r/judo • u/BrunoXande • Apr 20 '25
Other My family doesn't believe me?
Well, a competition is coming up and I'm going to compete. Despite my confidence issues, I've been trying my best in training and I'm pretty sure I can win... But this will be my first competition in another city and that makes me a little nervous, but not as much as my family (mother and grandmother), who really don't want me to go. When we talk about the competition, they tell me to give up if it's too hard or if I'm tired, saying that they need to see the level of the competition and that I'm not an athlete to compete... It really makes me wonder: are they right? Or do they just not believe in my potential? (I'm 21 years old)
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u/Accomplished-Drop382 Apr 20 '25
Sadly, families are usually the least supportive. It sounds like your mother and grandmother have a negative and toxic mentality and it is likely generational. As someone who has dealt with this exact scenario in my own life, get as far away from them as possible. It’s not too late for you to develop a positive mindset but you cannot live with people like that and also grow into your own person and develop to your full potential. The security they provide by allowing you to live with them is not worth the damage it does to your confidence and how it ultimately stunts your growth. Get your bjj and judo blackbelts, become a champion and prove them wrong. Best of luck to you. 🙏