r/guitarlessons • u/Leftfieldcin • 1d ago

Lesson Go back to my lesson

Just a question: did not have a good lesson last time with my instructor and I feel really awkward about going back but I don’t wanna give up. This is my third teacher.🙄

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u/EmbarrassedPack6 1d ago

Need more info. What about it was bad? If it had anything to do with you or your perception of what your teacher is thinking, I promise none of them are judging and want you to succeed. But if you don’t mesh - there’s multiple avenues.

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u/Leftfieldcin 1d ago

It had to do with me. I was tired that day, long week, Friday lesson and I was crabby and defensive about the help and instruction he was giving me.

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u/Original_Chris 1d ago

Go back, apologize, learn more guitar!

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u/[deleted] 1d ago

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u/Leftfieldcin 1d ago

Good point.

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u/EmbarrassedPack6 1d ago

Sounds like you are overthinking this. I would simply apologize. It’s a paid professional so this surely won’t be the first or last time someone has given them difficulties. They surely see countless students and most likely even forgot about the attitude.

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u/izzittho 1d ago edited 1d ago

Oh I’ve been there. Apologize, explain, I’m sure they’ll also reassure you that it’s ok, and move on! You’ll be fine. Anyone that’ll hold a single instance of that against you even if you apologize and try to be better probably doesn’t have the patience to teach, just try to relax and be less defensive going forward.

Lessons get less scary/stressful over time, I promise! It helps to be 100% honest with yourself about how much effort you’re putting in so no matter how you perform you can say you tried your best and mean it. I know if I had a lazier practice week and probably could have been doing better, I’ll feel a lot worse about not having gotten something down yet than if I genuinely gave it all I could and still got to the following week’s lesson totally unable to do the thing.

Also, understand that stage fright almost always makes you play less well in front of others and your teacher gets that. Even when it means way less well, like it often does at first when you’re both genuinely not good at all and super nervous about that fact lol.

It gets better, I promise. Over time you’ll realize they’re really not judging you, and relaxing will improve your playing.

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u/Leftfieldcin 18h ago

Thank you so much!

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u/izzittho 1d ago

Oh I’ve been there. Apologize, explain, I’m sure they’ll also reassure you that it’s ok, and move on! You’ll be fine. Anyone that’ll hold a single instance of that against you even if you apologize and try to be better probably doesn’t have the patience to teach, just try to relax and be less defensive going forward.

Lessons get less scary/stressful over time, I promise! It helps to be 100% honest with yourself about how much effort you’re putting in so no matter how you perform you can say you tried your best and mean it. Also, understand that stage freight almost always makes you play less well in front of others and your teacher gets that. Even when it means way less well like it often does at first when you’re both genuinely not good at all and super nervous about that fact.

It gets better, I promise. Over time you’ll realize they’re really not judging you, and relaxing will improve your playing.

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u/Entropy847 1d ago

They work for you. Ask for a different scheduled time if you are running into an energy issue.

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u/markewallace1966 34m ago

And what is the question?

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