r/selfhelp • u/BossMoves69 • 4d ago
Advice Needed: Financial Need to get out of hell
I live in a roach infested apartment with my mom. I work full time, but wage is not enough to move out and I just can’t bear it no more. Every time I get home I get depressed when I see those roaches everywhere. I feel like I just want to end it all because I see no escape.
Idk if I even nailed the flair. Forgive me and thank you to anyone bothering to read this.
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u/Tomahawk297 2d ago edited 2d ago
I hear the weight of everything you’re carrying. It’s real, and it’s heavy, and I wouldn’t dare minimize it.
Your experience of suffering is very real.
But I want to offer you something deeper than sympathy. I want to offer you a different lens, one that helped me start to crawl out of a similar pit some years ago.
There are laws that govern this universe. Not laws made by men, but laws that are written into the fabric of existence. One of them is the law of cause and effect. You might hear it called karma, but not in the way it’s often twisted. It’s not punishment. It’s there for your soul’s evolution. Every experience, every pattern, every pain that repeats across your life is trying to show you something your soul came here to understand and transcend.
The pain you’re in didn’t start with you. Most of it has been passed down. Generational pain. Trauma. Dysfunction. Lack. You inherited it the same way you inherited your eye color. But just because it was given to you doesn’t mean it belongs to you forever.
The universe will keep repeating the same lessons until your soul learns them. Not to be cruel, but to set you free. If you carry the same wounds into the next life, they’ll return again. The same type of family. The same type of suffering. The same frustration. Over and over until you finally say, “I choose something else.” This is also why suicide is completely pointless, only those who don’t understand would ever do such a thing.
The same quality of thoughts/feelings/situations/beliefs/struggles that you have now will be the exact same quality of thoughts/feelings/situations/beliefs/struggles that you will experience forever until you learn what all of your suffering is here to teach you.
That doesn’t mean everything changes overnight. But the moment you say yes to growth, the universe shifts. The moment you look at your pain and ask what it’s trying to teach you, the pattern weakens.
When you choose responsibility instead of blame, even when you have every right to be angry, something powerful begins to rise in you.
This lifetime is sacred. Even with the roaches. Even with the parents who couldn’t show up. Even with the prayers that seemed to go unanswered. Because somewhere in all of that, there’s an opening. There’s a crack where the light can come through.
The question is, will you let it?
You’re not broken. You’re not abandoned. You’re being invited. Invited to rise above the level of consciousness you were born into. Invited to become the kind of soul that never has to repeat this again.
And you can. Even if it’s slow. Even if it’s just one small act of courage a day. One honest conversation. One moment of silence where you listen inside instead of outside. One decision to no longer see yourself as a victim of your story, but as the one who gets to rewrite it.
You have more power than you’ve been led to believe. The pain isn’t here to crush you. It’s here to awaken you.
And I’m going to be blunt with you. When the suffering is extreme, people almost always take 1 of 3 routes. Either they 1. Commit suicide, 2. Do substances to numb or 3. Learn soul lessons and transcend their struggles
I know that might sound like bullshit in the middle of roaches and financial issues and other struggles, but that’s the truth.
Just for reference I spent years in drug addiction and poverty. I now have a successful business and a wonderful family and I’ve been sober from addictive substances for 10 years or so with not a single craving or desire left in me for that stuff.
I attribute every single one of my life’s transformations to understanding what I explained above and taking up a life of devotion to growth and learning about myself and who/what I truly am beyond even the human experience,
Blessings
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u/BossMoves69 1d ago
I want to honestly thank you for this wise answer to my situation. Somehow, these days I chose exactly what you told me here. I am currently taking the leap of faith, choosing to be a fighter and to treat it all with courage. I am learning to take responsibility for all of my life, to forgive and to understand everything that has happened. I choose to live a life that I love and to make it the way I want it to be. Your answer came at the best time.
Also, would you mind if I send you a message to help you for some advice?
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