r/pancreaticcancer • u/Appropriate_Night432 • 4d ago
venting Mom passed away on Sunday.
My mom was diagnosed with stage 4 pancreatic cancer in mid june and it spread to her liver in a little over a month. She was very young, only 44 and I myself am 17. She did 3 rounds of chemo and they weren’t effective so she was put on palliative care and passed away on Sunday. I am so heartbroken and don’t know how to keep going without her. She was my best friend and I feel so lost without her and constantly feel like I could’ve done something to help or save her.
What has helped you cope with the loss of someone with pancreatic cancer?
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u/momofchanel 3d ago
I am so sorry for your loss sweetie, you are too young to deal with such pain and grief. It’s so hard I can not imagine :/ I stopped by your post to tell you that your mom was so young to deal with that cancer so have they done her genetic testing ??? If they don’t, you must pressured them do to you. If you have any family members from her side dealing with some cancers too please advocate your self. Every pancreatic cancer patient needs to do genetic testing especially the young ones. (I know you are in so much pain right now and you can not understand very well but please meet the oncology team and do the test).
About your loss, please surround your self with family and friends that love you and support you. Those who cheer you up, they are there when things are tough. Therapy does miracles too. If you want to speak about mom do so, if you don’t, don’t do it. Do things you love and be happy - this is the only thing mothers want from us. Whenever you accomplish something, whenever you are smiling it’s the best gift and memorial for her. I know it’s so hard not being with her, not sharing things, I wish you never had to go through this !! But we can not change things … we can only cope with them