r/teenagers • u/personthatisapersons 17 • 2d ago

Advice My mother keeps insisting I wear this hoodie, cause she bought it

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I can't stand it, partially because it had something to do with a baby shower which was before I was born anyway

But mostly because it's AI slop, probably made in a sweatshop, and it's not even that warm or comfortable

Any reason I give is instantly shut down, per usual

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u/personthatisapersons 17 2d ago

She likes it too much...I had to point out it's AI, she keeps buying stuff from temu or whatever cause it's cheap, I have other hoodies from that godforsaken company and they're horrible, uncomfortable, and they have this weird material that will wick any sort of sweat.

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u/Patient-Ad-4274 OLD 2d ago

As someone whose mom also used to do the same (mostly guilt-tripping though), I'm not sure if there is a peaceful, guaranteed way to resolve it. She, in fact, can't make you wear clothes you don't like, but I don't think it's possible for you to change her views, so there could be either a groundbreaking, eye-opening confrontation or just a slow pace of finding some middle ground.

And for everyone who is saying "you're practically an adult" - you can be a 40-year-old manchild and still depend on your parents. It's not always about the actual age but what age you are perceived by your mom and your sort of a status. usually adult=freedom=responsibilities, and many don't see their child as an adult as long as they don't act like one

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u/Blepikko 2d ago

I hear you. I’m 19 and my mother is the exact same way, and if you say you don’t like it she acts like you just shot her. I’d wear it out and then take it off when you leave and bring a back up, then just put it back on before you get home. Or tell her that you were made fun of for wearing it, and you’re embarrassed. If that doesn’t work, I’d honestly just throw it out and tell her someone at school stole it/ you lost it.

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u/J_lio719 2d ago

What I'm about to say it's very malicious, but could work.

Try to get your mom banned from Temu by creating multiple accounts from the same network or device and using them to buy things with the new account offers.

It might not work 100%, but at least could make your mother won't buy you more dirt clothes or garbage items.

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u/Krasna_Strelka 1d ago

I don't think temu would ban for any of that

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u/J_lio719 1d ago

I'm talking from experience.

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u/gr33nnight 2d ago

Tell her that people at school said it was racist and you’re afraid of violence if you keep wearing it.

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u/whatvlone 2d ago

Maybe find a good YouTube video exposing the bad sides of buying off temu and wish. May or may not help

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u/personthatisapersons 17 2d ago

I actually did a school presentation on I think it was Shein, while wearing a Shein shirt

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u/whatvlone 2d ago

That’s hilarious 😂 I’ve heard horror stories of those sites sending items with bugs in the bags

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u/personthatisapersons 17 2d ago

If I ever breed I want to make sure my kids don't ever gotta wear any of this garbage

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u/murgatroid1 1d ago

Already a better parent than your mum

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u/DressOwn2877 2d ago

you need to learn to stand up for yourself, tell her to stop wasting her money, and stop letting her train you to be a (future) doormat.

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u/Krasna_Strelka 1d ago

Yeah they are made with mostly polyester. Unfortunately women are used to it bc our clothes are produced mostly with it. It's hard to find women clothes with natural fibers (that's why I decided to start making my own) as shops in girls sections are swarmed with plastic outfits. They even advertise them as natural often to deceive the buyer and then you look on the tag and it's plastic... So meh, unfortunately girls got so used to it that we forgot better clothes are available (well for us not so much available. You need to put a good work to find them).

Anyway, I really hope you'll be able to solve this matter, and after adulthood get into more safer and positive surrounding then your mother