Advice - girlfriend laughing at manhood

[u/Civil_Patience8075]

I was deep into TRP for many years. Now I’m in the first long term relationship I’ve been in in many years, and things are great between us.

Sex is good. I got into this mindframe during TRP where I assumed every woman was lying, and my “power” was in being desired - which meant breadcrumbing and acting like I didn’t care about them. Now I’m intimate with my girlfriend on a regular basis, I’m constantly in my head assuming she would rather be with someone else.

In regards to this incident - some background. I’m about average length, 5.5”. I truly never wanted my girlfriend to see me soft as it’s pretty unflattering. She started this “bit” where she leans over while I’m peeing and tried to get a glance of my flaccid dick. I’d always avoid her and hide it, which became funny but I truly didn’t want her to see me soft.

A couple months in I decided “fuck it” and peed while we were in the bathroom without hiding it. She was brushing her teeth and looked up from the sink in the mirror and my dick was pretty much right in front of her face. She started laughing for a few seconds, bent over to spit out her toothpaste then came back up and stared at my manhood again before laughing out loud once more. I got pissed off but hid it until a few minutes later we were in the kitchen. I told her I was pissed off she did that and she said something like “I couldn’t help it it looked so cute hanging out of your pants. And the situation we were in was just funny with me staring right at it.”

I couldn’t sleep that night lying next to her. I brought it up the next day and she apologized saying she should know better and shouldn’t have done that. This was months ago and it’s stuck with me. I can’t really talk to anyone of my friends about this. So looking for reassurance and how to stop thinking about this

[u/Frosty_Coffee6564]

Question to the women here: How would you like it if a guy laughed or made a face at the size of your inner labia when he went down in you for the first time? Would you not advise a woman who didn’t like that to dump the guy who did?

[u/meleyys → u/Frosty_Coffee6564]

Like the other responder said, that's a very different situation. A more analogous situation would be if a woman were doing something nonsexual and her labia were just kind of... flapping about, I guess? In which case, if I were in that situation and my boyfriend laughed, I might be a bit wounded at first, but I'd accept the "it's just funny" explanation.