iam 22d ago

He found a girl who plays with him.

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u/CCShorty 22d ago

Sounds like a BS reason unless he is delusional. If the later is the case, you'll be better off without him. It's hard to grind it out on the road. Many give it a go for a year or two and either can't earn enough to sustain themselves or just get burnt out on the life. If you like disc golf, keep playing and I'm sure you'll meet a great guy soon. You'll be a rare commodity in the disc golf world.

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u/BillyJackO WWJCD? ATX 22d ago

This is so fucking funny

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u/woodenhand Aced in 2015 22d ago

You're a lucky guy to get out

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u/Reasonable-Summer-42 22d ago

Shouldn't this be in circlejerk?

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u/joobtastic 22d ago

God i hope this is real. This is some copypasta shit.

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u/Complete-Tradition35 22d ago

Well, what's his age and initials just in case he does make it?

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u/Particular_Watch_612 22d ago

I was supportive of that, whatever.

Sure you were.

You relationship was not as solid as you thought. Realize that it wasn't and move on.

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u/DiscCheese understable 22d ago

Are you single? /s

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u/EricTheNerd2 22d ago

Gotta be trolling...

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u/Iread420 22d ago

My next post on reddit is him asking how to improve his throw😂

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u/Lou_Garoup 22d ago

“And most importantly, wtf”

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u/Mcbolsky Sell me your Rives 22d ago

What a beast

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u/Soulglow303 22d ago

He probably pretty good too

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u/zekepq 22d ago

So it’s that scene from whiplash? Yeah, his loss man.