r/thesopranos • u/lilbigbambu • 20h ago
Would Ralphie have faced repercussions if the rest of the family knew he likes it up the ass?
I feel like Ralph's proclivities don't get enough discussion as a whole, but this a question I don't think I've ever seen brought up in particular.
As we all know, Jun whistling to the wheat field was enough of a fiasco, but taking it up the hoo-ha? Sure, he got Janice to do it, but if cunnilingus is enough to make you question a man, then Ralph might as well be out in New Hampshire with Johnny Cakes.
As a side, it was a fairly smart play by Ralph to tell his crew that it was Janice's idea to play in his ass and that he shot it down.
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u/IUsedToBeRasAlGhul 20h ago edited 17h ago
I think this really boils down to how the information is revealed and how Ralph handles it. Junior eating sushi was only a big deal due to his own insecurities, and Vito was caught by a made man (IIRC) in full leather at a gay club and had an unquestionable witness to him catching in the form of Finn. The only way Ralphie would really be exposed is if one of his women starts gossiping, which can pretty easily be dismissed as heresay, and he’s pretty good at bullshitting his way through situations. If Ralph can keep his cool and ensure that everyone gets a couple of heavier envelopes and better construction jobs for a while, I think he could find himself earning a pash.
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u/Creative_Research480 18h ago
Yeah, like as soon as Janice and him broke up he got ahead of the issue by saying that’s what she was into, not him. Basically sowing the seeds of plausible deniability if it ever came up
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u/Leading-Dragonfly-47 18h ago
Where does Rosalie fit into all of this?
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u/front-wipers-unite 14h ago
Rosalie was from the old school. She was never going to explain herself.
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u/syzygyly 17h ago
witness to him pitching
Vito was definitely catching dick in the van, not pitching
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u/centralfloridadad 19h ago
The guys that spotted Vito in NY in chaps weren't friends of ours, they were basically the friend of one of us.
And Finn witnessed Vito catching, not pitching.
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u/Ijustthinkthatyeah 19h ago
Ralph was prepared if that came out. That’s why he tells the guys, after Janice kicked him out, what Janice “wanted” to do to him. If it comes out later, he can claim that she’s lying and she’s crazy and he has already told them about it.
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u/Leading-Dragonfly-47 18h ago
Yah but didn’t Rosalie also know that Ralph had to take it up the bum
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u/Sad-Illustrator-8847 17h ago
Rosalie strikes me as pretty discreet. She seemed to buy the story of black drug dealers killing her son…at least she doesn’t question it publicly.
plus it is bad for her image if she engaged in freaky sex in any form
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u/alwayssplitaces 5h ago
Rosalie mentioned something about doing all the freaky stuff Ralph wanted when they broke up.
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u/zerg1980 15h ago
I don’t think Ralphie did any of that stuff with Ro. He was dating her primarily because it gave him a huge status bump to date the former First Lady of the family. While they had sex, it was probably just vanilla sex that Ralphie put up with to maintain appearances, while always planning to do the kinky stuff with goomars and prostitutes.
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u/Harposstave 15h ago
In their last scene together in the bedroom Ro alludes to all the “sick shit” she does in the bedroom that he likes so yes she was doing that to keep him around
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u/billybassbigmouth 20h ago
Y'know what the crazy bitch was into? She wanted to stick a dildo up my ass, make believe she was pimping me out. I told her get the fuck out of here! Whole family's nuts.
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u/Miserable_Reason_382 20h ago
Why would Tony have anything to say about it? He’s too busy eating beef and sausage by the fucking cart load!
Anyways I’ve said my piece
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u/telepatheye 18h ago
He's a man. He loves to eat!
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u/Miserable_Reason_382 11h ago
He loves to eat? I think it’s time for him to seriously start considering salads
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u/AbsurdityIsReality 20h ago
Yeah, in real life the Jersey mob got the OK from NY to kill their boss because he had been going to swinger clubs and his goomah told another goomah and the gossip over him being gay led to his death.
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u/Direct_Arm_8391 20h ago
He was mommy’s little tramp, mommy’s little whoer… there’s no stigmata these days.
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u/telepatheye 18h ago
A don does not take it up the ass
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u/Manny4Now1 10h ago
A don doesn't wear shorts. It never has been stated that a don doesn't take it up the ass. Maybe it happens in prison but you get a pass for that.
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u/Timely_Ad115 19h ago
Does anyone else think op is a little weird about Ralphie being weird about women?
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u/Oso_the-Bear 20h ago
On the one hand, there are millions of dollars at stake and we depend on this guy, and that's the boss of the NY family talking.
On the other hand, they did make it seem like a big percent of the rank and file just wouldn't have it, especially in the unions and construction. I think it would have been untenable to keep him even just for being Janice's little whore.
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u/Foreign-Cow-1189 20h ago
Considering how much flack JR caught for eating pussy, I’m going to assume it wouldn’t go over well with the fellas.
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u/cntUcDis 20h ago
Remember, they asked if Vito was pitching or catching, if the latter he probably would have gotten a pash. If Ralphie was a good earner, and kept his crew tight, what he did in his own time would have been his business.
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u/Ijustthinkthatyeah 19h ago
They wanted to kill Vito before even hearing about the security guard. No way he gets a pass. Finn’s story just made it worse.
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u/Sad-Illustrator-8847 17h ago
I do not know about that. they probably regard pitching bad, catching far worse. Benny throws rocks at Vito’s car when he drives away..that doesn’t sound like giving him a pash
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u/schlomoweinstein 20h ago
“Straight” men are at the same time repulsed and fascinated with gay sex. It’s amusing.
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u/Patient-Cod3442 16h ago
I always figured janice thought she got ralph killed with the stuff she told tony, not that she wouldve cared but still
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u/Objective-Object4360 16h ago
Did they date Janice to piss Tony off? He even says to Richie, there are better looking men in the can 😂
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u/MayGer_Tom 15h ago
Poppersh & weird shex? It’s everywhere in Miami. He never shoulda started with that shit.
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u/410sprints 9h ago
Did the higher-ups consider him a good earner? Makes all the difference in the world in their industry.
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u/bubbly_specialist007 13m ago
I mean he confessed to Vito and someone else about it.. if even in a joking can you believe it sorta way.
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u/imabustya 20h ago
A. She was a whoar B. She drugged me. C. That was not my dildo she was carrying.