r/exredpill • u/Civil_Patience8075 • Aug 05 '25

Advice - girlfriend laughing at manhood

I was deep into TRP for many years. Now I’m in the first long term relationship I’ve been in in many years, and things are great between us.

Sex is good. I got into this mindframe during TRP where I assumed every woman was lying, and my “power” was in being desired - which meant breadcrumbing and acting like I didn’t care about them. Now I’m intimate with my girlfriend on a regular basis, I’m constantly in my head assuming she would rather be with someone else.

In regards to this incident - some background. I’m about average length, 5.5”. I truly never wanted my girlfriend to see me soft as it’s pretty unflattering. She started this “bit” where she leans over while I’m peeing and tried to get a glance of my flaccid dick. I’d always avoid her and hide it, which became funny but I truly didn’t want her to see me soft.

A couple months in I decided “fuck it” and peed while we were in the bathroom without hiding it. She was brushing her teeth and looked up from the sink in the mirror and my dick was pretty much right in front of her face. She started laughing for a few seconds, bent over to spit out her toothpaste then came back up and stared at my manhood again before laughing out loud once more. I got pissed off but hid it until a few minutes later we were in the kitchen. I told her I was pissed off she did that and she said something like “I couldn’t help it it looked so cute hanging out of your pants. And the situation we were in was just funny with me staring right at it.”

I couldn’t sleep that night lying next to her. I brought it up the next day and she apologized saying she should know better and shouldn’t have done that. This was months ago and it’s stuck with me. I can’t really talk to anyone of my friends about this. So looking for reassurance and how to stop thinking about this

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u/GoAskAli Aug 05 '25

Women don't care abt what your flaccid dick looks like.

If we like you we think it looks just kind of adorable - and that's a good thing.

Signed,

  • A woman

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u/Civil_Patience8075 Aug 06 '25

This was probably the most effective comment at making me feel better about this situation. I really appreciate you taking the time to read and chime in. I read your comment knowing her heart and I can see her saying/thinking exactly this so I feel like reading this comment especially from a woman, was very healing.

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u/LolliaSabina Aug 06 '25

I'm a woman and can confirm the previous poster is correct. Penises are just funny when they're not hard. I had an ex with a foreskin – one of the only uncircumcised guys I've ever dated – and I used to make it "talk" I found this absolutely hysterical. (He found out somewhat less entertaining)

And for the record, he had a fantastic penis and we had an insane amount of really great sex. So enjoying sex with a guy and finding his penis hilarious are definitely not mutually exclusive.

Also, kudos to you for realizing that this is something that you're struggling with and working on it. You have no freaking idea how rare that is

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u/GoAskAli Aug 09 '25

Hey man I just saw this and I am so happy my comment helped.

My husband was really insecure about his flaccid penis all bc some asshole in the locker room said something insulting to him about it (so stupid).

He finally came around on it after years of me emphatically explaining to him that women know any basic anatomy and I know deep down he believes me now but...man, I'd love to go back in a time machine and slap that guy lol.

I wish you and your girlfriend a lot of love and luck!