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[u/altjthunter]

My redneck step dad’s only responses to me after I came out was “Why Jessica? You should have gone with Jennifer. You’re more of a Jennifer”

[u/lunar__boo → u/altjthunter]

Imma be real if that had been my parents' reaction to me coming out I might have went with that name

[u/altjthunter → u/lunar__boo]

I had been going by Jessica with my friends for a year at that point so I feel committed to it, plus I still do like the name

[u/lunar__boo → u/altjthunter]

Understandable!

I also like my chosen name a lot, but if it meant they actually accepted me I'd take it instantly

[u/SmallBatBigSpooky → u/altjthunter]

Good always make the other suggestion your middle name if you felt like it lol

[u/4toTwenty → u/altjthunter]

Honestly, as a Jessica who worked in the service industry for 15 years, customers would often forget the name i told them TWO MINUTES AGO and call me Jennifer anyway. I had a regular who introduced me to his wife as Jennifer. 6 years later and i still respond to it

[u/cam52391 → u/4toTwenty]

I was a server for 13 years. After about 6 I stopped telling people my name when I greeted them, they ones that remember them ask, most people don't care. Honestly I never remember my servers names when I go out so why should I expect it from others.

[u/jnnfrrp → u/4toTwenty]

I get the opposite as a Jennifer I get called Jessica all the time

[u/Scryser → u/altjthunter]

That's such a Jennifer thing to do though.

[u/Smyley12345 → u/lunar__boo]

For my kid, I was pitching for the boy name we had picked out and didn't use but they went with masculine version of their dead name. I still think Ace is a kick ass boys name and would have fit them well.

[u/Fishmyashwhole → u/Smyley12345]

Ace sounds like the most transmasc name ever lmao

[u/Daybreak_Comet → u/Smyley12345]

I feel like he'd have to clarify it's his name, not his sexuality some of the time tbh

[u/Smyley12345 → u/Daybreak_Comet]

They've got a big personality. I think they would have rolled with the occasional clarification just fine.

Honestly our younger one is the one that will probably have embarassing clarifications and will likely go by his middle name eventually. About a year after he was born his name became a slang insult. Hopefully it will be dated by the time he hits high school age.

[u/LindonLilBlueBalls → u/Smyley12345]

Kevin or Kyle? Chad is not really an insult.

[u/Smyley12345 → u/LindonLilBlueBalls]

Beta

[u/NipperSpeaks → u/Smyley12345]

So which version of Three is the next one going to be named? Or am I reading things wrong and they're going to be little Release Candidate instead?

[u/Smyley12345 → u/NipperSpeaks]

Good catch! Three would have been Trey or Trianna but our marriage would not have survived another round of pregnancy hormones so we are done.

[u/NipperSpeaks → u/Smyley12345]

Small mercies.

[u/ElminstersBedpan → u/lunar__boo]

Family lore was that I was going to be named after my grandmother until they found out I brought along extra equipment. I always had that story in the back of my mind, so I gravitated towards it when the truth became apparent.

Yeah, that didn't work out so hot. :-/

[u/FreshEggKraken → u/lunar__boo]

If my parents defied all expectations and had a decent reaction to me coming out and then suggested a new name, I'd take that name immediately just out of delusional happiness.

Unfortunately, it 100% will not be going that way.

[u/lunar__boo → u/FreshEggKraken]

yeah thats what im getting at too

but sadly thats not the world I live in

[u/DRowe_ → u/altjthunter]

Rare redneck W?

[u/altjthunter → u/DRowe_]

It would be insane to say that my stereotypical redneck racist step-dad is the most supportive family member but it would also be a true statement. His logic is “well you’re an adult so you just live your life how you want”

[u/D1xieDie → u/altjthunter]

So he’s a real redneck logic wise

[u/Lord-Techtonos → u/altjthunter]

“I may be racist, but I am NOT transphobic”

[u/Foenikxx → u/Lord-Techtonos]

"I can excuse racism, but I draw the line at transphobia"

[u/done-doubting-doubts → u/Foenikxx]

You can excuse racism??

[u/NecroCannon → u/Lord-Techtonos]

“Those people are born acting like that, you on the other hand, I raised you right. I know you won’t be a problem”

I feel like that best describes it. Especially since a lot of idiots think that being black automatically means you’re stupid and violent but when you’re black and don’t view race like that, rednecks are just ghetto people’s country cousins, same issues causing the same kind of problems, just a different flavor

[u/smegmajucylucy → u/altjthunter]

My redneck family all love and support me. My grandpa was the kind of man to listen to NPR in the tractor, so it doesn’t shock me that my 83 year old Catholic farm wife grandma supports me completely and introduces me as her granddaughter to all her friends in the nursing home.

Sorry, I just love my “wokeneck” family

[u/-Legion_of_Harmony- → u/smegmajucylucy]

"wokeneck" is the perfect term to describe my family. I'm stealing that.

[u/Illustrious-Stock-19 → u/smegmajucylucy]

I have endless appreciation and respect for rednecks/hillbilly’s that surprise with their political takes.

[u/DAE77177 → u/altjthunter]

It is a libertarian way of viewing it, most people that claim libertarian just aren’t consistent.

[u/Rappican → u/DRowe_]

IIRC, Rednecks as they were known in the 90's and 00's were fairly liberal and progressive. Only fairly recently has redneck been used as meaning low IQ white trash.

[u/pie4155 → u/Rappican]

Rednecks we're always descendants of Scottish/Irish settlers of the southern Appalachian mountains (red beard => red neck). It's been merged with the general opinion of the populus of the region (incest, low IQ due to low education, etc), but the group has always been fiercely independent, anti-authority and adaptive as hell.

(For example, Nascar exists because their bootlegging cars were suped up to escape cops and then they just started racing for fun)

[u/Jalase → u/pie4155]

That’s not confirmed as the origin of Redneck, the most popular theory is that it came from the sunburned neck of farmers.

[u/Aglet_Dart → u/Jalase]

My favorite is this:

“An alternative origin story is that during the West Virginia Mine Wars of the early 1920s, workers organizing for labor rights donned red bandanas, worn tied around their necks, as they marched up Blair Mountain in a pivotal confrontation. The West Virginia Mine Wars Museum commemorates their struggle for fair wages. A monument in front of the George Buckley Community Center in Marmet, WV, part of the "Courage in the Hollers Project" of the West Virginia Mine Wars Museum depicts the silhouettes of four mine workers cut from steel plate, wearing bright red bandanas around their necks or holding them in their hands.”

[u/InvestigatorOk7015 → u/DRowe_]

Overheard in an ohio gas station:

“You cant call em that, hes my sister now his name is marie.”

[u/RussianNoWoodniks → u/altjthunter]

Omg My mom said the same this morning, then suggested Madeline, because “that’s the other name we chose before you were born.”

[u/Regular_Custard_4483 → u/RussianNoWoodniks]

I got a niece named Madeline, and it's hell on nicknames. You either get Maddy (which sounds a bit childish as an adult) or Mad, which is self explanatorily bad.

I call her Mad because she's a bit of a nightmare, but if you're a nice person, maybe reconsider.

[u/RussianNoWoodniks → u/Regular_Custard_4483]

Yeah, it’s a tough call. On the one hand, them telling me feels like acceptance, but our larger family already has 4 Madelines, using both nicknames and both ways to say the “I”. We don’t need another, and there’s already a dearth of J names.

[u/Regular_Custard_4483 → u/RussianNoWoodniks]

Oh, that's easy then. Just go with Jackhammer. Tons of nicknames, but really fierce.

Dress it up. "Mom, Dad, this is Jack."

Dress it down. "Oh, my god Jackie, I can't control the weather!"

In the bedroom? Come on. Self explanatory.

In conclusion, Jackhammer, I believe it's only reasonable to continue going by the most righteous and honorable Jackhammer, probably forthwith, but absolutely not forthwenth, as that's impossible.

[u/IllumiNoEye_Gaming → u/altjthunter]

tbh i think if ur parents are supportive then asking ur parents for a name is a cool way to get one

[u/ConsistentDay5620 → u/altjthunter]

As a Jessica myself….the name is fine but is very much the “millennial grey” of names. But own that name, be the Jessica that pops into their head when they inevitably hear it 100,000 times. Can be through fear, love, admiration, rage, etc. dealers choice but I try to be a teal in a sea of beige.

[u/JD_Kreeper → u/altjthunter]

There is only one Jennifer, and that is me.

[u/velvetelevator → u/JD_Kreeper]

I've met you like, a lot of times. Also how did you manage to sit in 3 different desks at the same time in third grade?

[u/JD_Kreeper → u/velvetelevator]

Excuse me what? Where?

I don't remember saying anything about that.

Where have you seen me before?

[u/velvetelevator → u/JD_Kreeper]

Well I have known a lot of Jennifers so if you are the only Jennifer I have met you a lot of times

[u/JD_Kreeper → u/velvetelevator]

Oh. I got wooooshed there lol.

Lately I've been seeing quite a few people recognize my name and tell me about how they see me everywhere.

I go by the same name everywhere online, and I wind up in a lot of places across the internet. I am chronically online.

When you asked about third grade desks or whatever I thought you were referencing one of my trauma dumps that I forgot about.

[u/milaan_tm → u/altjthunter]

Kind of based to be fair

[u/spunkyweazle → u/altjthunter]

I'm actually stuck in the Jess/Jen dilemma myself. Leaning towards Jess just because it's also J-E-double consonant like Jeff already is (I know you could do Jenn but I'm used to only seeing it as Jen, and Jess has more of that Jeff-y sound if that makes sense to anyone aside from myself)

[u/hoosierdaddy192 → u/altjthunter]

My bro came out to me first. Said his new name was J/Jay? I was like bro that’s cool, I’ll call you whatever but you suck at name picking. Could have picked the coolest or most manly name in existence and you went with the most beige name ever. You could be Draco, Hunter, Archer, Phoenix, Blaze, or Buck Steel (actual person I knows birth name, spelt different but he is everything you thought a Buck Steel should be) Lil bro eventually changed their name a few years later but not because of my teasing, at least I hope. I also told my religious conservative dad, when bro came out to the whole family, that suicide was extremely high in the trans community and if dad wasn’t on board he would lose more than one son. Surprisingly dad accepted it pretty well for a boomer from the Deep South.

[u/mytransthrow → u/altjthunter]

lol, Jessica for jessica rabbit. I played with that name for a while. It didnt stick. I have a name that fits me to a T or is it "tee" or "tea"

[u/Ya-Local-Trans-Bitch → u/altjthunter]

Before I landed on Alice, Jennifer was the name I used just to not have my deadname. It’s a good name, but it didn’t feel quite right.

[u/jess_the_werefox → u/altjthunter]

Jessica is a great name

[u/leemurbleemur]

I met someone with the chosen name Braedynne (spelled like that) and had to stop myself from saying many things

[u/Asleep-Coconut-7541 → u/leemurbleemur]

That person took the reins and gave themselves a r/tragedeigh 😞

Edit bc I spelled “reins” as “reigns” but no queens were even around to slay????

[u/whatisabaggins55 → u/Asleep-Coconut-7541]

reigns

They'd probably spell it Rhaeyennes :P

[u/ReadBikeYodelRepeat → u/whatisabaggins55]

Reignesmee

[u/arfelo1 → u/whatisabaggins55]

Is it a Targaryen?

[u/Wise-Zebra-8899 → u/Asleep-Coconut-7541]

Psst. For this word, the correct spelling is reins. Reigns is a homophone.

[u/CellaCube → u/Wise-Zebra-8899]

Damn, I loved that game. That sucks /j

[u/Asleep-Coconut-7541 → u/Wise-Zebra-8899]

You are right. Ty 🙂‍↕️🤭

[u/Vark675 → u/leemurbleemur]

To be fair, that's a great way to pass. Surely no one but a deranged parent trying to be unique would pick a name like that!

[u/Goddamnpassword → u/Vark675]

Depends on their age, over 25 and it would be before the Aiden/Braiden/Kaiden shit kicked off and tragedieghs weren’t really a thing yet.

[u/ShallowBasketcase → u/Goddamnpassword]

over 25 you better be Brittney or Michael like everyone else!

[u/Accomplished_Mix7827 → u/leemurbleemur]

It's rough when someone picks a stupid name. Like, you want to be supportive, but Kaile? Really? At least they're not inflicting it on some poor innocent child, lol

[u/CMDR_Lex]

My mom originally named me after her deceased father and was sad i didn't want to keep any vestige of that in my new name. Like even in my middle name, lol.

The funny thing is i didn't even go by that name to begin with anyway, so it wasn't even that i was sick of it. Just no way in hell im making my middle name "Roberta"

[u/ImmortalFriend → u/CMDR_Lex]

Tbh, depending on how your name and surname sound, it could be cool.

[u/sixth_sense_psychic → u/CMDR_Lex]

If you're changing your name legally, maybe you could change your last name to Roberts. Still keep it with you 🤷

[u/Autisticrocheter → u/sixth_sense_psychic]

I don’t understand why it would be important to keep it with you if you don’t want the name, especially if it’s not from someone you knew or had a relationship with

[u/sixth_sense_psychic → u/Autisticrocheter]

That's fair. I was trying to offer a solution. Also hello, fellow autistic crocheter!

[u/DylanV255]

…

[u/Mtrina → u/DylanV255]

I'm so sorry

[u/DylanV255 → u/Mtrina]

It’s all good, no worries (and yes, I know you’re not op)

Just thought it was a funny coincidence/bit

[u/morla74 → u/DylanV255]

255 Versions, and they all came up Dylan

[u/Kaiser0106 → u/DylanV255]

[u/Sanrusdyno → u/DylanV255]

"N-no don't worry it looks good on you spongebob"

[u/theclassicrockjunkie]

The transmasc version of the girl who named herself 'Mildred' and her friend who was disgusted by it lmao.

[u/MajesticSpaceBen → u/theclassicrockjunkie]

Friends don't let friends name themselves Mildred

[u/Dumb_Cheese → u/theclassicrockjunkie]

I named myself Milly, with full intentions of changing my legal name to Mildred for the bit. Much to the chagrin of my friends and bf lmao

[u/RunawayHobbit → u/Dumb_Cheese]

Milly is adorable and Thoroughly Modern. Mildred has glasses like Coke bottles. Lmao

[u/idontcareaboutthenam → u/theclassicrockjunkie]

Thought Slime moment 

[u/alfredhelix → u/theclassicrockjunkie]

That's just clever wordplay to enhance gender Euphoria. Mildred->mild red->pink

[u/C00kie_Monsters → u/theclassicrockjunkie]

Honestly I think Mildred is a lovely name

[u/blindsavior]

My mom picked two names before I was born, so I just swapped to the other one when I transitioned

[u/Chemical-Juice-6979 → u/blindsavior]

This! We should normalize parents keeping track of the opposite gender baby name they would have picked. That way, the kids who turn out trans have a default gender-appropriate name to fall back on. Yeah, there will be cases where the trans kid wants to pick something totally unrelated to their birth family, but it could ease a little bit of stress from the coming out process for kids from supportive families.

[u/BondageSafetyBob → u/Chemical-Juice-6979]

Alas, in my case that name was "Femke" which is a perfectly sensible Dutch/Frysian name but sounds weird to English observers when you're transfem, as if you really want to emphasize how femme you truly are by having "Fem" in your name. My parents agreed and helped me pick a different name. I wanted to involve them closely.

[u/ReadBikeYodelRepeat → u/BondageSafetyBob]

That’s sweet. Hope you don’t involve them closely in all parts of your life u/BondageSafteyBob

[u/giuseqb → u/ReadBikeYodelRepeat]

r/rimjobsteve

[u/NipperSpeaks → u/Chemical-Juice-6979]

On the other hand, it also would create traditional pressure and likely an extra point of stress for the kid that doesn't want to take whatever name the parents picked out for them as a larva. Can we just normalize everyone getting a few chances to rename themselves no fuss as they hit milestones? Imagine it being a normal thing to get to pick a new name when you get your first ID, and again when you get your first adult ID.

[u/LSunday → u/NipperSpeaks]

There are already so many cultures that have different versions of a “you’re an adult now” celebration, it would be nice if it was commonplace for there to be a “name confirmation” at that point, both for trans people and people who just don’t like the name their parents gave them.

Honestly, the politicization of trans-ness already removed a fairly common practice of renaming yourself, which lots of people already do for reasons that have nothing to do with gender identity.

[u/TheNorthComesWithMe → u/Chemical-Juice-6979]

That's already normal. Parents remember the alternative names they came up with, and often share that with their kids as a fun fact.

[u/Justarandomduck15q2 → u/blindsavior]

My sister picked another name for me if I would've been blonde (though not if I would've been a girl) and even if I was blonde my parents cruelly overruled her choice.

[u/OpalescentPalette]

My mom wasn't happy with my picking of the name Jackie cause she had only had bad experiences with Jackies in the past.

She's come around to it though lol

[u/ST4R3 → u/OpalescentPalette]

Naming yourself after your parents archenemy is a vibe tbh.

[u/Klutzy-Personality-3 → u/ST4R3]

guess i should've named myself after my grandmother

[u/ActualWhiterabbit → u/Klutzy-Personality-3]

I'll do the same, but then I get to call myself Rory which fits better because I'm an incredible disappointment.

[u/sneakyfish21 → u/OpalescentPalette]

I have an aunt named Jackie who is …not great. So I had a visible recoil when I read that you chose the name. So I get where your mom is coming from I guess.

[u/ExpirjTec → u/sneakyfish21]

I also had an aunt Jackie who was not great, twinsies!

[u/sneakyfish21 → u/ExpirjTec]

Perhaps cousinsies. But all I’m really learning is OP’s mom was right in her reaction to the name, hopefully op is reclaiming it.

[u/OpalescentPalette → u/sneakyfish21]

I hope I am! I definitely try to not be everyone's enemy.

[u/mann_co_ → u/OpalescentPalette]

“Oh hello Jackie, you look nice”

[u/AtypicalAshley → u/OpalescentPalette]

My first boyfriend cheated on me with his ex who was named Jackie… still hate that cunt lol

[u/OpalescentPalette → u/AtypicalAshley]

Ooof yeah that's deserved

[u/NoodleyP → u/OpalescentPalette]

Caitlyn (I have zero issues with Katie though never met a rude Katie) and Bella are out for me because of this.

[u/cerdechko]

"Seriously? Fucking Mildred?" /ref

[u/overachievingogre → u/cerdechko]

"You can't just support trans rights you have to support trans wrongs too."

[u/BasedKetamineApe → u/overachievingogre]

Some sins can not be forgiven

[u/Doveda]

I still think my mom avoids using my chosen name, Jane, purely because she thinks it's a bad name. I pointed out that she has a friend named Jane and she was just like "well, she didn't choose it for herself. It's not her fault"

[u/lavendermarker]

I'm a butch lesbian who changed their first name to Mark. I had my reasons but part of it is because that would've been my name if I were born a dude, plus I thought it's way more fitting than my birth name. People who knew me under both names can confirm. I imagine folks think this with me 😅

[u/mytransthrow → u/lavendermarker]

Does your name also have eliteration like marky mark? maybe margo mark

[u/lavendermarker → u/mytransthrow]

My sister calls me marky mark haha

[u/mytransthrow → u/lavendermarker]

It should be Markee Mark. lol or if you will.. Marque mark is you want to be fancy.

[u/lavendermarker → u/mytransthrow]

Unfortunately my first name is the only part with an m. There is at least 1 a in all 3 names though

[u/PsychologicalDebt366]

[u/cerdechko → u/PsychologicalDebt366]

My goat.... And my other goat in the frame......... Ouhg.

[u/-Stress-Princess-]

When I fully came out my parent would cry on the phone asking me where she went wrong with me. Once I was states away I felt safe to finally be who the one deep down wanted and they really didn't take it well.

[u/Tranzanima]

To each their own, that name didn't work for me, but I am always happy to hear when it rings true to someone.

[u/Cloverfield1996 → u/Tranzanima]

Trans people with new names should do a convention. Bring your dead name and inspire/ swap names with someone else 😂 send good vibes out as you let go of your dead name

[u/RunawayHobbit → u/Cloverfield1996]

“Free deadname, gently used”

[u/LilaTheMoo]

When I came out to my family as trans my mom's response was 'Huh, I just thought you were gay.' I mean, I am, in just also not at the same time?

[u/GuiltyEidolon → u/LilaTheMoo]

My mom was more upset I came out as bi than me being trans I think.

[u/SicklyHeartChild → u/LilaTheMoo]

My mom made a joke of calling me he/him and then later asked me if I am trans. No just masc lesbian

[u/evieka]

Years back my mom admitted she regretted the name she gave me, apparently for the first few years of my life she'd get weird looks when she mentioned it.

[u/Desperate_Chair_8486]

To be fair, this is how I felt when I found out one of my family members came out as non binary and wanted to go by Jasper. Jasper? Come on, you can do much better than that.

(Sorry to any jaspers that’s might be reading this)

[u/sad_bisexual27]

When I was earlier in my gender exploration I hopped between a few names, most of them naturey stuff. Moss, Bee, River, stuff like that. My mom liked them all except for Bee because she knew I loved Bee and Puppycat at the time and she didn't want me naming myself after a cartoon 😅

[u/Human_Not_Robot_2023]

Ops meme was my wife's reaction. And her cousin's. Both were like, "ew ... WHY BRENDA???"

[u/LordPenvelton]

My mom had the same reaction with the two names I tried so far.

[u/VampireLobster5]

Lol everyone in my family hated the name Dana and no one seemed to like the name so my mother ended up naming me Elizabeth

[u/-My-Dog-Puked- → u/VampireLobster5]

oohhh but Dana is such a nice name!!

[u/Blacksheep1228]

I'm genderfluid and wanted a 2nd name that was more masculine for my boy days... My birth name is rare and I want a rare boy name to match. I really like Mordred from the Fate series. I'm also very into Arthurian myths, and yes I know Mordred is a "bad guy"( as well the inbred son but what royal isn't?) but I like the name. My husband was like no ... All I'm going to do is think of that blonde gremlin. Btw still looking for a masc name I like to this day it's been years

Edit: because I've gotten a lot of sweet people trying to help. I do test out names. I'm testing out Sirius right now.

[u/SnooSquirrels8276 → u/Blacksheep1228]

Make one up, mate.

Almost all of my characters have names that are off shoots of other names (Cernosa - Cernunnos) or literally just misspellings of common words (Siob - Sob; Sorael - So Real; Ahne - Maybe) and even my name, Matthis, is often seen as a misspelling of Mathis or Matthias and most people think I’m either just Matt or Matthew and it’s like Nope! Just a silly little guy being special who found his name off of name berry! (It also matches the first letter of my birth name, that was something that was important to me, keeping my initials the same)

Literally find your favorite rare names, put them through a mixing gen thing and scroll until you go “Yeah, I’m def a Bethlmatrochron” idk if you’ll actually find smth you like, but it’s worth a shot. All names are fake anyways, why have to stick to the conventional stuff? (As long as it’s not a tragdeigh 😂)

[u/Blacksheep1228 → u/SnooSquirrels8276]

Making a tragdeigh is a big fear lol. I used to do mixing names for characters I role play in d&d and/or larps. Some of my faves were Mero, Nick'ade, Morga, Neervian, Garavan and one I still use as a username in other places Dek'laleituam or Dek'la for short XD

[u/SnooSquirrels8276 → u/Blacksheep1228]

Hell yeah, LARPing! (Never did it before but I do badly want to) Dek’la is a nice name. The long version scares me a little LOL but if you already use it as a username elsewhere, then you’re already used to being called it! And if you want an ‘easier’ one, I’d go with Mero. It reminds me of my cat Milo, if my opinion matters any, haha 😅 Good luck on finding a name! Maybe tell me if you do, put me on the waiting list XP

[u/CriticalChapter7353]

Long piece of lore:

Both of my parents are Pentecostal pastors (Foursquare, a branch of Pentecostal that doesn’t make women wear skirts and allows women to be pastors), and their best friends were also Pentecostal pastors, and they co-pastored at the church we went to growing up.

My mom’s best friend said she had a vision from God that they would have a son—this was before they had any kids. They never got the sex determined via ultrasound because they had so much faith. Got pregnant with the first kid, assumed it would be a boy, then my oldest sister was born. Pregnant with the second kid, figured this one had to be the boy, then my second oldest sister was born.

Mom got pregnant with me. They were SO sure that I was going to be the boy they picked out a name for me and everything, Nathan. No, they also did not do an ultra sound to check the sex. When I was born, I was assigned female at birth and the nurse said I was a “Nathanette!”

(ANAB—assigned Nathanette at birth).

After that, my mom considered having her tubes tied, had an appointment with a gyno and everything. She said something told her it wasn’t time and she cancelled her appointment. She got pregnant again, and assumed this one would be a girl as well. Then my younger sibling was born, assigned male at birth. My parents gave them two first names and one middle name, all traditionally religious names. None of us other siblings had religious names.

Jokes on them, I came out as NB trans masc a few years ago. I go by Emmett now. My supposed younger “brother” came out as trans femme about a year ago. Not only did we do the ole switcheroo, if my parents weren’t so religious and transphobic, they’d see they were right after all. I’m just not a Nathan, I don’t want a fuck ass religious name lmao.

TLDR: Parents thought I was gonna be a boy due to family friends telling them they had a vision from god they would have a boy. They named me Nathan before I was born, and I was assigned Nathanette at birth (AFAB), and years later I came out as trans. So did my younger sibling, we’re trans siblings! So in a way, they were right! Still not going by Nathan tho, lmao.

[u/CuddlesForLuck]

Dylan is a based name!...
Then again, I am Fred.

[u/BunOnVenus]

Mine called me "a disgusting tranny with a prostitutes name" lol

[u/cephalopodcat]

I've been floating name changes, toying with them online and in my head, but... Honestly, I don't hate my birth name. I'm named after an aunt I really adore, who's been great to me and her kids, and like. I think my only option would be to name myself after her husband/my uncle, who is also the coolest dude I've ever met. But also I like my birth name! I think I'd like to be enby/a dude, but also. I don't hate being female either, as a gender thing. (Physically sucks tho.)

Honestly this only occurred to me NOW as I'm typing so I'm sitting here like 'well. Scott is kind of awesome actually'.

[u/Substantial_Unit_447]

I believe that if your parents are tolerant and accept your transition, they should at least have the possibility of suggesting a name for you. They gave you your name at birth and I believe that they deserve to be consulted, at least to suggest the name, of course, everyone is free to choose what they want

[u/Semicolon1718 → u/Substantial_Unit_447]

I think this can make sense if you haven't already picked out a name and been going by that name with people you were out to. Like personally, I already have my names (real and american) picked and have been using them for 3 years, it'd be a bit strange to let them pick atp (although I did go with the name i would have gotten if i was born a girl so)

[u/diceswap → u/Substantial_Unit_447]

I hear where you’re coming from, but if you consider how selfish a lot of future-grandparents get about baby naming choices, it’s not something I’d put any weight on.

I do have a friend came out as “probably trans, still sorting stuff out…” and talked about it with her mom, including names because they had a few they were trying out. One would have been her dad’s girlfriend before dating their mom, so they had a good laugh and crossed that one off.

[u/blancybin → u/diceswap]

I think age and, of course, relationship plays a big role -my best friend's oldest is working their way through early transition, and names and pronoun switches (currently they/ she) have certainly been consulted on at kiddo's request, but that's because they have a strong relationship and she started social transition as a late teen.

[u/BleachedJam → u/Substantial_Unit_447]

If my kids end up trans I hope they tell me before they pick a name. I would want to support and help them through the gender search time, I wouldn't want them to keep it from me for long enough to pick a name, ya know?

...also my eldest named her Sprigattio in pokemon Blue Horn so idk maybe she needs a bit of help in the naming department.

[u/Doveda]

I still think my mom avoids using my chosen name, Jane, purely because she thinks it's a bad name. I pointed out that she has a friend named Jane and she was just like "well, she didn't choose it for herself. It's not her fault"

[u/mortuarybarbue]

Well it's better than Walter or Milton.

[u/Stay_Good_Dog]

Both my kids have come out and changed their names. I had worked so hard to NOT pick rhyming names. What did they do? They picked fucking rhyming names. I love both choices, but COME ON!

[u/ProfessorZhu]

Before Karen became a meme, that's what I was going to go with. My mom said, "There's no way in hell I'll ever call you Karen!" At first, I was hurt, but after talking to her, my mom had been friends with a woman named Karen who stole her identity

After the meme blew up, I thanked my mom profusely. My mom was a real one. I miss you, mom

[u/hi_i_am_J]

sending this to my cis friend named Dylan

[u/Dankestgoldenfries]

My sister went to school with a kid that chose Fluttershy when she came out. Goes by Flutter to this day afaik

[u/TheScalemanCometh]

I had the same reaction to my buddy Jethro. "Dude... of ALL the names you could have picked... why that one?" "My grandad was fucking awesome." "And named Jethro I presume?" "Yup." "Fair point."

[u/BrokenBanette]

Dylan 🤝 Mildred

[u/Lonewolf2300]

"I accept your Gender Identity, but you need to pick a better name."

[u/FlockOfDramaLlamas]

My mother was more disgusted when I told her I was a Hufflepuff than when I told her I was queer lmao

[u/NipperSpeaks → u/FlockOfDramaLlamas]

I don't get to say this on this sub much, but good parenting there.

[u/dutcharetall_nothigh]

My reaction at the end of children of men

[u/angelofmusic997]

My dad’s main question when I came out as non-binary was “can I still call you kiddo?” Which I excitedly told him yes, cus I’ve always LOVED that nickname.

[u/fembus]

fwiw my mom said the exact same thing about my first name lol so i decided to revisit it bc i had also had second thoughts and i think i ended up with a much cooler more original name that fits me much better

[u/Stalwart_Vanguard]

Glad i ditched it :3

[u/pissedoffjesus]

At least it wasn't wolfie.

[u/rainbowkey]

She probably either dated or knew a Dylan that she now dislikes.

[u/DylanSpaceBean]

I too want to know why Dylan of all things

[u/Tyrannical_Requiem]

I took my name from my best friend of 32 years mom! I also asked for permission and she said yes

[u/xXTheGrapenatorXx]

If I had been a girl I was going to get one name that a friend of my Mom's used for her baby first (and dick move but also thank god tbh, she was gonna name me Jacqueline Danielle because she was a bartender and "thought it sounded cute"... imagine every time giving your middle name and people are like "... was your Mom like... an alcoholic?"), then her plan B was arguably Tragedeigh material (I would've been "Jenica" because Jennifer and Jessica were "too common"; good news is that is actually is a standard name too but she didn't know that at the time). When I was born she still didn't have a boys name picked out and my name is the first thing that came to her mind when the nurse asked (very "White Guy Preset #4" kind of name; I like it fine that way).

I guess if any expecting parents are reading this I'd say don't be afraid to go with your second or third idea, maybe they'll grow up happy you went with the "basic" name, Cis, Trans, or anything else.

[u/Pr0fessionalAgitator]

My wife’s deadname is Dylan, and she changed it.

So I get not wanting to choose the name…

[u/charbroiledpossum]

Go with DY lon

[u/40percentdailysodium]

My name confused my family because I pulled an uno reverse on my ancestors and turned my English/French pronounced name Spanish again.

[u/Illustrious-Case-457]

For me it was "why Michelle, I chose Michaela as your name before you were born???" (because apparently my parents thought they would get a girl and then got a baby boy instead, who is now a girl again)

[u/MaxMcLarenTBSL]

"Oh, you're changing your name to Kai? How original."

[u/Celestina-Warbeck]

I came out to my mum as bi, and she was like yeah same and I also think about animals sometimes. What in the everloving fuck mum...

[u/Alive_Ad_5931]

Named after the five greatest rappers of all time.

[u/hyrellion]

I tried to get my mom to help me pick a new name. She was a huge asshole about it. So she didn’t get to have any input ¯\ (ツ) /¯ sucks to suck. My name is much cooler than hers

[u/Kaiser_-_Karl]

Just yesterday i was running a fever of 105, mom was convinced it was estrogen causing it? So i hauled myself out of bed and covid test said positive and she goes "estrogens probably how you caught it". So

[u/PICONEdeJIM]

Honestly my parents have no right to start criticising my name. YOU TRIED TO NAME ME FUCKING GRENTON. EVEN JUDAS WOULD HAVE BEEN A BETTER PICK. WHAT THE HELL WERE YOU ON THAT THAT WAS ONE OF YOUR BEST CHOICES. Thank the Christ they saw sense and gave me a dull but normal name eventually, even if my actual name is far better

[u/Abalone_Admirable]

When my child told.me they wanted to change their name to "Casey" i was so upset. My husband was shocked, because we knew my kid was definitely not a straight arrow.

I just hate that name so damn much tho. Reminds me of Casey Anthony. There are so many nice names! Why that one????

[u/travischickencoop]

My mom didn’t like my new surname I chose because it sounded “Too hippy”

Close mom, I’m goth

[u/nome_ann]

Hi Dylan!

[u/SasparillaTango]

dylan spits hot fire.

the top three rappers are dylan, dylan, and dylan!

[u/ScreediusTollinix]

When I came out to my older brother(keep in mind i am from russia) using name Stanislav, he just said s he knew i'd choose just this.

And also I am being slightly bullied by my father. Also not for trans reasons. He just said I had music taste of 1980s stoner and this kind of became a meme

[u/Due-Buyer2218]

I have had a similar reaction (internally) to several people telling me their chosen names (most of them changed them outside of my control so maybe I was just right but yk)

[u/chilarome]

my childhood bully’s name was Dylan and I hope you do the name better than he did!!

[u/itsurbro7777]

The name "Dylan" sounds like how they say "low IQ" in mandarin. Maybe that's why lol

[u/DJ_Stapler]

Lol this is really funny to me because that's my deadname. I was wondering if my parents were on crack with that name lmao

[u/HeeyItsMars]

My birth name is Dylan and it’s bigender but I still had to change it idk why I just didn’t like it

[u/ChloeIsObsessed23]

when i told my mom my chosen name (at the time it was Lucas) she said "thank god you picked a normal one"

[u/rolfraikou]

Does anyone know of someone that just asked "hey, parent. If I had been born a (blank) what would you have named me?" and then used that when they transitioned?

[u/SuperTulle]

Met a trans guy a few years ago who called himself Elon. I never asked if he chose the name before or after the Elongated Muskrat turned out to be a shitweasel

[u/Pumaheart]

My name doesn’t actually have any deeper meaning, it just came to me one day

[u/Lubbafromsmg2]

im a trans girl named Dylan. what's wrong with it its a good name.

[u/VegaPunk83]

My mom was suprisingly accepting when i told her i changed my name but when i told her i changed my last name too she laughed and said that I was dumb. By a woman who has changed her last name at least 3 times....

[u/totallynotalaskan]

When I was outed as asexual (and after tensions died down with my conservative parents), I told my mom about those old Tumblr ace jokes about preferring cake, garlic bread and dragons over sex so she makes cake jokes with me every once in a while

[u/Idiotstick687]

Me when my mom didn't like my first chosen name so I picked a different one and she liked it more (it was honestly better than the first one)

[u/Vinerd540]

Yeah not dylan... not dylan. And definately not Hunter, noooooo.

[u/mytransthrow]

I picked an very uncommon name for myself because there is no real association with it.