r/technology • u/Choobeen • 9h ago

Society Research shows the 'compliment sandwich' is no longer effective - University of Western Ontario

https://phys.org/news/2025-08-compliment-sandwich-longer-effective.html
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u/Jack_Spatchcock_MLKS 8h ago edited 6h ago

In the Canadian Armed Forces, we were given the literal opposite: the shit sandwich.

TL;DR - Basically, it means chew out the soldier for whatever he or she did, give them 5-8 seconds to "explain/apologize/whatever", then finish with another chew out.

That middle part is crucial; just being allowed some kind of retort or reply psychologically let's the person know on some weird level that "they've at least had a chance to be heard".

It works in my experience, as both the guy getting yelled at, as well as the guy doing the yelling.

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u/FlametopFred 6h ago

ahh I see you’ve met my ex

you wouldn’t happen to have seen my esteem anywhere, would you? Might’ve been on the lawn

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u/WatchOutIGotYou 6h ago

Shit ... I ate it. It was in the fridge, and there wasn't a label or anything, and it was getting late. My bad. Can I pay you back with a Crunchwrap Supreme?

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u/cire1184 4h ago

Crunchwrap Supreme much better than self-esteem

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u/squirrels-mock-me 2h ago

If someone sold Crunchwrap Esteems, I’d probably gain 100 lbs but at least I’d feel good about it

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u/Jack_Spatchcock_MLKS 5h ago

Oddly enough, I did date a chick from Western Uni, many years ago~