r/stopdrinking • u/susu56 • 8d ago

Sober, gald I was

Went to a friend's dinner last night. It was about 10 of us total. Great food and lots of booze...lots. aside from a sip of my husband's old fashioned I had absolutely nothing. Drank my water all night, was "boring" (what i was told). Also witnessed first hand people going from being bubbly, fun, etc after a couple of drinks to total messes (slurring, dropping things, babbling on and on, etc). No judgements on them, we were in a safe place and they were enjoying themselves. But I will say, it felt good to have my wits about me, be able to drive home, wake up kindof refreshed on 5 hrs of sleep and be able to be productive today without a hangover.

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u/susu56 8d ago

It was difficult in the first hour just dealing with comments/questions "why aren't you drinking?" "Oh just one won't hurt" "you're boring when you aren't drinking" etc. The availability of the alcohol was not an issue so I felt good about not having any cravings...did I want just 1 drink to relax a bit? I did, but thinking what would happen next and saying to myself "You've made it this far, keep going" helped a lot. Best of luck to you tonight. IWNDWYT

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u/Posey74 141 days 8d ago

It blows my mind that anyone would tell another person they’re boring when they don’t drink, joking or not. I understand it says more about them than anything else but it’s just plain rude.

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u/Inderific 148 days 8d ago

I agree. It's just a really rude thing to say. It also says to me that this is a person who knows they have a drinking problem and they are pushing others to drink to help normalize it - while I never told anyone they were boring I might have been guilty of pushing booze a few times in my life, so there's that.

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u/susu56 8d ago

I've pushed the booze before too, I'm sure most of us have- so wasn't holding anything against anyone. And for majority of folks, booze=reward/relax or having fun. Its a short term "gain" for a long term (for myself) loss. The boring comment did hurt my feelings a bit because I think I am fun no matter what, lol.