How do you stop from getting emotional when you sing?

[u/FormerDeerlyBeloved]

I love sad songs--think they're beautiful, actually. The problem is, some of the most beautiful songs are the saddest ones, the ones that hit closest to home--I can't stop myself from getting choked up on these, which I'm sure you can tell ruins the vibe of the song past that point.

How do you keep the song seperate from the emotions without it coming out soulless or bland?

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[u/Aubadour]

Go with it. There’s plenty of time for bar crowds, background gigs, and dysfunctional band dynamics to make you jaded.

The more you connect with your emotions the more you will connect with the audience.

[u/Ill-Bake2638 → u/Aubadour]

I 1000% agree with this! It surely beats a singer who doesn’t connect with the emotions. It’s the secret sauce. I’m telling you from experience (35 years) run 🏃‍♂️ with it 🤣

[u/Former_Yogurt6331]

You have to embrace the emotion and channel it into the performance.

I understand and there are a couple that prove difficult for me.....but practice getting thru it and you will.

[u/WoodyToyStoryBigWood]

Look at gerard way live performances, he doesn’t stop himself and uses it as an asset

[u/Phosistication]

I distract myself with thinking about technique

[u/Ok-Mousse423]

U don’t

[u/RestaurantCandid5274]

The emotion is required, it means you’re doing it right. Leave the emotionless packaged robot sounds to the pop people.

It’s the whole reason to make music, an emotional organic connection to the sounds you’re making. :)

[u/FunSheepherder6509]

i might have read it on here but in the moment i tell myself that im being selfish and this is about and for the people im playing for - it works for me generally ( this is a Real issue for me so i get u ) -- to be clear , im still singing with emotion , just not literally crying and stopping

[u/Misguided_Avocado]

Do math problems in your head. Imagine that you’re folding socks. Visualize scrubbing your sink.

[u/BelleMused]

Channel the feeling into the "cry" tone that you sing with. Try to push thru the feeling rather than get stuck in the moment. Don't suppress but don't get stuck focus on still making the music and let the emotion drive you so it makes for an incredible performance.