r/exredpill • u/Civil_Patience8075 • Aug 05 '25

Advice - girlfriend laughing at manhood

I was deep into TRP for many years. Now I’m in the first long term relationship I’ve been in in many years, and things are great between us.

Sex is good. I got into this mindframe during TRP where I assumed every woman was lying, and my “power” was in being desired - which meant breadcrumbing and acting like I didn’t care about them. Now I’m intimate with my girlfriend on a regular basis, I’m constantly in my head assuming she would rather be with someone else.

In regards to this incident - some background. I’m about average length, 5.5”. I truly never wanted my girlfriend to see me soft as it’s pretty unflattering. She started this “bit” where she leans over while I’m peeing and tried to get a glance of my flaccid dick. I’d always avoid her and hide it, which became funny but I truly didn’t want her to see me soft.

A couple months in I decided “fuck it” and peed while we were in the bathroom without hiding it. She was brushing her teeth and looked up from the sink in the mirror and my dick was pretty much right in front of her face. She started laughing for a few seconds, bent over to spit out her toothpaste then came back up and stared at my manhood again before laughing out loud once more. I got pissed off but hid it until a few minutes later we were in the kitchen. I told her I was pissed off she did that and she said something like “I couldn’t help it it looked so cute hanging out of your pants. And the situation we were in was just funny with me staring right at it.”

I couldn’t sleep that night lying next to her. I brought it up the next day and she apologized saying she should know better and shouldn’t have done that. This was months ago and it’s stuck with me. I can’t really talk to anyone of my friends about this. So looking for reassurance and how to stop thinking about this

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u/BackBae Aug 05 '25

It’s pretty gross that you made it clear you didn’t want her to see you soft and she kept trying to do it anyways! That’s not funny. 

But, as other people have said, you know what is funny? Dicks. They’re a weird organ and like other people in the thread have point out, she was likely giggling because dicks are just weird, especially if you don’t have your own so you’re not used to them. 

Still, and I can’t stress this enough, not cool she was doing this as a bit. Good on you for telling her it hurt you and good on her for apologizing!

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u/Trepptopus Aug 06 '25

It's not that gross in the context of sharing a bathroom. There's levels to relationships and once you're at the level OPs in with his GF it's really weird to be like "you can only see my dick when it's hard" because they use the bathroom together. They are at the casual nudity stage of the relationship and OP needs to learn to let go of his sexual insecurities. It's a process. It is good she apologized, like I don't think her peeking was a red flag but if she'd played his feelings about it off as no big deal that would be a red flag.