Getting a second (or 3rd) opinion, how to handle?

[u/popsicle1001]

How do you approach getting a second opinion (for those that do)? Do you tell your oncologist? Only tell them if it differs? Do you continue to consult with a second Dr or just pick one team or the other?

It just seems so awkward.

For context I got a second opinion for a new diagnosis. They more or less concur with the first doc and both are myeloma specialists. I want to keep working with my current team but continue to consult with the second dr as they have access to a lot of clinical trials and are very knowledgeable, at a big center.

I told my primary I wanted to get one and they encouraged it but want to tell my oncologist now and not sure how to handle it. My primary said Drs should not be upset over 2nd opinions. Thoughts?