r/stopdrinking • u/soberingthought 2283 days • 21d ago
'Tude 'Tude Talk Tuesday for August 19, 2025
Hello, fellow Sobernauts!
Welcome to 'Tude Talk Tuesday, where you're invited to share what changes you've noticed in your attitudes and perspectives since you've gotten sober.
I once heard someone say "We are gifts to one another" and that resonated with me.
As I've mentioned countless times before, in the last years of my drinking, I felt increasingly freakish and broken and alone. My drinking was out of control and no one else in my life seemed to have the problem with alcohol like I did.
When I decided to get sober and searched the web for "how to stop drinking" I came across this subreddit and found an entire community of Sobernauts, discussing alcohol as I understood alcohol and sharing their journeys and struggles freely and lovingly.
This community literally got me sober and changed my life. Each Sobernaut here who reads/upvotes/comments/posts from the heart is a gift and I am grateful for you all.
So how about you? Who are some gifts in your life of sobriety?
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u/Limp_Ad4694 314 days 21d ago
This community is my source for sobriety till now specially taking daily pledge not to drink alcohol for 24 HRS.AA has not worked for me even I get quanciquences joining it.I am not member of any organisation only this beautiful sub 🙏
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u/SaltyGalijun-1986 1 day 21d ago
6th day. The relief. The progress. Being proud of myself.
Those rhings cant be without alcohol.
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u/coIlean2016 304 days 21d ago
The relief is so real. I can tell you it gots stronger the further you escape it’s clutches.
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u/SaltyGalijun-1986 1 day 21d ago
Well yes, currently I am riding on high of not drinking. The desire for drinking just 1-2 beers has turned into disgust.
I wrote couple of weeks ago here that I am very social person who hangs around a lot and go to pub quizzes, and am in a society where drinking is pretty much a must (if you refuse a drink, people immediately, hypocriticaly, assume you have an issue). One redditer told me "nothing changes if nothing changes" and that is true.
But in these 5 days I have been: on cocktails with my gf, drinking 3 mocktails on beach, at my mother-in-law refusing a beer, at my parents lunch, drinking tonic water and with my friend (who happens to like rakija A LOT), also refusing (at which he pointed out, as I mentioned earlier - quote: "I don't drink alone" - that struck me pretty hard) to drink.
And hey, I still had great time. I feel relaxed, I feel like my mind is getting clearer, I am less affraid, much less anxious.
I wish this thing keeps me going.
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u/coIlean2016 304 days 21d ago
The relief is so real. I can tell you it gets stronger the further you escape its clutches.
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u/AdSmooth1977 737 days 21d ago edited 21d ago
My biggest gift in sobriety is my «normie» friend who almost never drinks. She’s never jugded me, but been rooting for me since the day I told her. I’m coming up on two years in a couple of weeks and have invited her to dinner to celebrate that milestone. It feels so good to have someone who gets that excited for me and my progress.
What helped me quit and stay sober is this community. I’ve never been to AA and I didn’t tell my doctor about my problems before I’d been sober for months. You guys are my daily lifeline and my friend is the one I get to share the milestones with IRL. I feel very grateful to have both.