r/teenagers • u/personthatisapersons 17 • 1d ago
Advice My mother keeps insisting I wear this hoodie, cause she bought it
I can't stand it, partially because it had something to do with a baby shower which was before I was born anyway
But mostly because it's AI slop, probably made in a sweatshop, and it's not even that warm or comfortable
Any reason I give is instantly shut down, per usual
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u/StevenTheNoob87 OLD 1d ago
Just eat more and stop exercising until you become fat, and tell your mom that you can no longer wear it.
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u/personthatisapersons 17 1d ago
I would if I already didn't feel like a fatass
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u/blueberryblunderbuss 1d ago
I'm old, so I don't know if this would work anymore.
Put it on and wear it out of the house when you're going somewhere, come home visibly shaken, and tell her someone who looked like they were 50 years old in a religious t-shirt was flirting with you and said this hoodie signaled your availability for multiple partner sex in non-consensual role play.
Post the results in /r/traumatizeThemBack.
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u/personthatisapersons 17 1d ago
Oh god that's something new 😭
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u/Trans_Rose1 16 1d ago
Do it, give in to the evil
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u/personthatisapersons 17 1d ago
That is absolutely diabolical, unfortunately, I am a pussy 😞
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u/Trans_Rose1 16 1d ago
I agree, you are a coward, though, idea, "accidentally" rip it, like, a big rip, go to the park and sneak a pair of scissors (cheap is preferable, you would want to leave them behind) and make a small hole, then just rip it open by hand until it is destroyed, ditch the scissors and go home, oh yeah, also, wear a shirt under it, act like you were messing about and while running hit a sharp corner and it ripped through it, also, make the hole really big so that she can't just sew it back together
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u/personthatisapersons 17 1d ago
Maybe this if I still have those scissors, I got a bunch of ideas from these comments and I'm trying to note them to see what can I do, thanks
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u/Camiiole 14 22h ago
anyone that reads this; dispose the scissors in a trash can nearby or somewhere more private where not anyone can just spot it and take it 😭 that is soo dangerous to leave out and about.
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u/Trans_Rose1 16 18h ago
...thought that a trash can would be kind of the obvious best choice here...oh wait, people are y'know, people, I agree with you
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u/Camiiole 14 18h ago
LMAOO no fr people will be step by step. when u say ditch the scissors they will literally ditch the scissors right then and there 😭 like noo bby💔
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u/Haestienn 1d ago
Then it's time to hit the gym
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u/Ready_Guide869 1d ago
Become too slim to wear it?
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u/PondersOverYonder 21h ago
If he just has a surgical procedure and removes that middle part between his neck and his waist he wouldn't have to wear the hoodie
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u/StevenTheNoob87 OLD 21h ago
Do you mean removing his spine so he'll no longer be alive enough to wear clothes?
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u/oceanicwave9788 13 1d ago
Then tell her NO. Your 17, your nearly a adult. She cant tell you what to wear at all. Tell her that it is AI slop, tell her that it is uncomfortable.
Tell her. Don't make her shut you down.
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u/personthatisapersons 17 1d ago
That's what everyone keeps telling me but with my mother it's harder than I thought, every year since I was 14 I thought it'd be like "Yeah I'm closer to an adult now I'll be able to stick up for myself" But with her it feels very impossible to just tell her no, I've even told her it's AI and the response was basically "So?"
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u/oceanicwave9788 13 1d ago
it is easier said then done maybe I recommend not wearing it at all and if she brings it up say something like it's uncomfortable or another point.
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u/personthatisapersons 17 1d ago
I tried to bring up that I had a warmer one, which I do, and is significantly more comfortable, but "Since I bought it you're gonna wear it" whenever she says that I really don't know what to say back, I could think of all the things I want to say but just bite my tongue and go quiet
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u/oceanicwave9788 13 1d ago
tell her "you bought it so you wear it" then just give it to her. Or you could just bin it or 'magically' lose it.
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u/personthatisapersons 17 1d ago
I know that if I did either of those things I'd be skinned alive, when I would lose things like a water bottle as a 3rd grader I'd get screamed at and berated for hours, and any back talk, attitude etc is also reason for hours of beratement and punishment.
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u/Ok_Prior_4574 1d ago
This was exactly my experience coming up. I've learned that, no matter how reasonable your argument, you will never convince them because their mind is closed. You can't control what they say, do, or demand. All you can control is your reaction and your choices. On this, you can be unwavering, if you choose.
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u/personthatisapersons 17 1d ago
I try my best to just stay quiet when it happens, so many times do I think I have a point and I just keep it to myself, some other user asked about "physical strength" which I mentioned the scuttle we got in, she layed her hands on me and got mad at me for defending myself, which has happened multiple times before, not often but 5-6 times.
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u/Historical-Gap-7084 1d ago
I know this is a sub for teens, but it came across my feed.
I'm a mom myself, and what your mom is doing is abusive. I'm so sorry. Talk to a trusted adult, possibly a school counselor or teacher, if you can.
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u/Due-Independent-7565 1d ago
You can tell her, your "bully" destroyed it when he made fun of you having it on. And you can throw it away.
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u/Cookie_hawk 1d ago
So that sounds like abuse. Threaten to call police, not over the hoodie, but over the fact she chose violence and the fact she sounds narcissistic
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u/personthatisapersons 17 1d ago
Weird thing was she threatened to call the cops on me last time...is that okay? She came onto me first, I only yelled a bit cause I was getting upset and she started attacking me
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u/oceanicwave9788 13 1d ago
maybe act like you never had it in the first place?
My tiny ass brain is running out of ideas rn
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u/personthatisapersons 17 1d ago
Don't worry, talking about it is helping, as for that I've tried, hid it in a drawer, and she kept bringing it up, cause to her its about the baby shower she had, and some costume I was made to wear as a 1 year old. She persistantly asked about "the monkey hoodie" and for a period she wouldn't let me wash clothes until I wore the hoodie
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u/Kush_the_Ninja 1d ago
Wear it once to school and then come back and say everyone made fun of you for it
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u/Fit-Director-4715 1d ago
This is actually psychotic, I'm sorry. Atp I would cut it into tiny pieces and sprinkle it over her bed like confetti. How are you putting up with this? I'm so so sorry.
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u/personthatisapersons 17 1d ago
And that's the weird part, I kind of tried to ignore this until today when I just felt a bit fed up about it and wanted to see what others thought, I thought it might've just been a normal thing or something
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u/oceanicwave9788 13 1d ago
Maybe ask for a substitute to that one like one less- like that?
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u/personthatisapersons 17 1d ago
She likes it too much...I had to point out it's AI, she keeps buying stuff from temu or whatever cause it's cheap, I have other hoodies from that godforsaken company and they're horrible, uncomfortable, and they have this weird material that will wick any sort of sweat.
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u/ladyofthesunray 1d ago
You could always just wear it around her every once in a while .. just long enough to make her think you started wearing it. You could even put it on just before leaving the house and then take it off and put it back on when getting home. It sounds like it's sentimental to her.. obviously it's not to you and you don't like it. But if like you said that just telling her no or you don't like it won't work.. then I think the only solution is to make her think you actually wear it and don't mind it. You just have to be clever about making it seem like you actually wear it out and about
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u/SuperPlays123 1d ago
how can she… not let you wash clothes? how could (or did) she stop you?
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u/HeavyStinkFinger 1d ago
Makes total sense then as to why you have reservations about expressing something as simple as a clothing preference to your mom. I’m sorry this has been your world. I hope if you are able to, that you talk to a professional and work through this. Took me almost 30 years to identify and work through parental trauma, if you are able to start now you will have a good head start.
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u/Glittering_knave 1d ago
Ok, so your Mom is being a terrible adult. And I feel bad for you for that. Wear the stupid thing out, change into your nicer one as soon as you are out of her sight, and then put it on again to come home. She's being stupid, you get to be sneaky. Also, wreck it, Get it super dirty, wipe your feet and pits on it so it smells and needs to be laundered. If you use skin care that has benzoyl peroxide, accidentally wipe your face on it, leaving bleach marks.
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u/personthatisapersons 17 1d ago
I'll give this a try, I have alot of skin medications and I'll check if any has that ingredient in it, Thanks
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u/Glittering_knave 1d ago
Do you have friends that wear makeup? Oh, no, they leaned their face on your shoulder, and now you need to wash it again! If a friend asked me for help becoming the dirtiest person ever, each time they brought out that stupid shirt, I would 100% help. In fact, I would "get cold" and borrow it and never give it back.
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u/MaxTheRealSlayer 1d ago edited 1d ago
May I suggest just asking to go shopping with your mom whenever you need new clothes?
Then if it's Christmas or whatever and she wants to gift clothing, she will know your exact preferred style.
Also, for this specific shirt: point out that Mr grumpy monkey has 6 fingers on each hand... And... The toes, idk what's going on there. It's certainly AI made, then printed on cheaper textiles.
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u/personthatisapersons 17 1d ago
Everyonce in a while I can get something I really like usually a band t-shirt or something, although most of the time when we're shopping I really have no control, she sometimes orders me stuff (like the hoodie) and I have no knowledge of it until it gets here, and I'm basically forced to wear it because she payed for it
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u/AggravatingFee591 1d ago
As someone who grew up with a mother who had similar over controlling habits as ops mom. A simple no would mean spending weeks grounded, if she didn't like my tone maybe a night outside. Everything in my room? In a trash bag. Parents who abuse power like this will continue to do so and unless OP has somewhere else safe to go saying no might not be an option
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u/Few-Affect-6247 1d ago
You better get your head on straight when it comes to this because this won’t ever stop simply because you’re an adult in the future. If you allow her to control you she will. This is textbook controlling behavior and if you’re too afraid to stick up for yourself it’ll continue indefinitely.
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u/boundzy_ 1d ago
It took me until I was 30 to get a backbone with my mom involving myself and my own family. Trust me when I say the sooner the better.
I've lost a car because of my mom. She wasn't listening to me when I said no to things involving my daughter.
I strongly recommend being polite but stern about it.
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u/personthatisapersons 17 1d ago
Thank you, I'm really going to try, as a lot of the comments have basically been trying to get me to stand up for myself a bit more, it's just a mix of fear and genuinely hating the confrontation, I appreciate your input and I'll definitely try my best
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u/boundzy_ 1d ago
Oh I was absolutely terrified to stand up to her. It took the right support system to finally do it.
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u/Comfortable_Egg8039 1d ago
Response to this So? is that it's ugly as fuck, my god this hands and feet 🤢
People will think you have zero taste, it's more than justifiable reason
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u/personthatisapersons 17 1d ago
I think I'm gonna go to Michaels or something, get some oversized white t-shirts and draw or whatever on them myself. It really is ugly...
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u/Then_Product_7152 22h ago
Yeah those comments are unrealistic. More and more people are living with their parents into their 20’s now because rent is crazy
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u/jerf42069 1d ago
you're gonna need to learn how to say no to her. It's a right of passage you need to go through before youre really an adult
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u/tessia-eralith 1d ago
Just say “it’s not my style mom. Don’t push me to change my style, or I might become cologne guy”
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u/bbqnj 1d ago
It can’t be from a baby shower from before your birth and also be AI, which one is it
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u/personthatisapersons 17 1d ago
It's not from my baby shower, it relates, was a monkey themed baby shower and I wore a costume when I was a baby
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u/Fit-Director-4715 1d ago
Literally just dont put it on. Just say I dont want to and dont put it on. Whats she going to do, force it over your head? I'm sorry shes treating you like this and not respecting basic boundaries.
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u/Trademarked07 1d ago
As OP said, they get yelled at and physically berated for hours
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u/Lontology 1d ago
Take it to school and “lose it” or say you lent it to a friend. Get creative and figure out a way to ditch it if you’re not up to telling her “no” yet.
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u/Distinct-Address3392 1d ago
“so? i’m not wearing it, you sure can though if you like it so much! but i’ll wear one of my own quality made hoodies thank you☺️”
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u/Cod3broken 15 1d ago
"Oh no, it accidentally fell into the fireplace. I'm so sad right now."
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u/Silent_Mess7453 18h ago
Burning it is stupid... just spill some bleach on it and say oops
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u/Sandy_X_Janet 1d ago
Just wear it inside out 👍
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u/personthatisapersons 17 1d ago
Actually was thinking of this one
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u/AmArschdieRaeuber 22h ago
You can also pretty cool designs with bleach. Just do it outside and don't get any on yourself.
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u/Available_Limit_4477 15 1d ago
Depending on how this was made, the design might wear off pretty easily- just wear it a couple times on days that you're home and try to scrape it off against walls. If she asks where the design went then you just tell her "it was from Temu, the quality was never gonna be good"
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u/personthatisapersons 17 1d ago
Maybe I'll rub it against some concrete to see what happens, although I feel like it won't come off, it's not that it's good quality but however they printed it on, but I'll see
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u/Unc1e_Mike 1d ago
Honestly I would scrape it with whatever I can find, the concrete, my nails, a fork. Do whatever you can to get that monkey unrecognizable and tell her this is what happens when you buy from temu, the quality is just bad.
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u/personthatisapersons 17 1d ago
Honestly I'll try, I have plenty of things to scrape with, thanks eczema for that, thing is I don't know if it would work, its that really weird smooth silk texture, like unnaturally smooth, almost plasticy
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u/Unc1e_Mike 1d ago
I’m not sure, but that kinda sounds like the material that gets destroyed with heat. Maybe try drying it in the clothes dryer on high heat, or using a hair dryer
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u/personthatisapersons 17 1d ago
Oh yeah, whenever we dry it I have to hang it up, cant put it in the dryer, might give that a try
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u/Some_Unit_89 1d ago
I've seen on tiktok that if you stretch the fabric with the plastic, it might rip and look ugly
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u/existential_denial 1d ago
if you have a washing machine, throw it in and wash it on really high temperature water. I've had some prints of mine melt and discolor, so maybe this one will, too?
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u/BikesSucc 21h ago
Your description of the plasticy texture make me think it might enjoy a hot cycle in the tumble dryer.
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u/Obamastrapphone 22h ago
Just soak it in isopropyl alcohol. Do it gradually so eventually monkey goes away.
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u/Squishy_Suga 1d ago
Honestly w these types of parents (my parents were debate students so they’re really hard to argue with) it reslly just needs to break before it can heal. you’ve gotta stand up for yourself and be prepared for a pretty nasty fight. You have to literally train your parents to know that you’re not standing down, you’re standing on business. You have to break rib bones when saving someone’s life with CPR. Nose jobs are done by breaking the nose and reshaping. You can do it.
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u/personthatisapersons 17 1d ago
I appreciate your words, they make alot of sense, I think I also need to try to stick up for myself more I admit, she likes to present that I apparently don't seem ready to be an adult to her but she shuts down most of my independent thinking, I'm just used to being shut down when it comes to things like this.
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u/IneedStarlight 1d ago
With parents like this you need to rebel. Its the only way to make it better. And in the long run it will probably be healthy for both you and your mom if you do that. Trust me!
Find a style you like and start wearing that. Every human has a right to freedom of expression.
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u/personthatisapersons 17 1d ago
I would, I really want to wear just whatever I like, but when I wear something, she gets on me "You're not leaving the house like that" same thing with my hair, want it longer, she wants me to be this image I honestly don't think I like.
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u/Squishy_Suga 13h ago
It’s very difficult living with parents like that. They put the entire relationship in your responsibility. but with that, you’ve got power. It’s not easy and it’s caused me a lot of stress and they only started getting better about a year ago. But it’s something you’ve just gotta jump into full force. Start being rebellious. Because without a fight there cannot be change. if she shuts you down, talk louder. if she disagrees, stand your ground. slam doors, curse, be an absolute nightmare.
It’s kind of like a revolution. Before the british colonized the Americas, they were facing such horrible challenges. So, they left. They fought. Not glamorizing colonization but it’s just for the metaphor.
Anyway, you’re stronger than you think. You’re stronger than she wants you to think. Rebel, revolt, reinstate and stand your ground. You’ve got this, bro. 😎
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u/YaBoiGPT 15 1d ago
burn it to make a statement
nah im fuckin with you you're 17 almost a grown ass dude, just tell her nah and to return it if possible cause it looks like shit
even better simulate yourself having getting bullied and be like "mom i told you this sucked i got bullied for it" and she'll take it back
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u/personthatisapersons 17 1d ago
I've thought of burning it ngl, and yeah I've mentioned the AI, I've mentioned how it'll kill me socially, I've had it for about a year and keep trying to hide it to forget about it but nothing works cause "she bought it"
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u/Arwinio 1d ago
Buy her something you know she will despise and see if she'll stick to her logic.
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u/CC_9876 17 1d ago
knowing my mom she'd absolutely wear something shitty just to make a point. Fucking narcissist has no consistent moral guidelines
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u/YaBoiGPT 15 1d ago
oof a year yeah that thing is not getting returned
honestly just say you lost it. when's your next fam vacay? you can ditch at a relatives place maybe? if you have a cool uncle ask him to hide it and if your mom asks him where it is he can cover for you? that'd be funny
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u/personthatisapersons 17 1d ago
Yeah my mother basically distanced herself from the relatives she didn't like (the ones I got along well with tbh) so we don't stay with relatives often, the other family member that we did see passed away a few years ago.
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u/YaBoiGPT 15 1d ago
dang im sorry to hear that
also i dont wanna be rude but your mother genuinely sounds like a piece of shit
atp sell it on fb marketplace if its not too damaged
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u/personthatisapersons 17 1d ago
I really just want to give it to her and make her wear it, if she thinks it's actually nice and this isn't some big joke on me
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u/21656 15 1d ago
seems like she can't accept that shes the problem. you just gotta defy her enough until she gets the idea. get back in contact with all the relatives and allat
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u/personthatisapersons 17 1d ago
Easier said than done, it's been years since I'd last seen them, although I know I'll most likely give her that treatment when I'm older and out, I already try my best to just keep to my own and not talk to her much, but definitely hard under the same roof. It's not only this either, one instance I can think of is that I really want to grow out my hair, maybe at least to my lower neck or something, and she cuts it regardless, the other day I tried bringing up that I don't like it super short, and that cutting off the front makes my forehead look huge, and she got really mad and started yelling at me about "How dare I tell her how to cut my hair"
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u/21656 15 1d ago
yeah,,, not a great situation. try reaching out over social medias like facebook, i'm sure they will understand where you are coming from and at least try to help
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u/personthatisapersons 17 1d ago
I'm sure they will...she tells stories about them and about work and quite honestly she sounds like a bad guy trying to make themselves as a good guy
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u/thotfullawful 1d ago
Oh dude my mom was like that, I remember she got me this dumb shirt at target and I never wore it because same reasonings but less AI. 6 months later she brings it up like she took a bullet for me getting it. I think I wore it once to appease her and then it went with donations immediately.
I know you're only 17 but I've been there with an unstable mother- save up and try to get out. My mom was like this, eventually she kicked me out for the 3rd and last time and I never went back [because I was told I couldn't but yunno] and I did a lot better for it. Honestly I wish i did it sooner, I felt like i had to play catch up because of how much she held me back socially and emotionally. I'm wishing you all the luck.
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u/le_artista 21h ago
How are you not a normal teen who lost their hoodie at school? (Trash it)
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u/personthatisapersons 17 21h ago
When I was younger I used to lose stuff like bottles and clothes at school, would get hours of reprimanding and yelling so I kind of became very mindful of most of my things, also I prefer bigger baggier clothes aka mostly hoodies and jeans
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u/Sirinaheartt 1d ago
Wear it and take it off when you leave the house. Or accidentally leave it at school, say someone took it off
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u/personthatisapersons 17 1d ago
I try to do the first when I'm able, but in the coming months I know its probably gonna get cold, and she'll barr me from washing clothes if I don't wear it
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u/N3bulochaotic 14 1d ago
uhh a second backup sweatshirt in the bag and just swap em out once you leave
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u/LetRevolutionary271 16 1d ago
Tell her the truth: AI makes images by stealing from other artists' artworks. It steals from hundreds if not thousands of artists to create slops like this. That it steals jobs from artists.
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u/personthatisapersons 17 1d ago
She won't care as long as its cheap for her, and I think thats also a general thing for some people, while I'm against it very much, I'd rather just hide it away out of shame and disgust, and I tried but she just kept bringing it up, disregarding my concerns.
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u/LetRevolutionary271 16 1d ago
Refuse to wear it, what's she gonna do? Punish you for not wearing a (n ugly) hoodie?
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u/personthatisapersons 17 1d ago
Won't let me wash clothes, barr me from using the machines unless I wear it.
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u/LetRevolutionary271 16 1d ago
Why's she obsessed with you wearing it 😭? It's cheap anyways
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u/personthatisapersons 17 1d ago
Has to do with a baby shower, and a costume I wore, and I guess she thinks its nice? she claims to be very tech efficient but can't seem to find the problem with an AI generated hoodie
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u/LetRevolutionary271 16 1d ago
Start handwashing your clothes then, she can't possibly ban you from the bathroom 💔
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u/personthatisapersons 17 1d ago
Fair point, lets just hope the other temu stuff just doesn't fall apart in the sink tho lol
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u/LetRevolutionary271 16 1d ago
Oh and if she bans you from using the dryer, use the Sun, in Europe it works very well to dry clothes
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u/personthatisapersons 17 1d ago
Well where I'm at tends to be cloudy as shit, I could just hang them around then, not a big deal
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u/YouOpenedItIArrived 1d ago
If she really is going to stand guard in front of the washing machine 24/7 just wash your clothes at a Laundromat
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u/Ulvaer OLD 1d ago
What do you mean it had something to do with a baby shower?
Anyway, the real answer is to talk calmly to your mum, explain how you feel about it and ask/tell her to respect your opinion. If she's buying clothes that you don't like, then buy your own clothes and ask for money from her instead. I'm sure there are clothes collection services in your local area if you want to donate it to someone.
Alternatively, use it as a snuggle hoodie on casual days home?
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u/personthatisapersons 17 1d ago
So before I was born whatever baby shower that happened was themed around monkeys, and I wore a costume when I was a baby
Yeah I've tried calmly speaking to her...but she insists and since she bought it apparently that means I have to wear it
Wouldn't mind using it at home but I'm pretty sure she'd be against it too
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u/lautfux 1d ago
What about Putting it in a frame for her and make a present to Put on the wall ?
In Case of a real pathetic Control Freak Parent:
Prepare yourself for your resistance to stay in an argument with her, maybe try some "mind Work" (beforehands) Like this:
Imagine the Situation, how she tries to make you wearing it as usual, but this time you keep watching yourself, as you say nothing more than "No." Nothing else to do, the rest ist Just her business. Feel(Imagine) the calmness in you, which just builds Up as she's getting angrier. Like a stone, Like a flowing River, Just keep thinking of this Images, maybe a Song in mind which might help you keeping Focus of the "no." and breath. And stick to the No. calm. Cool. Like water. No. A persistant No with a calm Look in her eyes. Imagine, how she slowly gets that from this time, you mean it and finally - leaves you in Peace. Your Body. Your choice. She can't pull it over like you re a Baby - If you stay with the no, leaving Out the usual big emotions like anger, anxiety etc. Where Focus goes, Energy flows.
Practice this Soul preparation a couple of times in your head, some days, take your time, until you get comfortable with the thought of yourself resisting with no emotional resistance (no excitement), which takes the Drama away from you and might leave her puzzled but - don't Care. It is her Show, you chose to Not participiate this time.
When you're ready, Go for it and say No.for real, as you prepared to. And hold focus on your helpful Image to Not adapt her Drama and feelings. Whatever she then tries to bring up to make you: Just. Stay. With. You. Imagine being a stone, someone, who watches the "drama movie" with your mum as Main character.
Maybe you think, how should that Help, but give it a try and begin building Up your mental strength. You're powerful.
No more leverage for mum's issues. You got this.
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u/MostafaTarekMortada 15 1d ago
The only thing i can think of right now is to go with your mother to a store and just buy a new monkey themed sweater that isn't AI slop, going off of your other replies
If that doesn't work, talk back, you're almost a grown man, even though countless other comments have already said this.
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u/personthatisapersons 17 1d ago
I don't even like monkeys, I haven't since I was like 1, especially not AI monkeys
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u/TryMinute162 1d ago edited 1d ago
Honestly maybe donate it somewhere, it's ai slop yes- but I'm sure homeless people or people financially struggling (esp with kids, as kids are always growing out of clothes constantly) would appreciate it (it's what I would do whenever I grew out of clothes, always donated them). Though..yea um..good luck with that, considering how strict your mom sounds 😭
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u/personthatisapersons 17 1d ago
Yeah, whenever I get the chance to move she can keep the hoodie, if the issue is about her buying it
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u/likethedishes 1d ago
I know everyone telling you to tell your mom to F off means well, but I know exactly what it’s like to grow up in a very toxic home that gives you no wiggle room for your own thoughts or freedom. Let this be your “house” hoodie. Wear it when your cold inside and lounging around the house. This gives your mom want she “wants” and keeps you from wearing it when you’re out doing your own thing. Unfortunately, not all of us grow up in a home that allows us to set boundaries. 😞
The moment you move out, trash it!
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u/personthatisapersons 17 1d ago
Either gonna trash it or leave it behind, thanks for the advice
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u/hellokitty0353 1d ago
My step mom complained she got me a hoodie and I never wore it...it was bright pink...she complained after I told her I dont think bright pink... (I haven't seen that family in a year 🤭)
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u/Upset_Room7071 1d ago
That’s like asking for being bullied dude. Just don’t wear it and logically explain to her why you don’t want to wear that
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u/hifi-nerd 15 1d ago
Tell your mother that if you wear this you will get bullied, slip into a deep depression and commit sudoku, now this may not actually happen, but she doesn't need to know that.
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u/Legitimate_Board4405 1d ago
Just dont wear it. Dont put it on. If she tries to put it on you herself, take it off.
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u/SuperPlays123 1d ago edited 1d ago
and probably be slapped in the face immediately for doing so (or something like that). people like this view anything that goes against their momentary whim as a capital offense, and if they have someone who can’t or won’t fight back, that’s who they’ll take it out on (likely physically). not to say that it’s legal, because it isn’t, but how would one go outside to get help if, say, all the doors and windows are padlocked?
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u/Shot-Location-4283 1d ago
Just pay her the money it cost. Simple. When she pulls the I bought it card say I’m willing to pay u back so I don’t have to wear it
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u/SignificantJump10 20h ago
As a parent, I don’t buy clothes for my teens without their input unless it’s something basic or something I KNOW they’re still into. Even if it was something they loved three months ago, it’s too risky. I can get plain shirts/sweatshirts, etc in basic colors and be safe. I can buy pants for my son, but not for my daughter. Your mom needs to learn that her taste isn’t your taste and she’s wasting her money.
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u/Salty-Effective8358 12h ago
Please do not wear ts gng 😭😭😭 I hate when my mom give me ai clothes it's so embarrassing
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u/Necessary-Car-143 1d ago
Where you at ? I can come "steal" it from you....I will wear an AI monkey hoodie all day!
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u/Necessary-Car-143 1d ago
On a serious note....next time she leaves the house take an iron and heat the area with the graphic from the back (inside the sweatshirt but dont burn the sweatshirt) Lots of cheap vinyl transfers will start to come loose with the heat and you can start to careful peel up the edge. Once the edge starts to peel back stop. Then throw it in the washer & dryer and the graphic will start to fall apart. No more monkey
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u/XO8REY 1d ago
Try customizing it to how you like it
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u/personthatisapersons 17 1d ago
I'd scribble sharpie over the whole thing, or put tape. And I did draw on a pair of shoes once...looking at previous comments you could probably guess I got yelled at
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u/Verve_angel 1d ago
Wesr it then take it off when you get to school maybe? Or turn it inside out or something? Maybe your backpack will cover it,
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u/Hot-Ad3210 1d ago
It’s truly ugly. Toss it and replace with something better from thrifting. Thrifts have awesome finds, certainly better than whatever this is! P
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u/personthatisapersons 17 1d ago
Oh yeah I love thrifts, I just can't toss it though since I didn't pay for it, according to her that also means I have to wear it, and you're right, its not only AI but its just super ugly, looks like Italian brainrot or something
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u/xelee-fangirl 16 1d ago
Is she like, incapacitating you and forcing you to wear it? Just don't wear it and if she brings it up just tell her to shut up and ignore her
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u/Some_Unit_89 1d ago
They said that their mom bans them from washing anything if they don't wear it
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u/Suspicious_Bet1359 1d ago edited 1d ago
Go save a little bit of money and buy a pink hoodie, wear it instead as a statement. And when she gets antsy, say I'd rather wear this than an obvious ai generated image on a jumper made with child slave labour.
Or find some black ink powder or toner and pour it inside the jumper before it goes in the wash(give it a good rub on the inside with gloves on so the powder is embedded in the fibres and wont just fall out. These temu jumpers keep leaching their dyes 🤣
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u/Lord_Lion 1d ago
Wear it to school. Give it to a friend to burn. Tell someone saw you wearing it, and stole it from your bag/chair at school when you went to the bathroom.
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u/BetterThanOP 1d ago
Everyone in here in telling you to make a big conflict out of it and stand your ground. Idk your relationship w your mom but if you don't wanna do that, just make it a lazy day at home hoodie. Wesr it around the house sometimes, like with pajamas early morning or late night on the couch.
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u/altiloquent1 21h ago
You could just lose it. Go to the park wearing it. Take it off because you got too hot. Don't put it back on and leave the park. Bonus maybe a homeless person picks it up.
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u/Blitzerob 20h ago
simple solution: don't wear it.
what's she gonna do? punish you for it? beat you in the yard with a belt? force you to wear it? chain it to your torso? you're 17, if you don't want to wear it that's your choice. like ffs it's not that hard to just disregard your parent's stupid complaints over something meaningless that's your choice anyways
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u/Mrs-Fidget 20h ago
Give it back to her. "Hey mom, this seems to mean a lot to you, and I do not enjoy wearing it due to it being uncomfortable. I wanted to offer it to you first. If you dont want it ill see if any of my friends would enjoy it".
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u/PETRU_RO 19 12h ago
i’d make fun of you if i saw you wearing that pls donate it to an orphanage at least they’ll make use of it
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u/logan792323 7h ago
Or just wear it at home and only at home. Like if you know you’re home for the day throw it on and show her you’re wearing it
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u/FemboyUwU67 1d ago
Don't wear that, that is bully bait, it's a trap