r/warsaw • u/NatureLongjumping977 • 2d ago
News I have been approached by more than 10 guys in Warsaw in 1 day! It gives me anxiety now...
I've seen many posts recently on Reddit regarding the so called daygamers and that they are all over Warsaw approaching girls... so I decided to share my experience. I'm a 24 years old girl, from Poland, I go often to my work place in the center of Warsaw, and usually when I'm around Złoty tarasy I get often approached by a guy or two, same approach always, they think I am cute or pretty and want to say hi, I always decline politely and refuse giving my IG or phone number and move on...sometimes I give them my IG so that they leave me alone and block them some time after... as it's creepy having guys randomly stopping you in the street and asking for your number and it's even not socially acceptable in Poland. But one day.... I've been approached by more than 10 guys, 11 to be more precise, 4 on my way to work and 7 on my way back, those guys are from various countries, the US, UK, Germany, India, Ukraine... I was surprised as they all approached in the same way and I'm just afraid that some might have filmed me as I found many videos later on Youtube where they are filming themselves approaching girls and record all the encounter. This gives me daily anxiety because I am afraid to end up one day on Youtube and I keep checking everyday... how can we stop this daygaming thing in Warsaw? Thanks!
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u/p3trus1 2d ago
Don't interact with these guys at all, don't make eye contact, don't stop, just pass. Idea of reporting to security is great, they should have a surveillance cameras. You can try also avoiding this place for a while. I'm saddened that such things happen.
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u/According_Mobile3590 1d ago
I am not against men appriaching women. There are alot of bootcamps running in Warsaw for men who have problems meeting women they attend a 3 or 4 day bootcamp run by a company.
So along as they dont harass womem and are polite i dont see an issue.
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u/Potential-Pause-9136 2d ago
A girl I knew was part of it XD There is a business in Warsaw (exactly in that location) and couches that teach men how to approach women, the exam part is to actually do it yourself. They wear headphones and glasses with camera and the “teacher”on the other side is telling them what girls to approach and what to say. That girl, acquaintance of mine, was part of the process (guys were not aware of it). She got paid to pretend she is not aware of the scheme and flirt with them so they feel like they are doing good and the strategy they paid 1000$ to learn is working XD.
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u/maddiesfolly 2d ago
Damn, sounds like that one Black Mirror episode, White Christmas it was, I think. Strange times.
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u/hditano 2d ago
Woow , is there any YouTube video about? WTH !!
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u/Potential-Pause-9136 2d ago
Not sure, i remember she showed me the guys that run it but i do not remember their names. I think it’s easy to find if you try to dig dipper, i was just never really interested in the whole thing.
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u/MisterMeta 2d ago
Exactly the type of con a loser who pays 1000$ on a course to hit on women deserves. Good riddance.
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u/Hot-Willingness-4639 20h ago
Interesting. But it doesn't make sense to me that only foreigners but no Polish guys seem to enroll in this coaching. Does it?
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u/Titty_Slicer_5000 9h ago
Haha so funny to scam and prey on men who don't know how to talk to women and are trying to learn. You are disgusting for thinking this is funny.
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u/sharyphil 1h ago
couches that teach men how to approach women
That's exactly what most of these seduction gurus are, couches, not coaches.
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u/Truchlo_ 2d ago
Tell them "sorry, i don't have any spare change". Works like wonder.
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u/Bourbon-Tonic 2d ago
No. Don't say anything. Don't acknowledge their existence. If you look at them, give a thousand-yard stare right through their head.
By saying something, you are giving them information, e.g. which language you speak.
Give them nothing. They have no right to anything from you.
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u/Truchlo_ 2d ago
Okay? Write your own comment then? I'm just saying what works best for me cause from my empiric experience ignoring just agitates some of them. Saying something weird stops them, resets brain and throws them off their feet - by then you're already too far to engage further.
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u/SadAd9828 2d ago
Take a look at /r/Passport_Bros for a glimpse into the insane creepiness of this world.
A lot of guys from UK/US etc see slavic women as the ultimate 'traditional' woman and think that just because they're from rich countries girls here will drool all over them.
It's so cringe.
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u/suicidemachine 2d ago
Lol, Polish women are everything, but traditional. Especially in Warsaw. It is not the 1970's anymore.
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u/Fit-Name-5678 2d ago
Even in 70s their were pretty modern. PRL culture were defenitely less conservative and women were more Independent than in many other countries at that time.
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u/Watch-Logic 2d ago
one read of the text to the popular song W Domach z Betonu Nie Ma Wolnej Miłości by Martyna Jakubowicz put the whole PRL years in a different context for me. it’s a banger song in its own right
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u/Fit-Name-5678 1d ago
W domach z betonu indeed, but there were hippie communities during that time (Pies Terlecki approves)
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u/100KUSHUPS 2d ago
I've seen a few posts there where they wanted Slavic women because they were.. I can't remember the exact wording here, but something similar to "timid, submissive"..
And my immediate thought was "Bro, you have obviously never met a Slavic woman".
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u/throwawaygdn 2d ago
I've said it previously but it's a side effect of making reels like “this is Poland”, “average street in Poland” where they exclusively film girls.
Poles keep posting about how attractive and traditional their women are. Why? The locals already know it, and you don't want to attract sex tourists, do you?
People should stop recording random women walking down the street and posting it online for international attention.
I also find it funny that these guys think the "traditional" woman is going to date a foreigner or sleep with them.
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u/Four_beastlings 1d ago
I've never seen those reels by Poles, only by far right Americans
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u/mahboilucas 23h ago
there are some right wing leaning women doing that, I always block them and tag as making me uncomfortable so I don't see them anymore but some of my old friends still like those. I'm guessing it makes them feel superior or something
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u/yyyyzryrd 1d ago
I agree, it's very common to hear Poland advertised as a place with "cheap beer, beautiful women, beautiful nature". It's always stuck out as so fucking weird to include the middle part, so I'm not surprised that this is taking place now (of course creeps will be attracted to creepy things when advertised). That being said, I don't want any daygamers in Poland. No person should feel/be harassed because some degenerate can't stop their little brain doing all the thinking for them. I genuinely hope they get arrested.
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u/Cultural_Accident_95 1d ago
I find it cringe when a country tries to advertise their women to foreigners, be it Poland, Columbia or Korea. That's some weird cuck fetish: here foreigners, we have beautiful women, come over.
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u/yyyyzryrd 1d ago
Absolutely. Poland dearly, dearly needs better advertisement. Pretty much all that most people in the UK would think of is Gdansk, Krakow, maybe Auschwitz, and the entire "cheap beer, beautiful women" thing. I think it's some very desperate attempt from the early 00s to build a base of initial tourism for the country back when it was truly dirt-cheap, but Poland has a ton more to offer now. I hate especially how Krakow-centric it is, Krakow is one of the biggest destinations for foreign stag-dos in the UK, and foreign "lad's trips".
There must be more done against tourists/foreigners which do whatever they want in the country, but a lot of the people are simply too desperate to be liked by the west. That's what it seems like to me, at least.
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u/Solid_Ad_7156 1d ago
This is so true. I have a polish wife and a few of my friends came to Poland for the wedding and had this idea that because they are American girls will be in awe of them and they will suddenly go from banging 4s at home to 10s here because they have an American passport. News flash for them, they are semi fat Americans, not charming or good looking at all on a polish standard and not a single girl would talk to them. Was actually funny to watch this dream dashed
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u/Shiro-Aka 2d ago
Went there once thinking that it's more so about traveling tips - instead stumbled onto some dudes picking apart women as if they were dog breeds - ,,Polish women are beautiful, they like traditional relationships and they're very Catholic and they can make great house wives", ,,Serbian women are pretty and caring and loving and they're generally well behaved in public", ,,Czech women are very hot and sexy but they're a loose cannon"
Yh. I feel disgusted just by trying to remember what I read...
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u/MaxChomsky 1d ago
Any generalisation about any nation is stupid. The only thing I know is people are the same all over the world and culture only influences the way they go about the same things. Every country you will have the same number of daft people, average people and smart people. Rich and poor is different because it is influenced by the current local and geo politics.
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u/MaxChomsky 1d ago
I do not think an average US Joe is that much richer than a person in Poland, especially in Warsaw. I think they might actually be poorer if you include the cost of living. I know income per capita is higher in the US but that's because you have Elon and Bezos.
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u/SlavaUkrayne 1d ago
I’m from US and I definitely don’t feel that way.
I do see nerds here drooling for Japanese women though, but never heard of a similar effect for polish women.
Keep in mind the Russian and Chinese bots are out there trying to make us all hate each other and break up NATO. They are very subtle in their approach
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u/Mediocre-Yoghurt-138 2d ago
The funniest thing is that the women I've met in Warsaw are more career oriented and more sexually independent than any other country I've seen. Tradwife hunters doing zero research.
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u/mahboilucas 23h ago
I would say my parent's small town would work much better because they generally like foreigners in a sense of being willing to move literally anywhere out their hometown and have traditional values to put it nicely... but those bros don't care to actually find conservative women. and those from small towns will definitely not be meek and submissive. it's like a patchwork of ideas they have on women that are strictly created for men, as opposed to how women actually are. they will simply not find someone who fits the criteria.
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u/PhotoshopIsMyDad 41m ago
It's not tradwife hunters, they're just PUA wannabes trying to get sex. And many of them all following the exact same "proven strategies" taught by paid coaches wearing the cheapest Rolex they could find on Ebay, paid for in installments. I've seen and met a few.
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u/SuperstratsForTheWin 2d ago
Upvoting because as a man this shit needs to stop, I don’t want my gf to be harassed by tourists either
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u/jour23 2d ago
Report to the złote tarasy security, write an email e-mail to administrators of the premises if it happens often. Call the police if you have time to wait.
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u/jour23 2d ago
Also, you have nothing to be afraid of. Scream at them asking to stop harassing you. People around will notice and will help you. Worst you can do is to play ball and giving out your info…
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u/Key_Song_250 2d ago
People usually don't care and pretend not to see anything cause they're too afraid
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u/jour23 2d ago
Not in my experience, if a just regular person screams for help the rest assured people will come help. Especially in a crowded area.
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u/Cheap-Morning209 2d ago
As much as I do not like these guys, calling police on them makes zero sense. Talking to people on the street is not illegal, actually, if she calls the police she might get in trouble herself. In some countries calling a police out without a valid reason is punishable act.
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u/math1985 2d ago
If these are organised ‘courses’ (as some people claim) then it’s certainly up to security to stop that.
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u/Cheap-Morning209 1d ago
No, it is not. Courses on how to talk to people exist since 70. Look at toast masters.
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u/jour23 2d ago
I think harassing people is an acceptable reason to call the authorities. We don’t know what it feels to be frustrated enough to write a post like that. Looking at the comments it is overwhelmingly considered creepy and uncomfortable. Please don’t make the victims feel guilty calling in these type of predatory behaviour. Let’s not normalise ganging up on pedestrians and filming their reactions an acceptable neither.
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u/Cheap-Morning209 1d ago
Perhaps your reading comprehension is not the best? Where did I said she should feel guilty. Reddit is the only place on eearth where you state FACTS and get downvoted. This place sucks, really.
So, now one more time, for those who cant speak english, in more european countries, if you call police for something they would consider banal shit, you get punished. I am trying to protect OP, unlike other morons here.
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u/ROM_of_ROMKOM 2d ago edited 2d ago
As a 57 year old bisexual guy I'm tempted to find out where these guys/losers are and spend an afternoon trying it out on them. Let's see how they like all the unwanted attention 🤔😋👌
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u/miaumiaoumicheese 2d ago
Same girl, it’s been happening every time I walk through city center or stand alone anywhere even just for few minutes, it’s best to not entertain it or give those creeps any personal information tho, harassing women is sadly way too socially accepted so just ignore them and keep walking or say you’re waiting for your bf so they go away
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u/Blanche_ 2d ago
Big headphones, baseball cap and resting bitch face (if you can manage). I was once approached by a dude from US that was probably on drugs :/ It was kinda scary
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u/airhome_ 2d ago edited 2d ago
Okay I (M) always have this discussion with my partner (F). I see these guys on Marszalkowska sometimes, always white foreign guys, stood around trying to approach every youngish woman that walks past. I find it really creepy and want to tell them to go away and stop hassling people, especially when I see older guys doing it repeatedly with young woman. My rationale is that they only do this because they think there is no social cost - but if they get shouted at repeatedly they will stop and the word will get out not to travel to Poland to do this. But my partner says I'm being overly defensive - the difference in opinion is because I see them literally approach EVERYONE, which I don't really regard as a compliment. Whereas she has nice experiences from when she was younger of charming Polish guys respectfully complimenting her personally, at most hoping to get her number and arrange a date, which is clearly nice if it happens once or twice a year and is genuine.
As an aside - I suspect if you tell literally any local guy (esp over 30) someone is making you feel uncomfortable they will happily tell them to fuck off and be ready to fight if they don't. I know I would. So maybe giving men permission to get involved would be a good place to start.
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u/GaySheriff 2d ago
I don't think a bystander is wishing for "permission to intervene." Especially in centrum, everyone is busy with their own stuff. What people want is to go about their day and not be disturbed, so I imagine telling a random guy "Hey, someone is bothering me, go solve my problem and act as my bodyguard" won't have much of a result
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u/airhome_ 2d ago
Sorry but your telling me a young woman says to a local guy "Hey this foreign guy is bothering me, can you help" they won't be happy to tell him to go away and leave her alone?. Maybe we live in a different part of Warsaw.
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u/Dodem95 1d ago
Chętnie wskakuje i bije typa, niezależnie od kraju i koloru skóry. Moje ziomki to samo , to samo podejście
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u/realintelligence-ri 2d ago
Being ugly is a blessing in disguise i guess 😞.
Anyways don’t interact, ignore them, their egos will take a hit and they will back off. If they are creeps, they will follow and that’s when you involve cops for harassment.
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u/ENTER-D-VOID 2d ago
lol this is getting insane. i taught this was out of fashion in 2025
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u/Fifth-Dimension-Chz 2d ago
Guys are lonelier and more desperate then ever. Small circles of romantic partner options are now world wide with travel and social media. Girls are more slective in return. Also a push in right wing politics world wide not just the US is making a very shitty kind of dude popular. They can justify their actions with a few clicks on their phone and never feal alone where in the old days theyd been shunned out of existence.
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u/AppearanceExpert2325 2d ago
I’ve lived in Warsaw for 3 years and this never happened to me. I guess I’m lucky I’m ugly. I’m sorry it happened to you tho. It’s fucked up.
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u/Huge_Currency_4000 2d ago edited 2d ago
This looks disgusting: https://youtu.be/35lr9DUk0t4 This is a violation of Articles 23 and 24 of the Polish Civil Code (Kodeks cywilny), and it falls under Article 190a § 2 of the Polish Penal Code (Kodeks karny).
Let’s help this girl and others. The email address of the Złote Tarasy administration is info@zlotetarasy.pl
You can write something like this:
Subject: Concern About Harassment and Unauthorized Filming at Złote Tarasy
Message: On online platforms, including Reddit, women in Warsaw are reporting frequent harassment by so-called daygamers — men who approach female visitors of the mall with intrusive conversations, requests for phone numbers or social media accounts. Moreover, there are concerns that some of these men are secretly recording videos for later publication on YouTube and other platforms.
In light of this, I kindly ask you to: 1. Strengthen security in areas where such incidents most commonly occur (central alleys, rest zones, near entrances). 2. Provide training and clear instructions to security staff about the daygame practice and how to respond effectively to visitor complaints 3. Consider placing visible notices around the mall stating that harassment and unauthorized filming are not tolerated on the premises.
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u/labbel987 2d ago
What is daygaming?
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u/Polaroid1793 2d ago
Picking up girls while recording for Tik Tok or Instagram.
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u/GaySheriff 2d ago
Imagine spending your time watching that shit instead of working or doing literally anything useful
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u/ROM_of_ROMKOM 2d ago
Apparently it's what the incels who have managed to crawl out of their parent's basement are now doing.
And each and every one of them is obviously some kind of pathetic loser with zero social skills.
Modern life 🤔🤢
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u/No-Mind-8765 2d ago
Apparently it's what the incels who have managed to crawl out of their parent's basement are now doing.
Incels wouldnt do that. Most of real incels know how bad looking they are and would never approach woman irl, cause rejection is guarantee.
Argumentum ad incelum in that way is just delusions and schizophrenia.
And each and every one of them is obviously some kind of pathetic loser with zero social skills.
"When you listen to women that advice approaching on the street and you are called pathethic loser"
We live in society.
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u/amazonwarrior9999 1d ago
It’s pick up during the day, it doesn’t mean recording that’s something else
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u/Ice666White 21h ago
Day game is meeting women during the day in environments like parks, streets, grocery stores, etc.
It's the least socially normal way of trying to date women. Society is more accepting of night game, social circle game and message game. Especially because women participate in these, but women almost never participate in day game themselves.
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u/samaniewiem Praga-Południe 2d ago
Just because they're men doesn't mean that you owe them any of your time of attention. Put your resting bitch face on and keep on walking.
But honestly next time I'll hear about male loneliness epidemic I may explode.
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u/victoriagreta 2d ago
Oh yeah I get that all the time too guys think I’m a hooker or some escort just because of my short skirt or whatever. I just ignore it but one time one one of the guys lifted my skirt up from behind saying “just checking for panties” so I hit his head with my purse and kept walking.
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u/Gamer_Mommy 4h ago
Kolano między nogi dałoby lepszy przekaz. Można dodać że sprawdzasz czy nosi ochraniacz.
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u/Seobjevo 2d ago
It might sound stupid, but might be worth it. Some guy approaches you. After he says hi or whatever ask him if he can give you 5 złotych for setka żołądkowej.
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u/Outside_Donkey2532 1d ago
they see eastern European women as very easy, fuck those creepy guys
tell them you to stop doing that or you report them to police and they will kick them out of the country
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u/I_Piccini 2d ago
Just pretend you don’t hear those losers and keep walking. Don’t engage, they’ll give up. The worse thing you can do, is giving them any response, and most importantly never give any of your personal info to a stranger, that’s a no brainer.
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u/SecretRecipe 1d ago
I hope the women of Warsaw very quickly learn the power of saying "Ewww no!" then walking off laughing.
These "Daygamer" types are fragile. They've been conned by whatever shitbag teacher they've paid to teach them pickup skills into thinking you're polite submissive easy targets. Show them otherwise.
And Men, if you see this behavior happening in public step in, join in the ridicule. Make behaving like this so unpleasant for them that they have no choice but to stop.
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u/ncidex 2d ago
My gf who struggles with same issue suggests to cross your hands infront of your face or above your head even b4 conversation starts.
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u/mahboilucas 23h ago
I put my hands in front of my face in a motion of "oh god so embarrassing I don't wanna look" and purse my lips after saying "nope"
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u/makesyoucurious 2d ago
Idk, I can’t relate but i would say shout and embarrass them in front of everyone.
Im sorry for what happened and wtf, an Indian as well in there?!?, as if our country’s image is not already bad.
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u/anonynousasdfg 2d ago
Just ignore them. If they insist and try to touch you, harshly warn them that you will call the police and even randomly show some place that the police station is nearby.
Those mofos think that the police here will act like the ones jn UK they see in IG stories.
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u/Mysterious-Edge-700 2d ago
call police and report next time. If some action will be taken against one maybe they will be afraid.
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u/whatyourheartdesires 2d ago
I have just seen those! One of them was hitting on a girl in front of me in Starbucks, he seemed very creepy.
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u/Cheap-Morning209 2d ago
Thats crazy. Remember, for this guys any kind of involvement from your side is good. Even if negative. Its all about you getting emotionally invested in interaction.
Just ignore them, continue walking, thats it.
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u/Bourbon-Tonic 2d ago
Do not say anything. Don't engage with them in any way. If you look at them, give them a thousand-yard stare right through their skull. If you say anything, they will be able to tell which language you speak, e.g. Polish, English, German, etc.
They have no right to anything from you, including any information about you.
I'm a man who has lived in Poland for many years. When drunks or panhandlers approach me, I don't acknowledge them and I keep walking.
If they are particularly persistent, I make sure to keep an eye on them. If I must, only if I must, I turn to face them and start making random motions with my hands, as if I am deaf, angry and using sign language (full disclosure; I do not know any sign language). Then I walk away while still monitoring them.
No stranger has any right to your valuable time, let alone anything more.
Also think about pepper spray and a telescoping baton.
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u/Low-Opening25 1d ago edited 1d ago
set your phone screen background to “daygamers are pathetic tossers, GTFO” and just show it when one approaches you.
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u/FatBaldingLoser420 1d ago
Unfortunately a lot of idiots are spreading rumors about Polish women, calling them "easy" and saying they need non-Polish men, especially darker skinned or richer. Sadly, this means a lot of passport bros or slightly wealthy individuals are coming to Poland for their "safari" to find "easy" Polish girls and women like you are being harassed.
Bastards, all of them! I hope nobody will hurt you and you will be left alone.
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u/cookiesnooper 1d ago
I have a feeling it has something to do with people coming to Poland to "train" how to pick up girls. I've seen way too many posts and even videos on YT about it recently to be a coincidence.
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u/Mysterious-Brain-565 1d ago
Act as if they don’t exist :) , I have been in your shoes and that’s what I tend to do. Continue whatever activity you were doing & don’t even bother to look at them.
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u/Saharcia 1d ago
So its a more widespread thing huh Yesterday some random man approaches me, asks if I live in Warsaw, what my name is and then if Im single or married
Got away from him immediately, who even starts a convo like that
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u/cuntyzebra 19h ago
Recently I was at a Starbucks in Łódź and this guy came up to me and said I looked cute but had a sad face, so he wanted to tell me that to brighten my day. He said he’d just been to Spain where people are more open, and he wished life in Poland was like that too, so he decided to start making changes himself. I said thanks and that I had a boyfriend, and he was like 'no worries, I just wanted to give you a compliment,' and then he left. Later I was sitting there and overheard him talking with another guy, and it turned out he was some kind of pickup coach. I was also a bit scared I might end up on YouTube.
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u/Tozhan 2d ago
Would it still be considered disturbing if the approach wasn’t for YouTube videos, and the guy was genuinely interested and respectful? And if the girl isn’t interested, he just respects her boundaries and ends the conversation?
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u/Gamer_Mommy 4h ago
Yes. Are you asking for directions/time? You'll get your answer and we go our own ways.
Are you hitting on women in the middle of the street when they go about their day in Poland? You're weird/creepy/annoying or drunk/drugged/off your meds/escaped from a hospital.
Are you filming while doing this? You're a pathetic looser and a verified creep. Not one woman would want to be filmed and actually say yes to a date in Poland if approached this way. Even when you are a 10.
There are normal ways to meet people in Poland and this is not one of them. Use apps if you are that lazy or have no social connections in Poland.
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u/Advance-Bubbly 1d ago edited 1d ago
A genuine question from a man - then how should a man approach you? What is the way then for you someone to date you and ask you out? Thank you and I am sorry you had an uncomfortable experience!
To those who say OP to treat the approachers like “beggars, junkies and scammers”, this is an extremely ugly attitude towards the situation. May you don’t experience such when you want to interact with people! To approach, regardless of gender, is severe and difficult enough.
EDIT: If this applies only to guys with cameras and obviously filming, then yes, my comment is irrelevant and indeed it is better to ignore them as this is a violation of privacy.
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u/Gamer_Mommy 3h ago
Not on the streets. Don't bother people during their daily lives. If you want to hook up you go clubbing, dancing, find a hobby to meet people, go to a party of someone you know, use apps.
It's not the approach, it's the wrong place and time. People are rushing to wherever they need to be and this is just annoying in the middle of the day, which only increases the chances of being rejected, written of as a weirdo/creep.
Literally pointless to do, but hey, you want to teach us which places to avoid when even semi attractive? No biggie, keep on doing it, we will adjust. Won't be the first time.
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u/Right-Smoke8132 2d ago
I’m not a girl, but I have enough anxiety to understand what it’s like. It must really suck. Hope those desperate guys will learn the lesson and this trend will die.
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u/KittyComannder 2d ago
Guys like these.....sheeez. This is basically really fking cringe. I remember when in mid school were walking with couple of friends, be it, one of the girls was bit more....chested. And some random dudes just yelled "nice tits" at her. The audacity of some people should be punished.
And I don't even have enough bravery to approach a girl in work.
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u/MarionberryFun4305 1d ago
I mean, not having enough bravery to approach is like the main reason why those guys are starting to approach on the streets. They were shy, lonely, scared of rejections. When you approach every pretty girl on the streets, you are starting to take rejections as something normal, because you get so many of them. So imo that’s actually a good practice, but would be much better to approach in clubs or at the night when you see that a girl is clearly just going out and not in rush to the work.
I agree that it’s hella cringe, but most from the men’s perspective. And anyway I think it worth it, you’re just practicing for a few days, getting 100 rejections, changing your mindset about them, and after that you always have enough bravery to approach any girl you want :)
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u/MiddleExisting5548 2d ago
I don’t think there is a way you end it, other than ignore. When you think about it - it is a loaded problem involving some desperate guys, often their situation is another issue altogether, some other guys earning money on pick-up trainings selling dreams of being another Brad Pitt, and probably a few other things.
If possible avoid going near any shopping center, unless you go shopping. It’s been like that for years really, you were unlucky lately. Or simply there’s more people now, so statistically it will happen more often.
And, unfortunately, the best way is to ignore or say right away you’re not interested. It’s a bummer that those guys will make women not so open to talking to strangers, but it is what it is.
And I don’t agree that getting a number on the street is not socially acceptable. But there’s a way, time and place for everything. With those guys it’s about them, girls are just training material, it’s not real. Which is sad and annoying, but what can we do about it. Sorry you have to go through it.
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u/Ok-Fly-7609 1d ago
I was in Warsaw for 3 days, only guy that approached me was polish and asked if I could kiss him…IN THE MIDDLE OF A PARK. But that was all, as a solo female I walk with headphones on to be less approachable and hardly stop when guys try to talk with me, I just say “sorry” and move on. I felt incredible safe and at peace in Warsaw, by far my favorite polish city (and one of my favorite european cities)
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u/CurtChan 2d ago
Pretend you don't understand and just keep walking? Literally noone forces you to interact with these losers.
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u/Sister-Rhubarb 1d ago
"No thanks, I'm gay/married/taken a vow of celibacy/I do not consent to being recorded" lol
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u/Astaciss 1d ago
Give them some change and direct them to nearest homeless shelter. That should kill their self esteem.
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u/Dry_World5396 1d ago
I hate how young women can't even feel safe in my country anymore! This has to stop!
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u/Agitated_Emergency25 1d ago
Headphones + bitchface + ignoring the guys and walking away pretending to not even noticing them
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u/DataGeek86 1d ago
If people could stop disturbing each other in the public space, regardless of their gender, age or nationality, that would be awesome. TIA!
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u/JasonCyber 16h ago
You are right, a lot of guys are creeps. But u CANT blame the foreigners 100% for this. People in Poland need to also take responsibility because some of this is YOUR fault too! Your country advertises Poland as a “low cost of living place with cheap beer and lots hot women.” Also, many Polish women are to blame for this too. For example- if yall don’t want dudes from USA, UK or parts of Africa to go and “harass” women, then all you Polish women should STOP giving sex to all the black men that you see! I didn’t read this or see it on a video. I’ve been to Poland MANY times (for business) and have seen A TON of beautiful Polish women, both young and older constantly drool and go crazy over black men. And then guess what those black guys do when they go back home? They tell everyone else. Then you get even MORE passport bros going to Poland. So yes ladies, YOU are also to blame for this. It is not 100% the men’s fault.
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u/Gamer_Mommy 3h ago
What a terrible day to have eyes.
You are literally blaming people who have nothing to do with this for being harassed. People who do advertise this do not complain about being approached and I know what kind of people are those. Usually not even two brain cells to rub together, let alone any comprehensible English.
It is 100% the fault of the people who approach women and no, it's usually not black men approaching women on those videos. Clearly you have some problems with black men or simply yourself, perhaps even both.
The tourism board of Poland certainly does not advertise Poland this way. So no clue what you mean by "low cost of living place with cheap beer and lots hot women.” being advertised by Poland.
The people who "promote" Poland this way clearly aren't the brightest bulbs and don't have English skills or anything interesting to say. If it's done online, then I guess the "patostreamers" moved on from their usual stunts to something else. Oh well, there are idiots everywhere.
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u/s_rose_f 2h ago
I think it’s a weird new social media trend. Sooo creepy. Avoid those people. If any of them touch you or follow you report it to the police immediately. Warsaw police are very serious and won’t tolerate that
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u/PilotFlimsy1743 1h ago
Hi, I dont live in Warsaw, but in a different city in Poland, but I really feel and understand you! I have noticed that increased attitude to talk up woman on the streets recently. I can name some situations:
- At the gym men apparently are watching the way I work out and then just randomly jump in and I get unsolicited advice by them on how to use equipment, trying to hand me random weights without asking whether I actually need something and just assuming. Or just staying nearby and commenting something I have no idea about what they are saying.
- at the main station asking stupid questions, for example where the main station is (?) totally pick up artists
- men offering me to carry stuff, and just assuming that I need to go to a certain spot, without asking where I need to go. Although I am totally fine with carrying stuff myself. (not super bad, but anyway, same story, not asking, but just assuming strong men need to come for the helpless woman in need)
- once I was walking outside to pick up my partner and a guy approached me from the back on the bike. He stopped next to me and said "you are so beautiful" Then I said in a very firm and confident voice without even looking at him and continuing walking: "I have absolutely no interest in talking to you and I would advice you to not approach a woman like that on the street again". He seemed a bit startled by my reaction, but then continued to drive after me anyway with his bike saying "but you are so beautiful" then I stopped and looked at him and screamed: "I have fucking no interest, leave me the f*** alone!" Then he finally understood and said okay and turned around and drove to the other direction.
- just a few days ago I went to get a cosmetical treatment done as a model at a training center and a guy next to me getting a treatment aswell was trying to talk to me the entire time, giving me compliments, asking me a lot of questions. I pretty much ignored him, but he continued anyway and tried to talk to me. It was a terrible situation, cause I was basically stuck there and couldnt move, cause I was getting the treatment done. Then after it was done, I told him to stop talking to me and that I am not interested at all.
So the best advice I can give you: simply ignore them, if they are looking to film content, then the best way to get rid of them is to not engage at all. Just ignore and continue walking. If they follow you, get loud. No guy wants to be embarrassed outside in front of people. So if you make it obvious for the people around that you are being harassed, then they will back off. Us woman should start to be loud and speak up, we have been tought for many years to stay quiet and nod and be nice. But that wont make men understand that their behaviour is crossing boundaries.
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u/EquivalentGuitar5241 2d ago edited 2d ago
Nie jestem żadnym konfederatą i jestem raczej po liberalnej stronie. Tacy goście są tak bardzo żałośni - szczególnie ci z bardziej agresywnym podejściem w "podrywaniu" albo nagrywający na YT.
Dostałby taki delikwent raz czy drugi delikatnie w dziób i by mu się odechciało wojaży.
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u/Forsaken-Two7510 1d ago
Just tell them to fuck off and go to their mummies for a date.
They are cowards. They can only have girls in brothels.
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u/Correct_Tonight6630 1d ago
Shit. Another day another shitty piece of information. I go past that spot a few times a week. Never noticed these guys but usually I'm walking there with my girlfriend so we're probably not the target and I'm not even looking around.
Hate passport bros. Loser at home loser abroad
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u/kloyeah 2d ago
Attractive appearance says nothing about a person. Looking for someone to potentially spend your life with based on the shape of a damn meat sack they got in the genetic lottery is the dumbest thing you can come up with
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u/Living-Inflation-520 2d ago
thats why you try with many women and once you find an attractive one who you also like talking to you get into a relationship. Thats how its been working for decades since guardianship was abolished, but i guess its creepy now
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u/lyllopip 2d ago
I Will happily confront these losers on your behalf. As for you, just scream and call the police on them fuckers
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u/OnionTaster 2d ago
Damn people told me to just suck it up and just talk to girls but when you do they call you a creep online wtf
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u/maddiesfolly 2d ago
If someone is filming these encounters and posting them on TikTok, then yes, that’s creepy. I assume you don’t.
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u/Dry_Letterhead_9946 1d ago
Well, she also doesn't want to be filmed and insulted online, as she mentioned in the post. A lot of these "pick up artists," dating influencers, etc. go up and bother random people on the street and sometimes film them discreetly to make content. A lot of these people aren't independent guys genuinely looking for a relationship, but part of a "daygaming" group, as she mentioned, where foreign tourists fly out to different countries to meet girls. A lot of these people don't even speak the language or are interested to get to know people but are targeting women of certain demographics for a fling. If this isn't you, then you don't need to get offended
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u/Asherkowki 1d ago
Look at them with clear disgust, say "ewww" and walk away without a word.
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u/eileun 1d ago edited 1d ago
as it's creepy having guys randomly stopping you in the street and asking for your number and it's even not socially acceptable in Poland.
as a Polish girl who's also been approached in public by men asking for her number... wth, sis? how is that not socially acceptable?
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u/free_as_a_tortoise 1d ago
Unfortunately some women like to speak for all women. I spent most of my life believing that no woman would ever want me to approach her no matter how kindly and respectfully I did it. Then I actually did it and almost always it went well. I never asked for a number straight away but just told her I thought she looked beautiful and that I felt I'd like to talk to her. Which as all true. If she wasn't interested, I'd just say "have a nice day" and move on with my life.
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u/eileun 1d ago
exactly, this kind of behavior isn't inappropriate and therefore "socially unacceptable" in any way, no idea where OP got that from
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u/VelisaUcy 2d ago
Respect to you for speaking up, people need to know it’s not just harmless flirting
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u/ShinduChan 2d ago
I’d recommend just ignoring them, but if you really feel forced to give them your IG, then maybe create an extra, fake account and give them this one? No need to bother with blocking them then.
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u/Fresh_Category6015 1d ago
Give you a tip from a male. Carry a whistle and anytime anyone shows unwanted attention blow the whistle. They won't like the attention and they'll clear off. Awful that you have to go through this though and it's not right. I'm British and love Poland. I was in Krakow and didn't notice women getting unwanted attention so I'm just wondering, would this be the norm in Warsaw.
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u/Normal-Willow5391 1d ago
I get what you mean, but honestly, people have always met like this. You can just say “sorry, I’m busy” and walk away. Nowadays most guys are awkward in real life because they mostly talk online, so this is their way to try to meet someone.
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u/brickography 1d ago
either ignore them, pretend you're calling someone or wear huge headphones and just walk on
don't give them any politeness or attention please. I know what I'm talking about I've been living in the central Warsaw my entire life and you being nice sends them a signal that you can be intimidated.
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u/RudnitzkyvsHalsmann 1d ago
report them to the police if they don't leave you alone at the first "no"
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u/OkAssociation3083 1d ago
If you're not interested just go: Thank you. But I'm not interested. In wish you a good day.
And move on with your life
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u/Shill000 22h ago
Guys seen videos on youtube how easy it is to pickup polish girls as a foreigner and Poland became a sex tourism destination for them. Polki are literally mattresses of Europe, even pajeets have a chance here
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u/rybosomiczny 21h ago
These are the idiots buying „pick up” courses from manosphere coaches. Just ignore or call the security.
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u/No_Possible_61 18h ago
Why do you even speak with these people? Just pass them and no interaction. If u land on youtube - you can always report it and the video will be taken down.
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u/ValKyKaivbul 18h ago
I think it’s quite normal. I am usually being approached by 10-20 girls per day in Poland, when I am there, all use same line. Perhaps there was popular online course which they all follow? Or some king of RPG game where in order to fulfil the quest you need to find a random person to sleep with ?
/s
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u/FatefulDonkey 2d ago
Treat them like beggars, junkies and scammers. Just keep walking without any interaction.