r/teenagers • u/Trinkeds • 2d ago
Advice My gf hit me
14m here So she said that she wants to see me on Tuesday but I told her I can’t go on Tuesday because me and my dad are going camping so she got mad and accused me of cheating which I am not then said that I was disrespectful so I told her to fuck off so she hit me straight up to the cheek and left now she won’t speak to me what do I do
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u/LeastCauliflower6281 2d ago
You should leave her, and remember, she may beg, cry, threaten you, but don't take her back no matter what. Not even if Jupiter himself were to open up the heavens, dangle his cock in front of you, and tell you to take her back.
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u/Boring_Affect_5424 13 2d ago
um i think the second part was a bit far fetched but ok
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u/ExcitingMatter1464 14 2d ago
Nah he has a point
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u/TheManBoi_3005 2d ago
anyone who knows Jupiters relationship stuff knows he has a point
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u/Complete-Junket-8209 14 2d ago
Bro what that literally happens all the time not far fetched at all
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u/rararoopsy_rover 2d ago
She clearly doesn’t trust you, and she physically assaulted you. Leave that girl. She ain’t the one
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u/Lonely_Koala614 2d ago
Tell her that your relationship is over. No one should tolerate violence in a relationship!
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u/Brief_Appearance9422 2d ago
Leave her, man. Nobody should tolerate violence in a relationship.
But for future reference, don’t tell your partner to “fuck off” when they’re upset. A lot of people have big emotions and feelings, if you really love someone like that there are going to be times where you have to sit and talk through those feelings together. Every relationship has its ups and down, if you cannot work through those tough moments and try to avoid conflict, you’ll ruin every good relationship you have in the future. Yet again, you’re only 14, don’t be too hard on yourself. At that age, relationships are full of learning moments.
A little patience goes a long way, brother. Be a good listener and try to compromise. However, if things ever get physical, you need to get away as soon as possible. That’s a criminal case waiting to happen.
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u/SubstanceCharacter73 1d ago
Yeah very valid. I’ve never been in a relationship, but even I know not to say “fuck off” to your partner if your having a dispute. Never a good rebuttal, always best to just listen, then calmly get your points across after they’re done speaking.
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u/WolfTypical5194 2d ago
Tell your parebts what happened, tell maybe your closest friend what happened, maling him promise not to tell anyone, then break up with her
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u/xgwifhhdi 2d ago
That's literal abuse Leave her before it gets too bad Don't be afraid to defend yourself
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u/My__name__is__Audrey 16 2d ago
Omg she’s crazy and just mean 💀 screw her, find yourself a way better girl
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u/Prestigious_Rock_923 2d ago
Leave that's abuse. The fact that she was blowing up and accusing you in the first place wo the hitting is alr a headache not worth it. She's abusive.
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u/wingmate2 17 2d ago
What you did was good but if you can screen shot messages she sends you in case she tries to falsely accuse you girls like her are completely crazy
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u/Long-Rub8465 2d ago
Take your camera and get a video while you are with your father in the camping and send it to her and never forgive her before she says sorry
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u/Lilchuysworld 1d ago
Do nothing, don’t talk to her, don’t interact with her. Nobody deserves a partner that hits them when they get mad. For me there’s two types of hits in a relationship, playful and abusive, and they are easy to tell apart
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u/Any-Discussion282 2d ago
18m here, happened to me last year, listen to everyone else and end things, she has proven that if she felt frustrated in the relationship, you're the one getting a beating, this is a mindset, and it's degrading..end it.
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u/Seemen_Foxx 2d ago
you see, breaking psychos hearts is fun, hitting you was also a crime, she cant be in any relationship with anyone, she doesnt deserve that, you need to end it for yourself, you dont need to care how she feels, just do it
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u/C4ndy_Wr4pper 2d ago
Yeah- definitely leave her. It’s not okay for anyone to hit you. I hope the breakup goes well. Good luck with the rest of your life.
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u/Feeling_Imagination7 2d ago
LEAVE HER. LEAVE HER. LEAVE HER. 9 times out of 10 the accuser of any cheating is usually doing the cheating. Anyone cheating on you DOESN'T RESPECT YOU. Hitting is an assault. Anyone who assaults you HATES YOU.
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u/PrettyName7568 2d ago
You leave don’t waste your time and never look back she’s for the streets and your 14 go be a kid and live your life before you worry about spending your life with someone
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u/officialigamer 2d ago
Looks like you got some solid advice and got out of that. She's clearly gonna need to work on herself, maybe some mental issues? But actung like that, that young, there are some massive red flags
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u/cinwhin 2d ago
leave her, she thinks what shes doing is right and she probably consumes way too much "jealous women are the best! crazy women are the best!" content on the internet. you dont need this and you wont be doing any good for her by staying either, youll both be terrible for each others mental heatlh, especially at that age. take care of yourself, its not ok to believe your feelings of jealousy allow you to tell your partner what to do and its NOT ok to get physical because of this
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u/The-Guy-With-Wifi 17 2d ago
Abuse by any means is a sign to run. She can cry she can beg she can promise she didn't mean to but a hand that's struck once always remembers. You're only 14 love is still out there for you so there's no worry even if you feel like she's the only one you have
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u/GreenDragon113 2d ago
Take a pic of a bigass bass, a squid and look up the biggest sea animal that ever lived just to send her a picture of it, then idk double world hunger or something
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u/Tusiaartist 2d ago
Leave her, bro. It's ridiculous how she accuses you out of the blue of something so humiliating, just because she won't let you have some time spent with your dad. The abuse too, just because she's a girl doesn't mean it's acceptable and normal. This is straight up toxic behaviour. Just Leave her before it gets worse and more unbearable.
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u/Helade714 2d ago
If she literally denies you family time and calls it cheating… shes got a screw loose. You are a kid, You do kid things. Do what makes you happy. If she wants to disrespect and hurt you then shes not the right choice in a partner.
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u/Complete-Junket-8209 14 2d ago
Leave her you could probably go to the police if you want but I can't promise they will take you serious most female on male crime goes unprosecuted
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u/FigFinancial410 2d ago
That’s ABUSE. Leave her please and TELL HER BARENTS OR YOUR OWN SHE NEEDS TO LEARN THIS IS ABSOLUTELY 100% UNACCEPTABLE. Sorry for the all caps but as someone who was in an abusive relationship myself for a while if she hits you no, she’ll keep doing it, please stay safe.
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u/bigbearzzzzz 2d ago
I was in a similar relationship dynamic multiple times, they never change no matter how many times they say they will, end things now before it gets worse
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u/LostyHereBishes 2d ago
Don’t even waste your time on an abusive person if she blamed you for cheating when he literally spending time with your dad then she’s not even worth a single attention, hitting someone is absolutely horrible in every way no matter if ur a woman to a man or a man to a woman, so don’t even bother you might’ve dodged a rocket not a bullet.
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u/ScrimmularBingular 2d ago
Cut ties all together and do not even give her the time of day to talk to her.
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u/TheLastOneDoesWin 14 2d ago
Leave her.
Or don't if you are into that but i assume you aren't.
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u/Vegetable_Counter291 3,000,000 Attendee! 2d ago
L E A V E H E R A N D D O N O T L O O K B A C K
I'm just echoing everyone else, just dump her, if she comes looking for you just tell her very politely to fuck off.
That's an insecure, bad person. If her first thought was you're cheating... I think she's got some growing to do
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u/RedWireOfficial 16 2d ago
Girls in middle school relationships always too corny like yall ain't even had sex wit each other and then you get accused of having sex with some random girl. Leave her and use her as an example of what not to look for in your next relationship.
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u/mohamedtheanimelover 15 2d ago
Im sorry if this happened to you, hopefully things could go well between you 2
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u/633788perfect 15 2d ago
She’d be getting you in trouble if you hit her, so get her in trouble for hitting you
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u/Lower_Ad_9856 15 1d ago
Domestic violence against men is a thing too also all this drama at 15 is crazy
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u/Rare-Climate876 19 1d ago
She is just toxic tell her you don't like her treating you like this if she still acts like this then just leave her
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u/THATONED00MFAN 1d ago
Break up man. And be extra careful when you do. Don't be alone ever for a while, don't let rumors spread
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u/Naughty-n_Nerdy 1d ago
Saw the aftermath, good on you. You deserve better, and let that ring true through your entire life. If you had stayed, it never ends well.
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u/Naughty-n_Nerdy 1d ago
While not on the topic of the post, you're 14, son. If I may bestow a piece of advice on you that I learned, let it be this. Don't worry about women and dating at this point in your life, you got your entire life to worry about that. Work on being the best self you can be, you'll learn the rest as life goes on. Be open to those moments.
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u/spottyspotsspot 1d ago
Immediately no you need to leave her it only gets worse from here especially if you forgive it and move on she will think it’s okay do it again and if the roles were reserved police would be called on you
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u/Juliaaan101 1d ago
Leave her and never look back. If she suddenly starts saying "please I’m sorry bla bla bla" and begs you for a second chance, just say no. Don’t be a doormat or someone to take for granted. Let this be a lesson for her.
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u/Outrageous-Swimmer19 1d ago
Leave her. You deserve better than her. If you leave her you will probably doge the lost of sanity and gaining hatred towards woman
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u/axiomaticDisfigured 1d ago
That’s psychical abuse, pls either talk it out with her or break up with her
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u/Altruistic_Ear_53 1d ago
You should definitely dump her. She is crazy and you have a lot of time to grow afterwards. Keep your head high and move on.
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u/Artistic-Strategy308 15 1d ago
my pov as a girl in a relationship - leave her, i cant imagine hitting my boyfriend because hes going camping with his dad. if she accused you of cheating, it would be just about having trust issues and a conversation about why she feels that way would be a good solution, but if she decided to hit you - just end it. its not good for both of you - its abusing behavior from her side and obviously for some reason she doesnt feel secure and that she can trust you in this relationship, so a breakup is definitely gonna do do some good for both of you
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u/TraditionPhysical638 1d ago
Doesnt matter what gender. Assault is assault leave her. The relationship isnt going anywhere
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u/Weird-Classic-4713 15 1d ago
Get out of there. If she is so insecure and volatile to blow up at you over a camping trip, she could only get worse in future. She has some issues she has to work through, but i would also say, dont go straight to swearing at her after she accused you. You probably should have at least attempted to diffuse it, but i also dont blame you that much.
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u/Crossy7 1d ago
I’m a strong believer of if they can dish it out they can take it.
Never let anyone lay their hands on you in anger.
Just because it’s a female does not mean they cannot commit the felony of assault.
Get out of there and if she wants to ignore you let her.
Relationships don’t fix trauma, if she’s that insecure she is t ready to be in a relationship so tell her to do one and maybe come back when she has grown up mentally and is ready to start dating, until then she needs to work on herself.
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u/Shot-Poetry-1987 16 1d ago
Leave her, she shouldn't be in a relationship if she's so insecure and reactive she'd hit you for 'lying', which I assume you weren't and it's crazy for her to assume that since she had absolutely no reason to think you were lying and had no reason to be that upset about it. I saw your message to her, and you made the right choice, she most likely would only have gotten more violent if you stayed.
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u/NukerCat 19 1d ago
dawg imma be real, even if i wasnt in any serious relationship, that just sounds like a psychotic behavior, good on you for leaving her cuz it would lead you to ruin later in life
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u/Throaway84826194972 1d ago
I saw what she was saying and yeah leaving her was definitely the best decision. But lowkey as a man I don’t mind getting hit every now and then for saying stupid shit (as one does). It’s only abusive if it’s out of anger or makes you uncomfortable in my opinion.
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u/Objective_Pepper_602 1d ago
Jesus Christ, she's nuts. That girl needs some professional help. Glad you got out of that situation.
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u/__Kunaiii OLD 1d ago
She sounds crazy and is only going to cause you problems in the future. She needs time to hopefully grow up and mature.
Best choice here is to leave her. It ain’t worth it right now.
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u/DotComprehensive4902 1d ago
Leave her....she is the sort that will physically abuse every guy she gets with.
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u/AuriannaG 1d ago
Don’t call her, don’t talk to her and consider yourself lucky. Find a new girlfriend. Physical violence will only escalate as she gets older
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u/Sniper_Nest1 1d ago
Saw a nearly identical one but its reversed. Im gonna tell you now, leave. Dont look back.
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u/Thor_Othinson 1d ago
Most girls your age unfortunately are narcissistic abusers without realizing it or getting any consequences for it. Just leave her and wait until youre a little older to start dating. It gives you time to heal and mature without dealing with more of that crap
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u/meowmxxr2k8 1d ago
immediately leave whenever a partner eeeeever hits you for absolutely any reason that needs to be an instant break up
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u/Agitated-Ear-9989 1d ago
I like the title a lot my gf “hit me” I do not know why though. Sorry to hear that.
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u/SmurfyPickles99 1d ago
I love how OP is leaving a simple "ok" for everybody telling him to leave her lol. Ik it's good for him but it's funny
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u/Sky_Thoughts 13 1d ago
Leaver her immediately. No matter the gender anything besides playful fighting is wrong.
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u/jim_jam_jimmy 1d ago
Bc tumlog ko school me teacher log homework nhi deta hai kya. Gf , Bf kr rhe ho iss age me Ye generation kitna aage chal gya bhai.
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u/LightBright105 17 1d ago
break up with her, if she overreacts when she cant see u for one day then she aint mature enough for a relationship
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u/Raspb3rryb1rd 18 2d ago
I'm gonna say this now. Leave her. If this was reversed people would be yelling at her to leave you. End it, things are not gonna end well if she treats you like this. Abuse is abuse.