r/judo • u/BrunoXande • Apr 20 '25

Other My family doesn't believe me?

Well, a competition is coming up and I'm going to compete. Despite my confidence issues, I've been trying my best in training and I'm pretty sure I can win... But this will be my first competition in another city and that makes me a little nervous, but not as much as my family (mother and grandmother), who really don't want me to go. When we talk about the competition, they tell me to give up if it's too hard or if I'm tired, saying that they need to see the level of the competition and that I'm not an athlete to compete... It really makes me wonder: are they right? Or do they just not believe in my potential? (I'm 21 years old)

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u/kafkaphobiac shodan Apr 20 '25

They are over thinking. Just go, you either win or smack the floor. You will learn in both situations. In my dojo we take kids from 12yo to compete in other cities.

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u/nightraven3141592 Apr 20 '25

I would even say that losing is a better teacher, because then you learn everything you did that didn’t work. When you win it’s hard to pinpoint what exactly you did right and what didn’t make a difference. If you are able to film your matches you have something to analyze after the fact. Either way good luck.

Btw: have your family even watched you train? Do they have any experience in judo/bjj/wrestling to make an informed opinion? If not they only say that they don’t have what it takes to compete. Just my two cents.