Help how do I speak louder?

[u/pinkpastelmoon]

I know this is about singing but i have no where else to turn to. How do I have a voice that "carries" in large crowds? Ive always struggled my whole life with being heard. Its so frustrating always being asked to speak up all the time or having to repeat yourself. It stops you from forming any meaningful connections too because how can anyone want to talk to me when im constantly repeating myself like an idiot? Ive tried every youtube video, speaking from my diapghram, blah blah blah. I feel like i have no control over my voice and its really impacting me now. most youtube videos want to make u do outlandish voice excercises and they help temporarily but i cant do voice excercises every time i speak especially in public. nothing seems to stick and i always find myself reverting to my stupid weak ass voice where i have to repeat shit 5 times just to be heard. willing to work with a speech therapist or voice coach if anyone is willing

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[u/Darkmayday]

I have a similar issue, i noticed i was speaking pretty low in my range. Speaking in my more 'excited mixed' range helped but of course brought my voice higher which wasn't always suitable but usually ok.

C2 low, G2 speaking was never strong, D3 was better and don't swallow your voice, make it forward brighter without too nasal

[u/SonicPipewrench]

I am sure there are other ways, but bel canto singing methods can be used for speech. This is similar to what old school Cantors use. It utilizes operatic squillo at the speech level.

DM me if you would like a free consult & demo

[u/Tessalynee]

I would suggest changing your speaking pitch. Some pitches naturally blend into background noise more, as I have noticed in my own voice. Test out speaking slightly higher or lower and see if that helps people hear you better.

[u/pinkpastelmoon → u/Tessalynee]

how do i do that? and more importantly how do i not revert back to my default voice :(

[u/Tessalynee → u/pinkpastelmoon]

You will revert back, but try to take notice of yourself reverting back and adjust as necessary. Eventually it will become more natural. Just think of Ariana grande, how she’s changed her speaking voice to be lighter to preserve her voice. Sometimes she reverts to her natural way of speaking, but she catches herself and adjusts.

[u/LutherHadegates]

I'm not a certified or licensed expert, but I am a classically trained choral singer. It sounds like you have a lot of insecurity with how others perceive you mostly with how it relates to your voice. You should talk with a therapist on that and how you can change your mindset and perception. As far as your voice, everyone has their own unique voice. Just like a fingerprint. Therefore, every voice is built differently than others. So, the perceived "weakness" isn't necessarily a skill issue, it's just how your voice sounds to you and/or how it is built. People may not hear you properly for a number of reasons including, but not limited to, lack of articulation, speech impediment, anxiety, vocal damage, or, and I believe this to be the most likely, speaking in a swallowed, hallowed tone. In order to project better, talk in a "brighter" tone. One way you can try this is purposefully smile as you talk and imagine your mouth shoots laser beams into people's ears. It may sound silly, but this will get you in the right physical position and mindset so you can project more and display more confidence. Hope that helps! :)

[u/Allison_SpeechCoach]

I hear what you're saying. Constantly being ignored and having to repeat yourself can wear you down. This is a real barrier, and it's completely understandable that it's starting to affect how you connect with people.

It also sounds like you've already tried just about everything. At this point, it might not be about another trick or exercise. Sometimes the real shift comes from working with someone who can look at your voice patterns directly and help you build habits that actually hold up in real life.

This is the kind of work I do. If you’re open to it, I’d be glad to connect and talk more about how vocal coaching could help. No pressure at all. Just wanted you to know there is support out there that doesn’t involve forcing your voice through another YouTube routine.

If you’d like, here is an article you might find helpful: https://connectedspeechpathology.com/blog/improve-your-voice-with-an-online-singing-voice-specialist. I also offer a free phone consultation if you’d like to talk through your goals.