So I was meant to work a 7.5 hour shift tomorrow but my manager told me I'm not needed as there has been a "change of plans". I kind of need the money, and he said he can call me to come in earlier on Friday to "top up the hours" but I won't be making 7 hours just for coming in earlier the one day, and also I don't want to come in earlier being honest, I just want to stick to what the rota says, is that too much to ask for? So my question is, can I just say that I want to work tomorrow?

UPDATE: thanks to everyone that commented. I told the manager and they took it super seriously. so i'm going to see how this pans out.

tldr: a guy twice my age at fast food job has a one-sided beef with me.

I'm in my early 20s and work part time at a fast food restaurant. I'm new at the job, only been here a couple of months. Most people at work treat me fairly.

But then there's this 40-something year old guy who has developed beef with me, for some reason, and cusses at me and scolds me constantly.

Like dude, I'm half your age, this is ridiculous. Also, like it or not, you have to see me at work every week, you've made it extremely uncomfortable for both parties.

Today for instance the manager told me to clock out earlier at 21:30, instead of the usual time. So at 21:29 I leave the kitchen and go to the changing room. Now while I'm changing, this dude storms into the changing room, all red and fuming, and calls me a p.o.s for not having completed the one order that was there on the screen at 21:29. I know I'm in the right here because the manager had told me to clock out, and had I had tended to that last sandwich I would have clocked out two or three minutes late, which would have been a problem in our system; this is to say what he did was highly unnecessary. Plus, finishing that sandwich would surely have taken him less effort than running across the restaurant to the changing rooms and raging like a crackhead.

Part of me wants to quit the job because this guy is making it worse. But another voice in my head thinks: what if he's bothering me over little things because HE WANTS me to quit? In that case I wouldn't want to give him the satisfaction.

How could I go about handling this?

Feels like half of my day goes into meetings and taking notes. I barely have time left to do the actual work. Luckily, I started using a tool (Dadan, found it on AppSumo) that records, transcribes, and summarizes automatically, and it was honestly the first time I left a meeting without a headache.

I'm already burnt out… do we really need this many meetings, or do we just like hearing ourselves talk?

I have a coworker who does not believe in using deodorant. It’s worse because it’s construction so he’s constantly moving around and sweating and the smell is overwhelmingly pungent to put it mildly. He just came into my office and it took everything I had to not leave the room.

Does anyone have any experience in dealing with this? Is this an HR issue?

I work in customer service doing live chat and recently my company had a layoff and laid off several agents because the company budget has not been doing well. Now we are extremely short staffed and the workload has been much more intense because there are not enough agents at closing to properly assist customers. I also had to change my schedule to work on weekends now because someone recently quit. I no longer have two days off in a row which was very important for me to fully rest and recuperate from the intense anxiety my role gives me now.

I do two chats at the same time. That doesn't look bad on paper, but imagine having to simultaneously keep up with two customers with different issues at the same time, all timed, while trying to hurry up so you can get to the next chat where the customer has been waiting 10+ minutes to speak to someone. I went through that last Friday and felt like vomiting after I signed off. I was the only chat agent at closing because someone called out sick and it was the other agent's day off. There are only 3 closing agents including me.

As far as I know, there are no plans to hire new agents even though we desperately need it. They are trying hard to keep a skeleton crew so they can cut back on costs. I have been suffering from increased heart rate (I also have POTS syndrome, so it has been exuberated by stress), nausea, tension headaches, and muscle spasms due to extreme anxiety. I sent an email to my management team asking if we could please take a look at my schedule and see if there are any adjustments that can be made and no one ever responded.

I live on single income and am single and don't have the luxury of just up and quitting until I find something better while relying on parents or a partner. I have been trying to apply to new WFH jobs but keep getting rejected. My pool of available jobs is very small because I am chronically ill and cannot do most entry level jobs where you have to stand for long periods of time, and I cannot drive and don't have money to Uber twice a day somewhere.

I guess what I am asking is, are there any tips or advice on things I can do to reduce the mental stress and nerves this job is causing? I wake up panicking every day I have to work now. I feel like I am in hell.

Need some guidance

Hi guys, This is my second job, I started in early June. Started off well, but then now I have racked up 3 bad incidents, EDIT 3 of them being ->2 behaviour complaints and one for unprofessional behaviour not joining 1 call. Manager scheduled call with the HR a week back, thought I was going to get fired, but they told me if this repeats there will be serious consequence. I apologised repeatedly to everyone involved, not sure what to do more than this. Work wise also things are not going very well, performance is not so great. Any sort of guidance can help, really confused what to do. The complaints were exaggerated and worse thing both of them were females, so company thinks I have problem with females. Despite of giving full efforts, I am still unable to look myself in the face and say that I am not performing well. Please guide me

My Elementary School Principal is currently selling parking spots right next to school building to employees for $85. This to me violates equity as not all of us can afford a days worth of pay for the spot. Parking is a condition of work and should not be a perk. It’s provided as a workplace basic. Selling access only undermines the idea that the school provides fair working conditions. This all puts pressure on employees when she frames it as supporting the school and puts us in a difficult place as employees who are not paid as much as the ones who can afford. The funds are not stated what they would go towards except saying support. If this a common practice in other Elementary Schools, Especially in Florida?

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Thank you for your continued support!

I have 14 years of work experience, and I feel like I'm going through one of the most stressful periods of my life work wise. So much so that it's making me physically ill...I've had regular insomnia and for the last 3 months, I can use my two hands to count how many week nights did it take me less than one hour to fall asleep. I have acid reflux and have been taking reflux medication for the past 6 or 7 years but my reflux is at its worse and on top of the prescribed meds I'm also taking over the counter anti acid medications every week, I can feel the acid in my mouth, I have trouble swallowing, I have a sore throat. I'm constantly anxious and have been through periods when I cry everyday, I'm taking psych meds but they don't stop the crying. I have diarrhea crisis where I stay in the bathroom until 2AM, 3AM, my body fighting the sleeping pills I take. I feel awful all over...

I have a new boss who seriously undermined me, I was getting some executive visibility and some executives were even talking of promoting me, my manager felt threatened and used their personal influence to change me into a different role with no executive exposure, and hired one of their personal friends to do the work I was doing. No one enjoys working with my boss and the coworkers I'm close with agree that they are dangerous and it's best I just keep my head low and don't do anything that makes me look too competent. My work environment is very cut throat in general, with people bringing in their nepotism hires and bosses taking credit for other people's work (my own boss included), there are countless stories of people being demoted, taking the blame for things they didn't do, being assigned impossible amounts of work...

I feel paranoid, I spend my days documenting things and gathering evidence lest I'm accused of something I didn't do. I do care about the work and want to do good work, but am afraid of even trying and having it backfire, spending so much time and energy into delivering something good only to have my boss take the work from me and take credit for it or assign it to their minion friend...

I'm looking for a new job but this is a tough market, I'm investing in training that will make my CV look better, but I think I'll be stuck here for the next 6 months at least.

I feel so undervalued and demotivated and I'm trying my best to reframe my mindset and not care anymore. I want to do good work and I want to have a career, and I was so close to growing professionally until my manager took it all away from me. But right now my job is just making me sick. On days when I'm not working I feel like a completely new person, my mood is much better and I even fall asleep much better.

For anyone who's been through this, how did you cope? I take meds, I have hobbies, I go to the gym, I read, I paint, I eat healthy, but for 8 hours every day I feel miserable.

My coworkers LOVE potlucks. They do other activities such as trivia, games, and football watch events but potlucks are there main thing. There’s a potluck almost every 2 weeks. In between these potlucks there is constant socializing whether it’s during or after work. The room is never quiet. I enjoy the constant chatter around the room and how active it is but Im not too fond of the potlucks and team building events.

I don’t know why they do them so often when they also talk during work hours. What is there to talk about for 40hrs a week every week??? They always invite me but I decline because I just don’t know what to do at these events.

I don’t like sharing my personal life. My work experience is alittle convoluted so talking about it makes me a tad uncomfortable. I hate school but my resumes says other wise. My life is a contraindication due to lack of advise, exposure, and survival to which speaking with my coworkers they just don’t understand so anything I say is dismissed. I’m allergic to a majority of the food and i dont have much an appetite during work hours. I also am not interested in knowing what my coworkers do outside of work. I’m just not curious enough to know them in that way. I’m not a big board game person and I like to watch football on my own time (while I’m working). I overall keep to myself at work.

Well I’m looking into changing departments. Not because of the social hours but due to the work. It’s getting alittle boring. The department I’m transitioning to wants to start doing social hours like the department I’m leaving but this department is much smaller which means I can’t sneak out to my car while they “team build”.

Im gonna have to start going. Just the idea of it makes me so uncomfortable :/

Any tips?

I think my job is trying to fire me or get me to quit, I am looking for a new job but obviously can’t just quit. I work as a RBT in a clinic and when I first started I was told I could wear joggers, scrub pants and solid shirts or logo wear, my second day on the job I got dress coded for wearing joggers of the wrong material. I learned, and since than have just worn scrub pants. I checked in with my manager asking if my outfits have been fine recently and she said they have been. My hours have been cut drastically so I reached out to her and she wanted to have a meeting. I figured it was about my performance (honestly I’m probably pretty annoying because I check in very frequently about my performance and I’m never told any corrective feedback and if I am I apply it and check back in to make sure I’m applying it right.) well I was kinda flabbergasted when I went into the meeting and their main issue was me not following dress code which had lead my hours to be cut by 20+ hours a week. I know I am following dress code and checked in to make sure the issue had been fixed and I was told it had been. I asked them to give me a an example of when I didn’t follow dress code in recent weeks, they said they had a report of me wearing a shirt with another company’s logo which did not happen. They also brought up that my note conversion is 5 minutes too long. Which I find insane because last week I was told I had extremely high quality notes. They put me on a corrective plan but quite honestly I feel like they are trying to get me to quit with the drastic hour cutting and the wrongfully saying I broke dress code. Does anyone have any advice on what to say about that when I put in my two weeks? Or how to handle this the rest of my time there without stepping on toes? I think the main reason they are trying to fire me is because I go to school 3 days a week and cannot be a “team player” (I am mostly unable to cover shifts when they ask me to or work more than my two days a week, they have talked to me about this but I can’t change it)

I just read someone here that , especially as someone who is more introverted , nervous socially in person and was bullied in school, worries me

"People you work with arent "friends". they'd throw you under a bus to save their own jobs."

So a little on me, I'm someone who really needs to socialize more in life for my mental health and to make up for all the years I lived in a bubble of fear and trauma. I still have these but I am trying to force myself to face them, I'm doing a formation online it's webcam and it finishes very soon, and yesterday I actually cried because I've liked being in this group of people during the lessons, that once it's over I know I won't see them again, and it hurts...I'll eventually have to push myself to get over it, I know my brain is being stupid, and I hang on to things mentally, but that's just life

But when in a job, I don't wanna have to be worried of people trying to single me out or gang up on me. Another difficulty is, on top of being very nervous in person, my hands start sweating like MAD..

Hi I’m 22 very young to be getting this promotion. been working quality for about 4 +!years now. I started out as an inspector and than was working a lead position doing things all over the plant for about a little over a year now but didn’t get the lead title and pay until about 2 months ago. Well now, I got another promotion to replace my current boss to be the quality supervisor , he is going to be working on second shift. I really didn’t even get the chance to say no, and I honestly figured it would be a little nice, get an office , get to learn a little bit more, get to be on salary pay and attend meetings. Don’t get me wrong, I do good on the floor, but in an office? I’m not so sure. It’s a lot I have to learn and I got 2 weeks for my boss to train me and the first week is almost over. I’m nervous because he hasn’t really showed me much and tomorrow is Wednesday. He has always been ALL over the place. And instead of him training me he’s kind of just got me doing side gigs for him like he always has me doing. I’m no so tuned in with using excel and doing his normal daily job or traveling when need be or important phone calls / emails. I’m good on the floor. So I’m nervous I won’t learn what I need to learn or even if I do learn that I won’t be good at it. I’m going to give it a shot for a month, if I seem to be an unfit person for the job, how would I tell my plant manager if I could go back to being a lead? The problem with that is, I need someone to take my current position, and I know who that person is, I also need to hire someone that is going to have to take over her position. What happens then? We don’t need that extra person if I go back down to being a lead. Will my job just let me go? I’m very beneficial for my job, I don’t think they’d let me go. I’ve been loyal, and I have to be the one training everyone, because not many people know the job. I’m just nervous. Which is acceptable, but I’m not going to put on a front that I’m doing good at the job if I’m not. Just don’t know how to tell my plant manager if that’s ends up happening.

I have an employee who I have a pretty good relationship with; we’re chill and i genuinely like being her boss. One time she texted me and asked if she could take a bottle of sparkling water out of my office’s fridge (I work hybrid so I’m not always there), and I told her to go ahead. It’s really not a big deal if she wants to try it once. Then last week she Venmoed me $15 and said thanks, by the way, I’ve been going to your office and taking one each time I go in (she probably didn’t know it $3 each). Money isn’t the entire issue, but I just really rather her get her own if she wants to have it that often. Any how, I don’t want to look stingy and I don’t want to damage our relationship but how do I get her to stop?

I work 8am/5pm at one job and 6pm/10pm at my second job

I need to leave at 10 because I have very little time before I have to go to bed, since I have to wake up at 6:30am

However, my coworker is always 15 minutes to an hour late

I work a job where only one worker is on shift at a time (24/7 store). So if I were to leave at 10, nobody would be in the store. I could lock the doors, but we’d be closed all night (which corporate will chew my managers head off if we are).

Bottom line is, if I were to lock up and go, it would be my fault for not staying 15 or 20 minutes past

All my coworkers act like I’m lazy for not wanting to stay 20 minutes late, or that I’m not a team player for wanting to leave right when my shift ends (because they all do this, it’s the culture here that you stay until your relief shows or you get fired)

If I lock up, I’ll get fired I’m pretty sure. But I like this job, so I’d hate to just get myself fired for locking up

I recently led a project for the first time. It was experimental and being developed in real time, and I probably did 95%+ of the work (including working after hours and on weekends). My coworker, M, was brought in along the way to support on one aspect of the project. Throughout the project, I consistently told her I appreciated her work, and at every 1 on 1 meeting we had I asked if she had any questions or concerns. Yet, she never raised any issues.

Now, after the project is done (and quite successful), my manager told me M expressed that she had challenges throughout this project that were never addressed and wants to do a retrospective discussion. I was completely caught off guard because M never raised anything to me and we dont have a company culture where people go around you and escalate to your manager without making any attempts to discuss first. When I asked M if she would be open to us discussing together ahead of this group meeting, she said it doesn't make sense for her to share her "feedback" directly with me ahead of time. Instead, she wants to bring it to a group meeting with my manager and her manager (who also happens to be the manager of my manager), where she shapes the structure of the conversation. She claims that having this meeting will be a way for our managers to add value and think about better ways to do things going forward (even though the project is already done). And, she said if I have any questions I can ask her after the meeting.

I feel like this isn't appropriate, since M is one step below me, she refuses to tell me what the "challenges" are, and she’s positioning the feedback discussion to happen only in front of my supervisors. She also attempted to undermine me throughout the project in question (I never raised this btw). I worry that this is gearing up to be an unnecessarily confrontational meeting. I'm a low-key person and I prefer to just have simple and open communication. I’m unsure how best to navigate this, and am wondering whether to go along with it, talk to my manager first, or ask HR for guidance.

This is more of a vent post than anything, but I'm wondering if anyone else that works in a pet friendly office has had similar experiences. My boss has 2 dogs that he brings into work around 3 times a week. One is around 3 years old and is very chill and well behaved, she really just hang out and sleeps most of the day. The other is about 1 year old and is just about the polar opposite. She is very high energy, is always getting into stuff, trying to fight the other dog, chewing on things, and also has a terrible habit of going to the bathroom inside! I feel really bad, because I can clearly see that this poor dog just isn't getting her needs met. When the dogs are brought to the office they really just are left to walk around and do whatever, to my knowledge they are not taken for walks or let outside to use the bathroom during the day at all. I can see that the younger dog is just really bored and under-stimulated and is acting out as a result.

The thing that I find REALLY unacceptable is the pooping and peeing on the ground. I have never owned dogs, so maybe I'm wrong, but I think a dog that is close to a year and a half old should not be going to the bathroom inside this often. The last few times it happened, it was clear the dog probably had an upset stomach, but yesterday at the very end of the day, she just straight up pooped on the ground like it was totally normal. Sorry that this is gross, but it smelled so strongly that I assumed my boss would have noticed and cleaned it up. But guess what, this morning I came in and it was still there!!!! So now I'm just working 15 feet away from a day-old dog turd, I guess?

Am I wrong to feel like this is totally not acceptable working conditions????? Nobody wants to clean it up because everyone is fed up with this situation and I'm kind of convinced my boss is pretending not to notice it. It's really awkward to confront him and ask him to clean it up. I really don't think this dog should be in the office at all, but since it's my boss's dog you can't really say much about it. Not really sure there's much of a solution here lol but just wanted to get it off my chest.

I lost my job earlier this year, and after some time I was hired at a local private organization that provides one-on-one support to autistic children. They provided the training (though it was unpaid), and after that I was supposed to be set up with clients.

It's been over a month and I've been on "hired - waiting for client assignment" the whole time. No contact, nothing.

In the meantime, I applied for and was hired for a different job, a state funded position for better pay and more consistent hours. While I can TECHNICALLY do both, at this point I honestly don't want to. I want to quit the first job, which I feel as disrespected my time.

However, I'm not really sure how to go about it. It's mostly online, in that the main office is in-state but like an hour away and I've spoken to people mostly via webex and the phone. So there's not exactly a desk I can slap a letter onto. And what do I even say in my resignation letter? "Delete my info; I don't feel like I owe you a two week notice so consider this effective immediately"?

TLDR: a concierge at my work will come to my office to talk to me for up to 30-45 minutes everyday and multiple times a day and it is getting to be way too much for my work day. Advice for getting her to stop without going to her boss?

Hi all! For context, I (27 f) work at a retirement facility that is not a medical complex. Just older adults living there and I am a point of resource for their challenges (social work adjacent, but again non medical facility). We have two buildings with one of them having three communities and all have a front desk. My office is a little ways away from one of the front entrances (a minute walk i would say, but not right down the hall) and the concierge (24 f) is a M-F 9-5 worker who has been there a little longer than me.

The issue: She has been coming to my office for the last year and will tell me complaints/concerns about our residents. At first it was helpful but then it turned into a one-sided gab sesh where she does all the talking at me while I sometimes just stare at her. My desk is facing away from the door, so I can’t pay attention to her and my work and I am a horrid people pleaser and don’t want to be rude and turn my back but sometimes I have to for her to just get a clue… I have a lot of concerns and one being neither of us are getting work done when she is there and this is a huge stressor for me because my supervisor that shares the office is now on maternity leave and I am the only other person in my department. The concierge will come and spend up to 30-45 minutes with me just talking about nonsense (literally talks herself into different subjects without my input ever) and this is time I can’t afford to waste as I am literally managing my department and we deal with people in rehab and hospital stuff at times. She knows how busy I am and still will come for such a long time at the end of her break or right before or when she “has to tell me something” which I think is her way of getting to come to my office. She also has increased to MULTIPLE TIMES EVERY DAY now that I am alone. It is like clockwork now…

Sorry that was a bit of a rant but lord this is such a stressor for me as I don’t want to be rude but I also want her to stop coming so often and for so long. I get we are similar ages but I don’t like when she comes for long periods of time and it is making me not like her even though she is really a nice person (however rude this is…). Is there a polite but effective way to communicate that she can’t come to my office for such long periods without going to her boss? I suspect she is neurodivergent also because of this (talks about her interests only with intense excitement to many people, eye contact isn’t always there, doesn’t let anyone else talk even in groups (she will get louder to be heard), won’t get social cues or social “rules” like showing pics of her in a towel to me because of her cat in the photo, not taking turns talking, she will keep talking to me even when I say I’m just eating my lunch and it’s well past lunch time (again I’m VERY busy now and will eat when I can)).

Advice is appreciated!! TYIA

I may be wrong, but I feel that most people gets burnout or wants to change job because they are overworked. What about underworked? What about the anxiety and emptiness and not learning anything new at a job? Psychologically it’s mostly a conscious decision “this is not working as I’m wasting my life”, but could the feeling of burnout also occur? Another scenario is when you and your employer are not on the same page, despite everything else appears fine. To elaborate, speaking for myself, I am very successful at my current job, maintaining and developing clients, have support from my immediate boss. But the big boss has a different idea of how she wants the product to be sold, so she can’t fully embrace what I bring to the table (despite other people are not doing anything different or better), she wants that unicorn sale and client and until then, all I am doing is “create more work for the support groups”. So, it’s a schizophrenic situation where I am both successful and my company never feels happy about it.

Title say it all- one of my coworkers is having a literal temper tantrum. She had a poor reaction to my 3 weeks notice (I thought I was being helpful adding a week to help tie things up), and now will not even be in same room with me- she takes routes around the building to avoid me, won’t sit at her desk in the room that we share. Stomping around while passing me- even the boss is like “you good?” I’m just staying quiet until my last day comes. I don’t know if that’s the right move or not but I’m not sure what else to do at this point. We were friends for the last 15 years of working together and it’s just such a weird turn of personality. Like it literally feels like she’s having a breakdown. The company has pretty much just let her treat everyone like crap for the past 10 years because they’re scared of her and her temper. It’s all a bit ridiculous honestly. And I feel like it’s putting all of the limelight on her and her misery and making my exciting choice feel really crappy.

Anyway- ya’ll got stories of crappy coworker reactions to make me feel not so alone? I’d love to hear them and what you did.

I'm in the midst of trying to get 3 jobs if I can, but plubic transport (buses) stop at 5:30pm where I live and don't run on the weekends, and where I live is not within easy walking distance. I'm guessing Ubers? Can be hard because where I live is a rundown drug city so a lot of them stop coming after a while. I'd get a driver's license but classes here cost outwards of $300-4000 dollars for the classes. I'm just stuck living in a motel because of the economy, and desperatly want to get out even if it means working all hours.

We had a coworker at my workplace who seemed like the perfect employee. He was the most dependable person I've ever worked with. He never called off, never took vacation time, he was always on time- actually was 15 minutes early everyday, he worked over and covered for call offs when needed. Everyone liked him- coworkers, supervisors, clients, even the outside vendors knew him by name because he was so friendly, outgoing, and just an overall kind and pleasant person .

Then one day last week he was just gone. His personal items were cleared out of the office, his badge and keys returned. None of the other employees knew anything and upper management was tight lipped and said that they could not talk about it.

It turned out that he was terminated for theft of company funds and law enforcement is conducting an investigation. I've heard the saying that it's always the person that you least expect but this one came out of nowhere.

I see two extremes happening at the same time across various departments at my company

You have the departments pushing back hard on “that’s not in our scope/not our responsibility/not something we are willing to do”…and getting away it.

Upper management having a “just get it done” mentality.

And the departments getting caught up in the avalanche of do more with less and find a way to make it work.

I’m unluckily part of the last group.

For some reason my boss will not push back with “not our responsibility”.

Maybe they’re afraid for their job or maybe they don’t want to argue over who should be doing the task but he has become the ‘ok, we will figure it out regardless’ person and we are DROWNING.

My company has put a hiring freeze in place as well and I hear the job market is brutal in general.

My fair paced job where I had some down time between tasks is increasingly becoming nonstop urgency after urgency and I’m not sure how much longer I’ll be able to take it.

There’s simultaneous initiatives and projects going on and everything is believed to be equally important. Burn out is imminent at this rate.

Anyone else?