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so i just started a new school 5 days ago and I've been REALLY passing as a cis boy which is incredible, i have cis friends who think im cis too and the male friends i had before that knew i was trans were always like less goofy and a little distant (it could just be the people themselves yk but just what I've noticed for now) and now these new dudes that think im cis are like very goofy and openly chatty with me.

I've also noticed that sitting next to a girl or a woman on the bus makes them more uncomfortable? like i sat next to a girl two days ago on the bus and her legs were like very much to the window of the bus instead of in the middle and she was half leaning against the window and sat like totally still for most of the time (i think thats pretty much what uncomfortable looks like?) and i dunno that didn't feel very good, over all the girls in my new class seem to hesitate a little more before talking to me too... which i get but its also a little scary that they find me more intimidating or whatever

Just got a phone call from my insurance that my gender affirming care will not be covered by my insurance or any plan I can even sort of reasonably afford. What's the damage?

I'm 17, she's 18. We were both raised by a narcissist mother and a schizoid father.

I told her I'm trans when I was 11-12 years old. She used to be supportive.

Then uh we grew into adolescence and uh she sought validation from others constantly and there was a group of classmates (legal adults btw) who fed her validation and radicalized her into transphobia.

I remember being 15-16 years old, being in a video call with her and her crush (the main one grooming her) and he was saying transphobic shit while she either stayed silent or... agreed

I blocked him a bit after that lmao

I did inherit schizoid traits. It is NOT the full blown disorder, I do not claim to have it. But it led to us in our childhood being in conflict because of her constant validation seeking behaviors and me just being a cold fish (putting it simply).

I remember her crush told her that she has better morals than me, and to not tell me he said that. She bragged about it to me smugly. She was 17. I brought it up once when she was 18 (recently) and she said that she "kind of" did have better morals

All because she feels more? And cause I made mistakes as a 10 YEAR OLD? Mistakes that she still brings up.

My emotions processing system is very different, leading to me always having "psychopath eyes" as a kid.

She's an ultra Born Again Christian now and I opened up about my emotional differences, and she told me that God made me to feel "joy" and to pray that it'll be healed (bruh since when was this an issue? I'm not struggling from these differences, I'm chilling).

Sooo now for the cutting contact

I got my first PROPER binder recently. I always ALWAYS had to make them myself. This one is a little loose but I wore it to the gym and fuckin hell I like it.

I showed her a pic of it, obviously excited about it

She didn't respond. She responded hours later with a Bible verse.

Now for the NIGHT of it.

I told her I did a one arm pushup!

She told me she was told to tell me to "be careful" because of my "XX chromosome muscles."

WTF?!

I told her never to call them that, not to relay messages, and that I'm not even really "biologically female" (I'm intersex lol, I have high as heck testosterone levels to the point of some male pattern thinning starting, passing well, and having bigger muscles (pre t)).

She said she won't say it again. But then she insisted that I am biologically female because of the doctors saying it at birth. And she told me... "Please reconsider your identity as trans"

I sent my last message and blocked her..

It's been almost 2 weeks.

We can guarantee she discussed my assigned gender at birth (female) and my genitals with legal adults.

I'm 17, she's 18.

She was also dealing with some kind of big delusion but srsly I can't do anything about it. Persecutory delusions. She's hours away dude I can't do shit.

Did I do the right thing? Pls tell me I did.

The fact that we made plans... Before this... The fact that she told me I can live with her if I want. Bruh...

Did I do the right thing?

A family member mentioned my chest binder today. I’m in an extremely vocally transphobic household. My mother poked at my chest and asked what kind of bra I wear and said “whatever your wearing is too tight because it makes you have no boobs” (thanks momma, thats the point). I told her it’s a sports bra and I told her that it’s comfortable for me so she left it alone but I can tell she’s not happy. She’s also CONSTANTLY prodding me to wear tighter clothes and pierce my ears no matter how many times I say no and it’s becoming really, REALLY uncomfortable. What do I say to shut her down and get her off my back?? “I’m tryna look like a dude” doesn’t really work since that’d end with me cast out of my family. Sos

and im not even usually a shieker. when i get scared i usually go completely silent but i felt a tickling feeling and i looked down and there were more than a dozen ants crawling on my ankle and i just freaked out 😞 i brushed them off and it was fiiine there wasn't even anyone else around to hear me but i feel so silly rn. like why tf did i yell at ants like that. they ain't even gonna doing anything. it was the most feminine i've sounded in literal years, even without being on T. im so embarrassed rn like i don't even usually get dysphoria that bad but this was egregious 😓 i hate ants

what it says in the title. two things I've always heard are "the right binder doesn't constrict you and lets you breathe in fully" but also "never exercise in a binder". But what are the risks of exercising in a completely well fitting binder that isn't limiting you at all?

just started t a week ago and already the body odor and bad breath started to kick in randomly yesterday morning. i was very prepared for it to change my scent, especially because i typically shower and apply deodorant daily (but honestly, before starting t even if i didn’t apply deodorant i wouldn’t be noticeably stinky as hell).

cut to a few hours later and i’m at cvs buying clinical deodorant, breath spray, more floss, clinical mouth wash, and wipes to keep in the car to make sure i don’t get smelly if i’m sweating.

how tf do people deal with this?? i’m really not trying to smell like a man who just did weight lifting for 2 hours and hasn’t showered in 2 days. how i smell can bother me soooo much so i just want to make sure everything is under control

For my fellow guys who like smelling good, what’s the best masculine deodorant? I find that some deodorants can make me feel super gender euphoric but they’re not antiperspirant. I’ve seen good things about dr Squatch and Old Spice but I’m not sure what’s good for what I need. Earthy/woodsy smells are usually what give me gender euphoria, but I need something strong and long lasting to mask the puberty stench during my 12 hour shifts.

Edit: I don’t have sensitive skin or anything, no allergies either

I've been on T for 1y3m and at first I thought people laughed at my jokes because, I guess, hearing a male voice say them made it funnier(?) It was honestly freaking me out because I wasn't used to it, like, at all.

However recently I started to actually listen to myself talk and realized that I make way more jokes than before. Before T I would think about jokes during converstations but never actually managed to say them out loud. Now I do, and with confidence too, and obvs they don't always land but most of the time they get a chuckle out of people. Turns out I was funny this whole time but I was simply too insecure/dysphoric to say my jokes out loud. Absolutely wild. I mean, I guess there is still a chance people actually stop and listen to what I'm saying now that I have a deeper voice. But mostly it's just a confidence thing, it seems.

Only downside is that I struggle to take any conversation seriously now cus I'm so addicted to getting laughs out of people. It's such a confidence boost. Hope that doesn't come and bite me on the butt later.

So. That's a random revelation of the day. Have you had a similar experience, or have you noticed your confidence going up on T? I'd love to hear other experiences on this.

Hello everybody!

Hope you doing alright, just for some context: English is not my native language and I might make some mistakes

So ! as the title implies I'm into the closet in my new class but I pass and i've been on T for a couple of months plus i'm a newbie in a class where EVERYBODY knows each other except me but i've been able to make a few friends (boys and girls) A field trip was announced and so I asked the teacher doing it what I could do and hopefully I can either go with the boys and tell them or go in the boy section but a single room and not tell them.

Last year (another school) I did not tell anybody I was trans and it was honestly relieving because I got no comment on it (unlike the other years) but I lied a lot and at some point it was tiring, BUT in middle school people knew and they where always asking THOSE QUESTIONS I've also witnessed drastic changes in how people see me when I come out and it was definitely not great. I'm gonna be with this class for the 2 years to come and I hope to make long lasting friendship so should I keep my peace ? Or break the abscess now ?

Thanks in advance I really need help! 🙏 If you need any other context before giving me you're advice don't be shy !

Ok, sorry for the weird caption, don't know how else to really phrase that.

But basically I wanted to sort of ask or tell you guys about this thing that happened. Mostly just some backstory first. So I was at school the other day with one of my friends in my class. They know I'm trans and that I'm stealth in the school. So I also have a lot of friends that think I'm cis, which is very affirming honestly.

Lately I've been feeling sort of negative about my trans identity. But I'm usually hit with a lot of dysphoria when starting school again after the summer. And I get kind of irritated when anything reminds me that I'm not a cis boy.

Now to what actually happened. My friend, S, was telling me about a conversation they had with another friend, E, that doesn't know I'm trans. S said that E asked if I have any specific pronouns he didn't know of, and S proceeded to say "He doesn't have pronouns, he's just a boy." Which I think is a bit stupid. Because I do have pronouns, even if I was cis, everyone has pronouns bro. But S said they felt bad "lying" to E. I never told them to say stuff like that, and it kinda pisses me off that they just say stuff about me without thinking. This made me pretty mad, because no part was really a lie. Because I'm just a boy, telling people that isn't a lie at all and they try to make me feel guilty for not telling all of my friends that I'm trans. They said "I could never hide that part of me." Which I get for some people, and S because they're nonbinary (but they say they don't identify with any sort of trans label), but I want to hide that I'm trans. Like I don't want it to be some big part of me that everyone asks about and knows and stuff.

Anyway, has anything like this ever happened to any of you?? It's just kinda weird imo

I’ve been stockpiling my T (testosterone cypionate) for a year or so. I have approximately 2-3 years worth of doses saved in case shit goes sideways. Unfortunately all the vials are set to expire sometime in 2027, most likely before I’ll use them.

Does anyone have any experience using expired T? Is it less potent? Less safe? I know how to determine if a vial has spoiled.

Everything I have is stored in a sealed, moisture resistant, plastic container and kept in a dark room. The vials are all still sealed/capped.

Any advice is appreciated.

We’ve been together since we were 17, and we’re coming up on 4 years. I’m transgender (stealth except with close friends), and she’s cis. I was her first relationship. From day one, I knew things wouldn’t be easy — and I’ve been patient, probably more than I should’ve been. But I feel like I'm at a breaking point.

For the first year of our relationship, almost no one knew about us — not even her family. I kept hoping that once she told her mom, things would change. It took a year and a half for her to tell her, and even after that, she still didn’t post about me or acknowledge me publicly. I’d bring it up gently. Nothing. Then more directly. Still nothing. Finally — three years in — she posted a picture of me... from behind. No tag. No “boyfriend.” Just a body with no context.

I know social media isn’t everything. But when you’re never posted, never brought around family, and can’t even post your own girlfriend on her birthday without it being a problem... it starts to feel like more than just social media.

It’s not just online. She doesn’t come to my family events (says my family is “weird”), and she avoids inviting me to hers. The worst part was her college graduation — I was supposed to go. She gave me no details the morning of, ghosted me until the afternoon, and finally admitted she didn’t want me there because she was scared of how her family might react. That was the most humiliating and hurtful moment I’ve experienced in this relationship.

Every time I bring this up, it’s the same cycle: she cries, says she’ll change, gives a vague promise or a deadline... and then nothing happens. Time passes, I bring it up again, and the whole thing resets. Most recently I gave her a clear boundary — I said if nothing changed by Memorial Day, I was done. Then we both got sick, so I gave her grace. Now I’m just exhausted.

She says her anxiety and procrastination make it hard for her to follow through. I don’t think she’s a bad person. In private, she’s loving and supportive. She uses the right name, pronouns, everything. But that’s the thing — I don’t want to be a secret anymore. After four years, I want to be her boyfriend in the real world, not just behind closed doors.

I don’t need rainbow flags or a speech about dating a trans man. I just want to be treated like someone she’s proud to love. A normal partner. A normal boyfriend. And right now, I don’t feel like that.

I guess I’m looking for advice — or even just a reality check. Maybe I need some sense smacked into me, or maybe I'm being too harsh on her. I don't know anymore. I'm just kind of done. But also I truly do love her.

See here’s the thing. I’m almost a year on T, and you’d think—you know, basic common sense—that my doctor’s office would register that I request the exact same refill every month. I take gel pumps.

Now to actually get ahold of them is an issue, since it’s a “controlled substance” and can’t be refilled through my pharmacy. So I called my doctor. They closed an hour early and absolutely refused to bother with the three step refill. I call in the morning, the doctor wasn’t there. I call that afternoon several times, each with no response and their mailbox is full. So I call the next day and am finally accepted, give my name, dob, and prescription, they refill it no problem.

I go to my pharmacy to pick it up and they sent the wrong form not covered by my insurance. I was told to call in the morning. I’m going on five days cold turkey. Is this just me??

Hey y’all I might be starting T in a while. I’m an adult in uni but still financially dependent on my family. I was talking to the dr and she said the voice drop is hard to hide, but lowk I really need that tuition money so has anyone been able to hide it with voice training or pass it off as something else?

I've been on hrt for 3 years. and for the most part, my skin has been pretty ok. More oily than before (I will wash my face and be oily again in like an hour), a bit more prone to breakouts, but otherwise ok.

But I started a new job a few months ago. And because I was already oilier and more breakout prone, working in a kitchen that mainly does fried chicken and burgers? Not the best idea being around smoke and oil. I feel oily basically 24/7, and while I dont have huge breakouts, the acne I do get is all the deep zits that hurt bad. Usually on my chin or lower cheeks.

Any recommendations on what worked for you? tbh my skincare is just cleanser and moisturizer morning and night. I was using a generic cleanser, but switched to a neutrogena one about a week ago.

So thats it, i decided it is time to start taking T. I had top surgery 3 and a half years ago and at that time i didn’t have any need of transitioning with hormones. But this last year it has been constantly in my mind and i think i’ll feel so much better if i start, I’m really looking forward for the voice drop, facial hair and fat redistribution (other things not so much but i guess i can live with them) but at the same time i am so afraid. It might sound stupid but i am really scared of not passing, gaining weight or all the administrative papers i might need to get to change name etc… What can i do, i bet some of you felt same, can you help me with advice? Thank you

i've been socially transitioning for nearly 10 years and i have finally started my HRT journey. i did my first T shot today and was absolutely shaking with excitement. i've wanted this for so long and i'm so glad i didn't give up.

additionally, i also have a date for top surgery consultation! this is so awesome. i'm proud of myself. yay :-)

Alright, so basically I’ve been begging to medically transition since 8, but my mom didn’t allow it. Because of that, I went through female puberty and it’s pretty much over I think. Honestly, I can’t be sure though because I swear I’ve seen my hips growing (might be my dysphoria tho). I’m currently 17 (and 4/5 months) and I’m still trying to beg my mom to let me. She told me to wait until 18. Should I keep fighting or just thug it out chat?

Also anyone who started HRT at 18, what was your experience like? Were you able to pass? Were there slight/minimal changes in bone structure? Because I hear that’s still possible from late teens to early twenties.

Hi, I'm wondering if anyone has advice about hair loss and thinning on T. I started T a couple months ago and I want to stay on it, but I've noticed my hair getting thinner and falling out more. I know some people are fine with this and I'm not making a value judgment of course. I just like having my old thick hair. Is there anything that I can do about this? I'm older (in my 40s) so the hair thinning is probably increased because of that. Thank you!

I hestitated to make any post about this because it's a TMI subject, but considering the fact that it took me SO LONG to find resources online about this, I really want to improve the chances of other guys who have this problem finding this post (and therefore some answers).

VAGINAL ATROPHY IS NOT JUST FOR THE VAGINA. It can ALSO occur in the urethra.

I have been on T for over seven years, and one of the most common negative side effects I heard of was vaginal atrophy (dryness, pain during penetration, and other issues of the sort). I have never experinced any of these, and thought I had no issues with atrophy from testosterone.

In my first year on T, I experienced some UTI-like symptoms (the feeling of needing to urinate despite not needing to, or pain when urinating), and I credited it as a side effect of bottom growth and sensitivity from it. After a year this problem stopped.

I recently went off of T for around half a year, then restarted taking it in a different form (moved to a new country). The version I'm on now is one large injection every three weeks, and seems generally stronger than my usual small dose once per week. Since starting this form of T I've had persistent urinary symptoms, and for awhile it was driving me up the wall. The problem is, I couldn't find the source of it my problem. Nothing online discussed this being a side effect of taking T, and I assumed I was getting UTIs. I went to the gynecologist for tests multiple times.

Everything changed when I found some old, old Reddit comment buried somewhere about someone trying topical estrogen cream on the vaginal area to deal with the feeling of UTI-like symptoms. At this point, I had been dealing with this problem for over a year and I had tried literally everything I could find. I thought I had become someone who gets chronic UTIs and had accepted my fate.

Estrogen cream has solved this problem completely. I still get some irritation in the days after my injection, but applying the cream routinely has made this problem go away, and I have never been more relieved. I can't express how frustrating it was to deal with. Genuinely a year of doctors visits, medicines, and wallowing in frustration all because nowhere in discussions of T side effects was it made clear that vaginal atrophy can occur in this way.

I imagine what I've experienced is an uncommon side effect given how little I've seen people talk about it, but I want it out there for anyone who is having the same difficulty to have a path toward healing. Tl;dr having urinary incontinence as a twentysomething year old is absolute ass, and if you're experiencing that TRY ESTROGEN CREAM because you're probably experiencing a form of vaginal atrophy from testosterone.

Hey, y'all! I'm pretty sure this is my first time posting here, but I'm 21, pre-everything in Texas. I've known since I was 16 or so that I was not a cis woman, and I'm genuinely sick and tired of being perceived as a woman and by my deadname. However, everything related to starting transitioning AND all the legal nonsense is. A lot. I wanted to throw my specific circumstances out there since I'm just not sure what order to do things in?

I don't have a driver's license. Never have. COVID happened right before I turned 16. Mental health took a major dip to the point where I was far too anxious and jumpy to be a reasonably safe driver. I'm currently studying to get my DL since I'm better now. I also don't have a Texas State ID.

What I do have (all with deadname + AGAB):

- Photocopied birth certificate

- Out-of-state State ID (not expired)

- Military Dependent ID (expired; planning to renew)

- Official Social Security Card

- Official High School + Associates Degree transcripts (physical copies)

So, to start transitioning. Should I get my DL and State ID under my deadname and THEN start the process of changing all my legal documents? I'm considering using the Plume service to get on T, but I think changing my legal name would be a reasonable first step alongside that? What documents do I need to change? What documents featuring my deadname do I have to hold onto for dear life? Also, I'm planning on enrolling back in school, which IDEALLY I would go into under my actual name.

Thanks, y'all. Sorry for the lengthiness.