r/gatech • u/Popular_Sprinkles653 • 3d ago
Social/Club How to make friends that aren’t just acquaintances?
So I’ve come to the realisation recently that all save 2 of my friends are actually just acquaintances, where we hang out during club events and maybe get food after but that’s it.
Any ideas how I can make more friends? I go to a few clubs and it’s a lot of fun and the people are great, but I’d love to make more friends instead of just acquaintances.
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u/Illustrious-Net-6130 3d ago edited 2d ago
I transferred here, having a similar issue. I feel like everyone Cool I meet is in a frat or alr has 2+ yr friend groups that have been established a long time ago. What helped for me was constantly going to club events until I became genuine friends w the people. That being said most cool ppl r in frats so it still kinda sucks. Hopefully the brand name pays off.
Edit: just bite the bullet and hang out w everyone even if you don’t think you fw them initially and eventually you can meet ppl through them or get close to the people you get along w. Also, once u get close maybe ask if they’d be down to room w you and if they alr have friends u guys could do like a 5-man and you can make friends that way.
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u/noah6544 7h ago
From my experience inviting my acquaintances has worked a ton. I think people appreciate being invited out to do stuff. Shoot a couple texts saying 'wanna do xyz at 5?' and in my experience it leads to good convos and more random side quests
example: went on a run with a dorm acquaintance one time and found out we're both PC nerds so after the run we talked about his linux setup for an hour and he's now a really close friend [daniel if you're reading this ily]
TL:DR be an extrovert, and if you aren't, pretend you are
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u/SuitableAbies4502 3d ago
I have very few people I call friends. Most people are fake and shallow from personal experience.. The average human being is a low key asshole.. Appreciate the people who are a pleasure to be around and keep your circle small.. Peace ✌🏾..
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u/Familiar_Engine718 2d ago
“the average human being is lowkey an asshole” ? Maybe that’s why your circle is small
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u/rtx_5090_owner 1d ago
Sounds like you’re average
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u/SuitableAbies4502 1d ago
I used to literally have hundreds of people I called friends.. When your a good person to so many people, you realize very few people have your interest in mind.. I've been stabbed in the back by those closest to me.. You can't judge me or say shit cause you haven't been in my shoes and if you were you would agree.. I'd rather be a lone wolf than be around haters and fake love.. My extends to my close friends.. I don't need anyone else except my team.. Fuck these bums and schemers... You gotta be naive and haven't experienced anything close to the general public to really know people..
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u/parvafeminacanis 3d ago
I think how you get past that acquaintance stage into friendship status is by finding more common interests than just the club or course you guys are both in.
Discuss those interests and invite them to hang out at different events or just at your dorm.