r/stopdrinking • u/susu56 • 7d ago

Sober, gald I was

Went to a friend's dinner last night. It was about 10 of us total. Great food and lots of booze...lots. aside from a sip of my husband's old fashioned I had absolutely nothing. Drank my water all night, was "boring" (what i was told). Also witnessed first hand people going from being bubbly, fun, etc after a couple of drinks to total messes (slurring, dropping things, babbling on and on, etc). No judgements on them, we were in a safe place and they were enjoying themselves. But I will say, it felt good to have my wits about me, be able to drive home, wake up kindof refreshed on 5 hrs of sleep and be able to be productive today without a hangover.

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u/bassman651 280 days 7d ago

Let me tell you what lol

I play bass in a band. I used to always keep my bar tabs separate because I was afraid my band mates would be worried if they knew I was drinking. I would keep alcohol in my car because it was cheaper so my tab would be lower.

I used to always be worried about drinking around the guys when I first quit. It gets easier, but it takes time. The dudes were always great about not offering me any at practice.

Truth is: most places we play are bars or parties. We've been gigging less so it's been way easier. We have a double header this weekend and I can't wait to be the only not hungover one haha

Now when I leave gigs I leave with my pay and back pain. Much better than no pay and back pain for the whole next week lol

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u/susu56 7d ago

Good on you! That is amazing especially considering the environment. It took me a lot of day 1s, dealing with FOMO, etc to just start putting myself first.