r/lungcancer • u/RoomEquivalent1 • 10d ago
Seeking Support Mom is going to hospice
Mom was hospitalized last Friday because her lungs have water and they needed to drain it. She hasn’t left and it’s unlikely she will now. She got pemetrexed Tuesday, but today the doctors say her cancer is likely so advanced that continual treatment will be dangerous (for context, she can’t even lie down because of the pain despite being on morphine). She can’t even get an MRI because of the pain, doctor thinks it’s likely her cancer has advanced far enough in the brain.
She also isn’t really eating right now and is either delirious or super sleepy. I got in a fight with my dad because I know my mom wants to be at home but dad wants her in a facility because he is afraid mom will eventually develop resistance to the oxy dosage and we won’t have morphine injection at the ready (he’s anxious - I can’t; he’s afraid she’ll develop resistance in the middle of the night and we won’t have anything. I mean fair but mom wants to be home for her last days???)
It’s so frustrating. Fuck cancer man. I think I’m literally going to die from a broken heart. I’m the youngest in my work / friends group but is the first one going thru death of a parent. So unfair. I saw how this disease ate my mom from the inside out and left her a skeleton with only skin and bones. Fuck this man.
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u/CrazyGirlAngie75 10d ago
Usually towards the end there is always a nurse there, I'm almost positive. That's all worth talking to Dr about and home hospice, at this point it would be worth asking if they would prescribe her morphine, with the oxy. It's been a long time since we had hospice in our house but they used to do long acting like morphine on sublingual so we'll drop by mouth I don't know if that's even an option anymore.