For reference, I’m like 5’8. I’m in Europe, so most guys are at least 5’10.

I’ve always really loved sports and I played a bunch growing up. However, after transitioning, I’ve felt extremely dysphoric about my height and I often wear height insoles that add like an inch or 2. I can’t wear them for sports due to obvious reasons.

I wanna get over it because I miss sports so bad, but I’m not really sure how. It really hurts your ego going from a “tall” girl to a short guy. 😅

Alright, so basically I’ve been begging to medically transition since 8, but my mom didn’t allow it. Because of that, I went through female puberty and it’s pretty much over I think. Honestly, I can’t be sure though because I swear I’ve seen my hips growing (might be my dysphoria tho). I’m currently 17 (and 4/5 months) and I’m still trying to beg my mom to let me. She told me to wait until 18. Should I keep fighting or just thug it out chat?

Also anyone who started HRT at 18, what was your experience like? Were you able to pass? Were there slight/minimal changes in bone structure? Because I hear that’s still possible from late teens to early twenties.

I'm sorry if it makes you dysphoric but I'm talking about a cis sounding voice, cause I've heard guys who it seems obvious that they are trying to sound like they have a deep voice instead of sounding like it's their natural voice.

I’m 23 and about to have top surgery next week and I’ve been on T for 1.5 years on a low topical dose. I started my transition because I always wanted to be a very androgynous guy (think all the elves in LOTR and Puck from Berserk) and honestly I feel like I have everything i wanted. Deep voice, masculine face, t curls, and more defined muscles. I honestly dislike the body and facial hair but I put up with it since I like the other size effects. My question is do I keep doing my dosage, stop, or do I lower it slightly to maintain? I can’t be sure I won’t want facial hair later on but I also don’t know if I really like it now. I honestly really enjoy having a pretty femme face. I guess I’m also worried that I’m the only one with these goals. Is it weird that I don’t want facial hair? Does that make me less of a man and more in the middle?

After everyone’s input (tysm for your opinions) I’ve decided I’ll just go with laser since I don’t have to worry about balding or anything else and the main thing I don’t like is body hair and maybe facial hair (depending on how it looks when it fully comes in). Tysm for your advice <3

its entirely possible i’m missing something but i feel like i’m doing something wrong. i’m one month on T in two days and i’ve noticed no changes. i understand its puberty and it takes time but i thought i would at least feel different. but i dont? is this normal? is there anything i can do?

I am 18 and I am in a university in India. It would be great if you kept in mind that I live in India while reading this. I had football practice today. I was a latecomer so other beginners had already done a few lessons. I have zero experience with football. They made me the goal keeper as soon as I came in. I didn't even knew I was the goal keeper at first(there was no clearly visible goal post) I did an extremely terrible job. A girl from my batch kept on shouting at me "kick the ball when it comes near". I just couldn't. I don't know why but I failed a lot of times. But I did well in the other practice sessions. But when it came to the penalty kick i just could not do it the same way I could when we practiced in small groups. Maybe because there were a lot of (Mostly older) girls watching me and I was more concentrated on that than the actual practice because I have social anxiety. But all the older girls were really nice and complimented me when I did well.

Because I am always masc presenting and have short hair..I feel worser about this experience than I would have if I was a cis girl. It feels like I have to be good at everything most cis tomboys would be good at just because I am masc presenting. As people think masc presenting= tomboy...and that trans men don't exist. I wish I was just a boy clumsy at sports in their eyes.

I hate the misogyny..I hate it that being girly in some way= inferior or not cool. I hate that some girls compliment my haircut after they think I am a girl after hearing my name( when it's the most basic haircut..and you wouldn't compliment me if you didn't know my name)

It also hurts knowing that you were bullied or ridiculed as a child because you liked sports. And that when you transferred to a all girls' school for higher secondary education, they didn't have P.E or a ground because girls can't do sports according to them. A lot of wasted years and fun all because of misogyny

Btw sorry if you cannot understand my english.

As the title says, is it normal to dysphoria over your eyelashes? For me its one of the things i hate the most and just pisses me off.

I have naturally dark and long eyelashes. Dark enough that i had people asking me if i was wearing mascara already when i was like 10, i have never worn make up (other than nail polish) in my life.

Is it possible to make them lighter? And is that permanent or will i have to redo it every now and then?

Edit: Thank you everyone for your kind comments. It was helpful to read and told me things i didn't know. Though i think i have miscommunicated the actual problem i have. I don't really mind too much about their length just the problem is they are really dark naturally. I dont really know how to describe it so i apologise if this is hard to follow, but you know when people wear make up on their eyes and the bit around it is black. Mine are dark enough that they look like the make up and thats my problem

what it says in the title. two things I've always heard are "the right binder doesn't constrict you and lets you breathe in fully" but also "never exercise in a binder". But what are the risks of exercising in a completely well fitting binder that isn't limiting you at all?

So I've been looking at getting a new binder or two as mine are getting super old and barely bind. The trouble is, I don't like Spectrum ones and they seem to be the most commonly recommended if you're in the UK. Which makes sense given they're a British company. But I have some and they just don't fit right on me. I find they are too long and sit too low, meaning my chest doesn't get flattened properly and instead spills out of the arm holes, and the bottom rolls up as soon as I bend or sit down, which then means I've got a band of increased pressure right around my ribs, which is exactly what you don't want.

Unfortunately the other ones I have that fit better are gc2b and the international store closed down. I was looking at Paxsies as I've got their boxers before, but their binders are quite expensive, as is shipping - it comes to £55-65 for one binder which is a lot. I've been looking for other options and found a few such as Binderme, Wonababi and Wivov which are much more reasonably priced, don't seem too expensive to ship here and seem to get decent reviews from what I can find on YouTube. The trouble is it's hard to judge whether they will be too long and therefore have the same issue as Spectrum.

So I'm wondering if anyone has any experience with binders from these companies or any others that ship to the UK (preferably cheaply lol) and specifically how they fit, how long they are and if they're comfortable! Thanks in advance :)

TW: Eating Disorders

For context, I'm 2 months on T and have struggled with anorexia on and off for years. I'm 5'2 and at my smallest I was 94 lbs (ik it's not very healthy but my goal weight is 100-105).

Since starting T I'm never satisfied no matter what or how much I eat. I'm a bottomless pit. It was fine when I started bc I was about 110lbs so my weight didn't upset me. But now I'm pushing 120 with a little bit of a gut and it's starting to get to me.

I'm really trying not to fall back into old habits and work out more instead but I only do it like once a week bc I lack the willpower to actually get up and do it

I (17M) have been on testosterone for 4 months (5 months on the 23rd.) I hit my first “I can’t hit high notes/higher notes as easily and my falsetto is kinda hard to use” when I was over 2 months. Now (even though I’m passing more) I’m fully at “I can’t hit notes that tenors usually can sing and even belt out and my falsetto is non existent to the point where sound barely even comes out.” My range now is a comfortable G2 to a rough/tension heavy G4. I’m in theater and show choir and this is honestly heartbreaking as I used to have a truly wide range. I knew it was going to change and whatnot but I’ve seen people go on testosterone and be able to belt the notes that I can’t anymore. I started testosterone with about a mezzo range. Around May (I think) I had a terrible cough for about a month and it definitely did damage. My show choir competition season ends in April but we continue to perform for spring concerts and other events that require the national anthem and other songs sung. In the beginning to July, I went to a show choir camp for a week. This meant using my voice for hours on end and we would be excited and scream when we saw the other performances. Since then, I haven’t really used my singing voice to that degree. I have auditions for my school’s production of Sweeney Todd next week and I’m going for Anthony. My director said we could lower the key and lower certain notes if we wanted to. When my new show choir teacher took us each aside to hear our vocal ranges today, he said that worst case scenario, I would kill my voice doing the musical and in turn kill my voice for the show choir competition season (he also said this would most likely not happen.) He then said best case scenario would be that I sound just fine participating in both. I know I shouldn’t expect a miracle to happen, but does anyone have any advice for my situation right now?

(p.s. he mentioned to me using a neti pot, tea with honey and lemon, and trying to talk in the middle of my range and not over using my voice (talking less.) I’m looking for more remedies that has worked for other people to expand their range and what I can do for damage control)

I want something fun, but also something that fucking fits lmfao (Tbh even if they aren’t petite drop yalls fav brands)

One of my classes basically just revolves around the students talking to each other. They immediately asked me to write down my name which I didnt want to do for obvious reasons. I didnt do it and was asked again today and just refused to write it, I dont write and the woman next to me just says "she don't wanna write it" I don't want to write my name because its a female name and I don't want to put a male name on it and out myself as trans when I don't pass. I got so annoyed that they kept asking me to write my name that I just walked out class and left. I do everything I can to try to pass but I cant take testosterone because I have no money and no health insurance and cant start working until summer. So nothing I do does anything. I wear obviously men's clothes and a binder and it does absolutely nothing. I don't wear makeup, I don't have dyed hair and I have medium length like above the shoulder length hair, and I've been called she like 15 in the last 2 weeks and im about to lose my mind. It's gotten to the point where I just feel like dropping out even though I'm doing well because of this. Is this happening to anyone else and can someone explain what I can do to stop being called she over and over?

i (18) just started t today and have never been more excited but ive been wondering how drastic the changes i will experience will be? ive watched countless videos of people’s progress but i feel like most people started way younger than me and im just dreading that my face will never masculinize / mature the way i hope since i look quite young. basically has anyone else started at a similar age to me and if so can you tell me how drastic your changes were and a rough timeline of when they occurred (even though im sure it varies by person) thank you so much!!!

I’ve been diagnosed with dysphoria for four years and transitioning for eight years, so I’m at my breaking point with my chest as it is, I can’t afford top surgery, but I cannot stand seeing the straps of my binders anymore. It’s been making me more dysphoric for some reason the past few days

My sister is going to use her sewing machine to fix my large binder whenever she comes here, she was going to tighten it a bit for me since it’s loose. I don’t know if it would still work without the straps but if it would then I was going to ask her to remove the straps

I really wish gc2b would make a size inbetween medium and large. The medium binder I have is tight but I had to buy one because when I buy the large binders they become loose quickly so it makes my chest not flat anymore. I have both sizes and I only wear the medium one when I’m going to the store for the most part, but I really don’t feel comfortable in either of my binders, it’s either wear the tight one or see a chest bump and be dysphoric the whole time

I wanted to try tape but it doesn’t look wide enough to work for me so I’m trying to find an alternative to both of them

Is there any other alternatives besides binders and tape? If they were a bit smaller I wouldn’t wear anything

(No bra talk, it won’t help)

When I say I’m small, I mean that I’m seriously small. I’m five feet tall on a good day, just over one hundred and ten pounds, and wear a size five shoe in the boys section (I’m a size seven and a half in women’s, and am fine wearing women’s shoes if they’re gender neutral or really cute), and am a large in boys clothes and an extra small in women’s.

The issue I’m having is that I literally cannot wear men’s clothing because they don’t even remotely fit me. I don’t have an issue wearing boys clothing, since we live in a time where kids clothes looks similar to adults if you know where to look. My struggle is that I still feel extremely limited in what I can wear.

I fit in an XS in men’s clothing in certain stores, such as Hollister and American Eagle, but even those shirts are a bit long on my torso.

I know I can’t really ‘solve’ the problem, but have any of you done anything that’s managed to help your self esteem a bit when it comes to the way you present in public? The main thing I’ve heard is to get platform shoes, but with my height, that would still make me under five five.

I'm 17, she's 18. We were both raised by a narcissist mother and a schizoid father.

I told her I'm trans when I was 11-12 years old. She used to be supportive.

Then uh we grew into adolescence and uh she sought validation from others constantly and there was a group of classmates (legal adults btw) who fed her validation and radicalized her into transphobia.

I remember being 15-16 years old, being in a video call with her and her crush (the main one grooming her) and he was saying transphobic shit while she either stayed silent or... agreed

I blocked him a bit after that lmao

I did inherit schizoid traits. It is NOT the full blown disorder, I do not claim to have it. But it led to us in our childhood being in conflict because of her constant validation seeking behaviors and me just being a cold fish (putting it simply).

I remember her crush told her that she has better morals than me, and to not tell me he said that. She bragged about it to me smugly. She was 17. I brought it up once when she was 18 (recently) and she said that she "kind of" did have better morals

All because she feels more? And cause I made mistakes as a 10 YEAR OLD? Mistakes that she still brings up.

My emotions processing system is very different, leading to me always having "psychopath eyes" as a kid.

She's an ultra Born Again Christian now and I opened up about my emotional differences, and she told me that God made me to feel "joy" and to pray that it'll be healed (bruh since when was this an issue? I'm not struggling from these differences, I'm chilling).

Sooo now for the cutting contact

I got my first PROPER binder recently. I always ALWAYS had to make them myself. This one is a little loose but I wore it to the gym and fuckin hell I like it.

I showed her a pic of it, obviously excited about it

She didn't respond. She responded hours later with a Bible verse.

Now for the NIGHT of it.

I told her I did a one arm pushup!

She told me she was told to tell me to "be careful" because of my "XX chromosome muscles."

WTF?!

I told her never to call them that, not to relay messages, and that I'm not even really "biologically female" (I'm intersex lol, I have high as heck testosterone levels to the point of some male pattern thinning starting, passing well, and having bigger muscles (pre t)).

She said she won't say it again. But then she insisted that I am biologically female because of the doctors saying it at birth. And she told me... "Please reconsider your identity as trans"

I sent my last message and blocked her..

It's been almost 2 weeks.

We can guarantee she discussed my assigned gender at birth (female) and my genitals with legal adults.

I'm 17, she's 18.

She was also dealing with some kind of big delusion but srsly I can't do anything about it. Persecutory delusions. She's hours away dude I can't do shit.

Did I do the right thing? Pls tell me I did.

The fact that we made plans... Before this... The fact that she told me I can live with her if I want. Bruh...

Did I do the right thing?

A bit of a long complaint! but I’m pre T, I don't pass, I don’t dress hyper feminine or masculine. I identify as transmasc/Nb. The only accepting type I tend to befriend are cis woman who “overcompensate” my gender. (I don’t tend to befriend cis men so)

It feels very awkward. They constantly feel the need to bring it up, or if I talk about something regarding being afab, they act so shocked. If I mention my period, or my boobs, whatever. They will just act shocked, make jokes like Oh you don’t have boobs (I literally don’t bind), or well you are so androgynous, stop talking about it it’s weirdddd, I can’t imagine you with x or x. Or if I talk about clothes, they’ll comment their opinions on what’s too feminine and “weird/surprising” for me. Once I carried a friend’s purse and she jokingly was like put that down it’s too girly for you! I was just like haha! But she just kept going on about it. They always seem to think this is very supportive behavior, but it makes me uncomfortable.

The uproar if I dare discuss Misogyny and refer to myself as a woman in the discussion. I know I pass in 0 ways that’s just life, so it’s not like they are actually shocked by these things. It feels very superficial. They know I don’t pass, know I’m afab, know I walk around being seen as a woman. Most of them slip up on my pronouns very often (not an issue just saying) Why pretend to be shocked for some kind of joke or supportive bit? The fact I’m trans, and also live my life being seen as woman and don’t pass, are not mutually exclusive and I don’t need them to pretend they are for me.

But I don’t know if I’m just being dramatic? It’s happened so much I’m just wondering if this is a type of humor amongst people my age Im just not getting.

It reminds me of when I identified as a lesbian in high school, and all my friends who were “supportive” also brought it up 24/7 and kept making jokes about how I was into girls. I couldn’t call a man attractive or say I made a new friend who was a girl without them turning into a group of monkeys screeching little jokes about lesbian adjacent things. God forbid I opened a jar or bag for them, I was berated with lewd lesbian jokes about my “strong hands.”

A few times is funny, but 24/7 I feel like need to watch what I say or be swarmed with a bunch of jokes/opinions on my identity and queer stuff these people usually don’t understand. Especially when I’m the only queer/trans person in the room.

The only person I’ve befriended who doesn’t act like this is the one trans friend I have. Which I’m sure is not a shocker

The title says it all, I am dating someone who is the exact same as I was when I was still in my cis egg stage.

We've been dating for about 3 years now, and everything in that time has been good. We've gone on small trips together, I've met her family and she's met mine, and a lot of our interests line up. She's also a very kind and nice person, and her support on a lot of things with my transition journey has been a huge help.

But lately, as talks about future plans have been getting more serious, I've been feeling different.

We met when I still thought I was female, and she told me early in out relationship that she hard identified as a lesbian. I never thought much of it, until I started transitioning.

There is nothing bad I could ever say about her, not will I ever say anything bad about her, and I still really care about her and the bond we made together. Yet, anytime I can mentally see us together or out in public, I can only see the girl version of myself while with her. She reminds me so much of my former self, and us looking so similar in appearance has me feeling some weird secondhand dysphoria. Anytime I see us together, all I can see is every feminine trait that I have or had being put right back in my face.

I've never been with anyone else before, and this relationship is still important to me, but whatever this is makes me feel sick about it, and I don't even know why.

I don't want to have these feelings, and I don't know how my girlfriend would react if I told her about how I felt about it.

Is there anything I can do to set myself straight? Or even what this could mean for the future of me being with her?

I’m on the wait list for an appointment with a doctor to see if I’m eligible to get hrt/what qualifiers I need to get it. And while this is a step in the right direction I’ve heard one too many horror stories about people waiting 5+ years to get an appointment. So I don’t feel satisfied to just wait and see if I get one. Now I just want different routes to get it, specifically online.

I’ve thought about going to planned parenthood but there’s only 2 in my entire state and both are too far away. I want to get it through a trans focused website of some sorts but I’m kinda distrusting of those rn cuz of our current political climate. And I don’t want to end up giving away my personal info about my gender and location to a hate group. I’ve been seeing a lot of advertisements for plume clinic which has been backed by a lot of trans creators I’ve follow but I want to get insight on people’s personal experiences with it.

I also know that there are websites targeted towards desperate trans people that sell snake oil or actively harmful hrt dupes so I wanna avoid those as well.

Basically I need to weed out all the bs websites and try to find ones that can help me achieve my goal of getting hrt as soon as possible. Can I get some advice?