r/trans4every1 • u/K_S_M28 🔪 1/25, 💉 2/25, 🥄 7/25 • 1d ago

All Genders Is This...Euphoria?

Credits on vid. Just a little something I couldn't unsee, every time I watched this video. 😅

As much as we can each be our own worst enemy, I truly believe we can also be our strongest ally. You are worthy and deserving of all the kindness you would give to others. Love each other, fam, and love yourself! 🩵

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u/Creativered4 Transsex man 🌈 1d ago

It's a cool idea, but can we PLEASE stop equating dysphoria with internalized transphobia? It's incredibly hurtful to see how people are starting to equate things like wanting to be stealth, not wanting to be clocked, feeling dysphoric about features of your agab, having your dysphoria triggered when you're reminded of trans stuff, and basically so much more things that are completely normal and are just dysphoria, turned into "internalized transphobia". Honestly it makes me and many others feel unwelcome in trans spaces because something completely normal we can't help (mind you, something that is causing us a lot of pain) is being vilified and equated with transphobia (internalized or not).

You should definitely love yourself and others, and celebrate the gender affirming things, or even just the easing of dysphoria! And I agree that trans people are deserving of love and kindness. We are our genders.
Just... There's no need to throw those of us who are suffering from dysphoria under the bus and wave our natural feelings away as being internalized transphobia. Because there's a huge difference between "I'm trans so I'll never find love/be attractive/be normal/etc" (internalized transphobia) and "I'm a trans man and my hips are wide/I can't grow a beard/I'm short/my voice is high pitched/I don't have a penis, which is a product of my being born female, and it is very painful" (dysphoria)

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u/K_S_M28 🔪 1/25, 💉 2/25, 🥄 7/25 1d ago

Yeah, definitely not my intent, as I replied above. And definitely not privileged or mocking? I'm really sad to see you somehow reach that conclusion. In case it wasn't clear from my message, I am the dysphoric person who struggles with gender expression when dysphoria hits. Experiencing that dysphoria and being unable to express my gender freely can also pull up separate issues like past trauma, shame, and internalized transphobia. I definitely was not implying that dysphoria itself is transphobic. And no part of my experience is a mockery.