I just failed a 2week streak and i dont know how to succeed. I have tried so many times but no matter what i do i cant succeed like its just impossible. Please help.

Edit: if i succeed a week then maybe ill do weekly updates or smth to help me stay focused. Thanks for helping.

Edit: after multiple fails i am now 8 days in, going strong, ill try post next week if i succeed

I just spent the whole entire day on my phone. I don’t think I looked up from it once. YouTube is the addiction that I can’t shake off. It really grosses me out on how glued I am to it. It really is making me sad that I am wasting my life on it each day.

Please give me some tips…

(Please be specific. Don’t just say, “find a hobby”, give me some fun hobbies to do.

(17M) I’ll be 18 in three months but i’m literally a loser i work at a movie theater and i make minimum wage. My whole life ive been broke and i come from a poor household not really poor poor but my dad barely makes enough and i just waste my money on weed and vapes. I’ve been dealing with addiction for the past 3 years and i also well have a big problem with watching porn but that’ll have to be another convo for another time. I really want to get ahead in life and quit weed and quit smoking i’m also over weight so i really just need advice on that but my mind is really on money. People who know stocks or people who know how to do side jobs or side gigs, can anyone give me advice ? I don’t want to be a broke addict anymore and i especially don’t wanna work a 9-5 and stay in the same place my parents did. I really want to learn how to invest so can anyone help a brother out?

Its hard to pick a flair because all of them apply

No job

Debt piling up

No money for therapy or any kind of help

Im just still stuck at home and no matter what I do I just find myself stuck even worse than before.

I've had to come to terms that my family will never understand mental health and my own mother has downplayed my sexual assault life when my older brother would SA me for years and she still expects me to still talk to him like I wasn't taped at all and have sunshine and rainbows and flower crowns.

My mom has downplayed my mental health and brushes it off everything but if she is going through stuff she expects me to cater to her

A mother who also gropes me inappropriately despite me literally saying no for years

I suffer in silence

And I feel like the suffering is affecting me. I feel burnt out in life

I want to wake up early and workout for my health and not to just be skinny, I need body movement to save my life and my mind

I have to find a way to change my work experience because retail and customer service in the US is harder to get in, I cant go back to school because were so poor and our credit score is dogshit, I now have to figure out what I should be doing when my drive to learn new things is gone now

I need to doordash to survive while I look for more work

I need to try and find ways on my own to try and change my mind

But I cant

My body feels so heavy with the weight of my depression. I can write down a clear and concise schedule of what I need to do, and I cant do them

I feel... tired, done

I dont know what to do with my life anymore, I dont know who I am anymore, I dont know what to do anymore

I am a big procrastinator. Although I somehow do my work but at the last moment because of my procrastination. I want to be better and do everything at time so that I can also have sometime for creativity or self development. Suggest me what to do!

I set an extremely low bar for myself. 20 minutes of focused worked daily. Sounds easy, yet I am still struggling.

My main issue is focusing, I'm constantly distancing myself, I get work done at a snails pace and then I eventually quit because of that, it's too boring.

Laziness is ruining my life. I'm starting college soon, and if I don't get my shit together I'm going to get awful grades.

Any advice on what I do to fix this, strategies, or anyone in a similar situation who got it sorted? Anything is appreciated. Cheers.

Every time I try to build a new routine whether it’s journaling, working out, or waking up earlier, I stick with it for a week or two and then completely fall off. It makes me feel like I’ll never be consistent with anything.

For those of you who’ve been able to turn habits into a real lifestyle, what actually worked for you?

I’ve noticed a common cycle:

1. Read a self-help book
2. Highlight 50 quotes
3. Forget 95% within a week
4. No real change

That sucks.

Some books are actually marketed better than they are written — they feel overhyped once you read them. That sucks.

What I really wanted was something like a “recipe”: a distilled, actionable essence of the book, not just a summary, but something that helps me choose better books and also retain and apply more from the ones I do read.

Because of this, I’ve started building my own ad-hoc solution for myself.

How do you separate books that are genuinely worth your time from those that are just good marketing? And what’s your method for turning what you read into actionable insights that stick?

I'm kinda addicted to internet because it helps me not to think since I only think bad sad stuff.

Any tips on things to do to substitute this addiction for something healthy or good for me ?

id like to mention its a long road to imrpovement for me, my current state is definitely on the non desirable side of the scale. ive been living in a loop for years , opposite of productive which has costed me a lot but i do deal with mental issues without any real help. im trying , and i just wanted to ask about how i can commit to the things i need to do better , or how i can be more inclined towards my goals. its almost like i wake up and forget or my brain gives up on all the work i need to do. ive tried sticky notes method too , dodnt work. any advice would be appreciated with people experiencing or overcoming this issue, thank you.

I don’t know if this will sound funny or just weird but it’s the truth. I’ve realized that I don’t really take life seriously at all, and IDK why. I procrastinate like a pro, avoid important tasks and treat everything way too casually. I’ve lost interest in almost everything and most of my time just goes into overthinking my past traumatic moments and doom scrolling for just temporary peace. I wanna change this. I really want to take life seriously. But whenever I try, I feel helpless, underconfident, and weak inside like I don’t feel that strength to actually do it. This negativity is ruining everything. I am not able to find any way out of this...

Over the years of working with people on their personal growth, I’ve noticed something interesting: Most people don’t fail because they’re lazy or lack discipline — they fail because they think self-improvement is something you “achieve” instead of something you live.

When people treat growth like a project with a finish line, they burn out or stop when life gets busy. But the ones who stick with it long-term see it differently:

1. They make improvement part of their identity. It’s not “I’m trying to be healthier,” it’s “I’m the kind of person who takes care of their body.”

2. They focus on systems, not streaks. Streaks get broken. Systems get rebuilt.

3. They measure backwards. Instead of obsessing over how far they have to go, they notice how far they’ve already come.

In my coaching work, this shift often turns self-improvement from a short-lived phase into a lifelong habit.

How do you personally make sure your self-improvement efforts last more than a few weeks?

I've had this issue since forever but it only really affects me during the summer, so right now, anytime I wake up, as long as I'm still sleepy or can go back to sleep I don't get up and I go right back to sleep. I woke up at 12pm today, I went right back to sleep and now it's 6pm, (I slept at 8:30am tho cause I couldn't fall asleep any earlier so that's why I woke up so late)

I need to fix my sleep schedule since school is now very close, and I know I cant force myself to go to bed early, but I can force myself to wake up early, so the only issue for me is, how do I actually get up?

I’ve been feeling a weird pressure lately, like if I’m not improving, I’m failing.
But what if sitting with your emotions is a kind of progress? Not sure if anyone else feels this way, but I’ve been learning to track my mood without forcing change. Just observing. It’s been weirdly freeing.

Curious: How do you sit with your emotions without judging them?

So I recently came across a mental attitude. Basically, it describes taking on a a mental attitude, usually involving positive self-talk, so much so to the point where you are actively lying to yourself. The idea is that your mind is so into the lie that you actually become whatever your positive self talk is.

I wanted to ask for advice in how far one should take this. I am a violinist studying at an undergraduate level and want to use this to my advantage. The potential drawback I see with this is what if I take this too far? Will I become unaware/ignorant of the issues in my playing?

What do you guys think?

Activities which would enhance the dopamine levels in the morning and aid in productivity and motivation.

I used to get things done because I didn’t fully trust my abilities so I had to push myself harder. But now my ego has grown so much that I feel like I can accomplish things even before I try. Since I started feeling this way I’ve stopped getting things done.

I’m not used to this feeling, My ego seems to be interfering but I know I’m capable of succeeding.

Where did this strong feeling of my own abilities come from? And why can’t I make good use of it?

I am a big procrastinator. Although I somehow do my work but at the last moment because of my procrastination. I want to be better and do everything at time so that I can also have sometime for creativity or self development. Suggest me what to do!

I have simply failed at life so far. I have no degree aside from my high school diploma, no valuable education whatsoever, and have been without gainful employment for two years, mooching off my wonderful partner. They're incredibly supportive, but are clearly burnt out and don't have much education themself, keeping us alive working front desk at a therapy practice for kids. But that place is clearly moving to fire them soon, and it's on me to find other employment.

I flunked out of college 3 times. Never had any aspirations of getting a job and still don't. I don't really want to work. My body can't really take it (I have degenerative disc disease, which is basically "Back Hurts" disease), and I'm overweight, irritable, confrontational, and outspokenly political in a very red state. But my partner- the love of my life- deserves a break and I want to give that to them more than anything.

I have been fired from a sandwich shop because I couldn't stop crying due to pain.

Got my A+ IT certification and can't find work, everyone wants 2-3 years of experience and a degree. I did work a short 6 month contract and that was the only job where I finally felt like this was a job I could do without burning out in a year, and they won't hire me back because I got in a verbal argument with school staff (They put a sticker on my car windshield that wouldn't come off)

I am a loser, no doubt about it. I need a job where I'm sitting most of the time, in air conditioning. That's the entire reason I thought I'd be good at IT, but like everything else, I have zero passion for working it. I went to school for 1: Film (Dropped out after one semester), 2: Game Design (Dropped out after 2 semesters and hated it), and 3: IT (Can't afford to go back)

We're about to lose everything if I don't shape the hell up, but I can't find anything I can do. At least, nowhere that will get back to me. I have no idea how to get my life on track. I have entirely cut off my family and have no relationship with them anymore. They seriously messed me up and abused me as a kid, which is probably why I am like I am now. I'm full of rage at the system we live in, hatred for the people who run this world and who own businesses, and sick at the idea of having to work for someone else. But I have to. I need any advice that can be given. I need to do something with my life.

I’m 19 and I’ve got big goals. I want to do well in my studies, become successful, make something of myself — not just for me, but for the people who’ve had my back and supported me.

I know I’ve got the potential. I’m not perfect or anything, but I’m capable of a lot more than what I’m doing right now.

The problem is, I keep falling into this same loop every day. I wake up around 3am, make some tea, and sit down to get to work. And then… within an hour, I end up either falling back asleep or wasting time online. Watching videos, scrolling, getting stuck in content that’s just designed to suck you in. You know what I mean — the usual time traps.

It’s not like I want to do that stuff. I know it’s a distraction. I know I should be doing better. But I do it anyway. And afterward, I just feel disappointed. Not even because I’m lazy — but because I know better, and still fall for it.

I don’t want to live like this. I really want to focus, work hard, and get somewhere in life. I want to break out of this loop, but I don’t know where to start.

If you’ve been through something similar and actually pulled yourself out of it — what helped?

hello!

ive gotten quite addicted to my phone, especially when i have some free time. i automatically just go on social media and scroll for hours.

do you guys have any suggestions on what other things i can do that are more fulfilling and worth while that i can do indoors?

im even open to suggestions of things that are on your phone that are not social media, such as video games.

thanks!

Lately, I’ve been feeling like I’m losing my sense of purpose. I’ll have moments where I think, “Yeah, I can do this,” and I get a small spark of motivation… but then when I actually try to start, I either realize I’m not that good at it, or I just feel bored and disconnected.

It’s like I have these brief flashes of clarity, but they fade fast. I tell myself I’ll get it together, but the follow-through just isn’t there. Then I end up feeling more disappointed and kind of stuck in this cycle.

Has anyone else gone through something like this and found a way to break out of it? I’m not looking for some magic fix, but I’d appreciate any real advice or personal experiences that helped you reset, rebuild your motivation, or reconnect with your purpose. I know it has to come from within, but right now I feel like I’m running on empty and could use a little push in the right direction.

I'm in year 11 and I've recently heard that having a morning routine boosts your productivity/happiness by a MASSIVE amount, but tbh I have no idea what I'm doing. I (try to) wake up at 6:40 every morning and get on the treadmill for 20ish mins, then do shower stuff and I'm off with my day. At the moment my bedtime routine is acc shit. I know screens are bad but I'm always on my phone until 9 or 10 o'clock, meaning I actually only fall asleep until 11. Idk if this is related or not, but recently I've been waking up at 4:30 every morning for no reason at all. I don't know if its the screen time or other stress but I don't know how to stop myself waking up so early. Any help will be greatly appreciated!!!

I am a busy person with 3 part-time jobs, and I want to exercise every day because it helps me feel refreshed. However, sometimes I don't have enough time to fully focus on working out due to the various steps involved such as warming up, stretching after the workout .... Does anyone have any simple workout suggestions or routines that I can follow to exercise every day? Thank you guys for your comment <3

I’m naturally introverted and start uni soon, and i’m determined to make new connections and get out of my comfort zone, but even asking simple questions at stores or other places seem like such an impossible feat for me. How can I change this.