r/pancreaticcancer • u/Appropriate_Night432 • 4d ago

venting Mom passed away on Sunday.

My mom was diagnosed with stage 4 pancreatic cancer in mid june and it spread to her liver in a little over a month. She was very young, only 44 and I myself am 17. She did 3 rounds of chemo and they weren’t effective so she was put on palliative care and passed away on Sunday. I am so heartbroken and don’t know how to keep going without her. She was my best friend and I feel so lost without her and constantly feel like I could’ve done something to help or save her.

What has helped you cope with the loss of someone with pancreatic cancer?

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u/PermissionAwkward113 4d ago

My Mom passed March 30th after a 72 day battle with Stage 4 pancan. All I could do was love and care for her with all I had and make her comfortable. I wish there was a cure or something I could have done. Be gentle on yourself. It is a brutal and agonizing disease especially at that stage.

I utilize all our Hospice supports for bereavement and I am in grief counseling. I have gotten my hands on every book I think might help. There is nothing but grace and time. My heart is with you 

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u/Appropriate_Night432 4d ago

I am sending love your way. Is there any specific book you’d recommend? :)

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u/PermissionAwkward113 3d ago

I really got a lot from "Grief Day by Day" from Jan Warner and "Grief is a Sneaky Bitch" by Lisa Keefauver 

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u/Appropriate_Night432 3d ago

I will check them out :)