Title say it all- one of my coworkers is having a literal temper tantrum. She had a poor reaction to my 3 weeks notice (I thought I was being helpful adding a week to help tie things up), and now will not even be in same room with me- she takes routes around the building to avoid me, won’t sit at her desk in the room that we share. Stomping around while passing me- even the boss is like “you good?” I’m just staying quiet until my last day comes. I don’t know if that’s the right move or not but I’m not sure what else to do at this point. We were friends for the last 15 years of working together and it’s just such a weird turn of personality. Like it literally feels like she’s having a breakdown. The company has pretty much just let her treat everyone like crap for the past 10 years because they’re scared of her and her temper. It’s all a bit ridiculous honestly. And I feel like it’s putting all of the limelight on her and her misery and making my exciting choice feel really crappy.

Anyway- ya’ll got stories of crappy coworker reactions to make me feel not so alone? I’d love to hear them and what you did.

I have an employee who I have a pretty good relationship with; we’re chill and i genuinely like being her boss. One time she texted me and asked if she could take a bottle of sparkling water out of my office’s fridge (I work hybrid so I’m not always there), and I told her to go ahead. It’s really not a big deal if she wants to try it once. Then last week she Venmoed me $15 and said thanks, by the way, I’ve been going to your office and taking one each time I go in (she probably didn’t know it $3 each). Money isn’t the entire issue, but I just really rather her get her own if she wants to have it that often. Any how, I don’t want to look stingy and I don’t want to damage our relationship but how do I get her to stop?

I work 8am/5pm at one job and 6pm/10pm at my second job

I need to leave at 10 because I have very little time before I have to go to bed, since I have to wake up at 6:30am

However, my coworker is always 15 minutes to an hour late

I work a job where only one worker is on shift at a time (24/7 store). So if I were to leave at 10, nobody would be in the store. I could lock the doors, but we’d be closed all night (which corporate will chew my managers head off if we are).

Bottom line is, if I were to lock up and go, it would be my fault for not staying 15 or 20 minutes past

All my coworkers act like I’m lazy for not wanting to stay 20 minutes late, or that I’m not a team player for wanting to leave right when my shift ends (because they all do this, it’s the culture here that you stay until your relief shows or you get fired)

If I lock up, I’ll get fired I’m pretty sure. But I like this job, so I’d hate to just get myself fired for locking up

We had a coworker at my workplace who seemed like the perfect employee. He was the most dependable person I've ever worked with. He never called off, never took vacation time, he was always on time- actually was 15 minutes early everyday, he worked over and covered for call offs when needed. Everyone liked him- coworkers, supervisors, clients, even the outside vendors knew him by name because he was so friendly, outgoing, and just an overall kind and pleasant person .

Then one day last week he was just gone. His personal items were cleared out of the office, his badge and keys returned. None of the other employees knew anything and upper management was tight lipped and said that they could not talk about it.

It turned out that he was terminated for theft of company funds and law enforcement is conducting an investigation. I've heard the saying that it's always the person that you least expect but this one came out of nowhere.

Posted on here about two weeks ago about being an efficient full time houseman who walked over 7 miles a day but never got lunches or breaks.

My new job is in sales - I get an hourly wage, commission, and get five hours of OT each week.

I now sell to clients but also to businesses, which is very new to me but perfect for my personality.

No more picking up trash and cleaning toilets - Now Its time to learn how to sell products. 🙂

I may be wrong, but I feel that most people gets burnout or wants to change job because they are overworked. What about underworked? What about the anxiety and emptiness and not learning anything new at a job? Psychologically it’s mostly a conscious decision “this is not working as I’m wasting my life”, but could the feeling of burnout also occur? Another scenario is when you and your employer are not on the same page, despite everything else appears fine. To elaborate, speaking for myself, I am very successful at my current job, maintaining and developing clients, have support from my immediate boss. But the big boss has a different idea of how she wants the product to be sold, so she can’t fully embrace what I bring to the table (despite other people are not doing anything different or better), she wants that unicorn sale and client and until then, all I am doing is “create more work for the support groups”. So, it’s a schizophrenic situation where I am both successful and my company never feels happy about it.

I have 14 years of work experience, and I feel like I'm going through one of the most stressful periods of my life work wise. So much so that it's making me physically ill...I've had regular insomnia and for the last 3 months, I can use my two hands to count how many week nights did it take me less than one hour to fall asleep. I have acid reflux and have been taking reflux medication for the past 6 or 7 years but my reflux is at its worse and on top of the prescribed meds I'm also taking over the counter anti acid medications every week, I can feel the acid in my mouth, I have trouble swallowing, I have a sore throat. I'm constantly anxious and have been through periods when I cry everyday, I'm taking psych meds but they don't stop the crying. I have diarrhea crisis where I stay in the bathroom until 2AM, 3AM, my body fighting the sleeping pills I take. I feel awful all over...

I have a new boss who seriously undermined me, I was getting some executive visibility and some executives were even talking of promoting me, my manager felt threatened and used their personal influence to change me into a different role with no executive exposure, and hired one of their personal friends to do the work I was doing. No one enjoys working with my boss and the coworkers I'm close with agree that they are dangerous and it's best I just keep my head low and don't do anything that makes me look too competent. My work environment is very cut throat in general, with people bringing in their nepotism hires and bosses taking credit for other people's work (my own boss included), there are countless stories of people being demoted, taking the blame for things they didn't do, being assigned impossible amounts of work...

I feel paranoid, I spend my days documenting things and gathering evidence lest I'm accused of something I didn't do. I do care about the work and want to do good work, but am afraid of even trying and having it backfire, spending so much time and energy into delivering something good only to have my boss take the work from me and take credit for it or assign it to their minion friend...

I'm looking for a new job but this is a tough market, I'm investing in training that will make my CV look better, but I think I'll be stuck here for the next 6 months at least.

I feel so undervalued and demotivated and I'm trying my best to reframe my mindset and not care anymore. I want to do good work and I want to have a career, and I was so close to growing professionally until my manager took it all away from me. But right now my job is just making me sick. On days when I'm not working I feel like a completely new person, my mood is much better and I even fall asleep much better.

For anyone who's been through this, how did you cope? I take meds, I have hobbies, I go to the gym, I read, I paint, I eat healthy, but for 8 hours every day I feel miserable.

This is more of a vent post than anything, but I'm wondering if anyone else that works in a pet friendly office has had similar experiences. My boss has 2 dogs that he brings into work around 3 times a week. One is around 3 years old and is very chill and well behaved, she really just hang out and sleeps most of the day. The other is about 1 year old and is just about the polar opposite. She is very high energy, is always getting into stuff, trying to fight the other dog, chewing on things, and also has a terrible habit of going to the bathroom inside! I feel really bad, because I can clearly see that this poor dog just isn't getting her needs met. When the dogs are brought to the office they really just are left to walk around and do whatever, to my knowledge they are not taken for walks or let outside to use the bathroom during the day at all. I can see that the younger dog is just really bored and under-stimulated and is acting out as a result.

The thing that I find REALLY unacceptable is the pooping and peeing on the ground. I have never owned dogs, so maybe I'm wrong, but I think a dog that is close to a year and a half old should not be going to the bathroom inside this often. The last few times it happened, it was clear the dog probably had an upset stomach, but yesterday at the very end of the day, she just straight up pooped on the ground like it was totally normal. Sorry that this is gross, but it smelled so strongly that I assumed my boss would have noticed and cleaned it up. But guess what, this morning I came in and it was still there!!!! So now I'm just working 15 feet away from a day-old dog turd, I guess?

Am I wrong to feel like this is totally not acceptable working conditions????? Nobody wants to clean it up because everyone is fed up with this situation and I'm kind of convinced my boss is pretending not to notice it. It's really awkward to confront him and ask him to clean it up. I really don't think this dog should be in the office at all, but since it's my boss's dog you can't really say much about it. Not really sure there's much of a solution here lol but just wanted to get it off my chest.

I've just joined a company for about a month now, and I keep making these mistakes which are kinda bad. My supervisor is super cool and he has been helping me a lot with it, but I now seem to be making him angry about some of this. I know that onboarding processes are a part of it but at the same time idk if I should be 100% onboarded on my first month on the company. I did helped in a lot of stuff so far, but I also f* up in some. Everything being remote complicates a little bit since part of the day we work async. But yeah idk wanted to see your opinions.

UPDATE: thanks to everyone that commented. I told the manager and they took it super seriously. so i'm going to see how this pans out.

tldr: a guy twice my age at fast food job has a one-sided beef with me.

I'm in my early 20s and work part time at a fast food restaurant. I'm new at the job, only been here a couple of months. Most people at work treat me fairly.

But then there's this 40-something year old guy who has developed beef with me, for some reason, and cusses at me and scolds me constantly.

Like dude, I'm half your age, this is ridiculous. Also, like it or not, you have to see me at work every week, you've made it extremely uncomfortable for both parties.

Today for instance the manager told me to clock out earlier at 21:30, instead of the usual time. So at 21:29 I leave the kitchen and go to the changing room. Now while I'm changing, this dude storms into the changing room, all red and fuming, and calls me a p.o.s for not having completed the one order that was there on the screen at 21:29. I know I'm in the right here because the manager had told me to clock out, and had I had tended to that last sandwich I would have clocked out two or three minutes late, which would have been a problem in our system; this is to say what he did was highly unnecessary. Plus, finishing that sandwich would surely have taken him less effort than running across the restaurant to the changing rooms and raging like a crackhead.

Part of me wants to quit the job because this guy is making it worse. But another voice in my head thinks: what if he's bothering me over little things because HE WANTS me to quit? In that case I wouldn't want to give him the satisfaction.

How could I go about handling this?

Hey all,

A few months ago my boss introduced a tentative WFH schedule which essentially calls for our small team to share in-office Fridays. Previously we had a set schedule, now we have the freedom to be quite flexible and give everyone a few WFH Fridays a month.

I’m the office admin so I volunteered to put the schedule together and coordinate with everyone (since I already handled updating previous calendars). My team and I have worked well together for years but I’m quickly finding it’s not as simple to navigate when they are given flexibility and I’m the one who has to be strict about how flexible they realistically should be. As I don’t have any real authority over them it can come off as bossy when I am having to nag them about communication - be it asking repeatedly for dates or reminding them to offer me more than ONE day so I can have options when making the schedule.

As it’s going currently, I feel like my co-workers are not willing to step up and support the team. It feels like other in-office employees are seeing this new schedule as an opportunity to never come in on Fridays, and our hybrid employees are seeing switching one of their remote days as a massive inconvenience (when regardless they get 3 days a week at home). I’m speaking outside of PTO/IRL appointments FYI, I recognize those things will interfere. I have this perspective because I’ve been flat out told by my co-workers that they don’t want to work specific Fridays for reasons like “Two Fridays in a row would be too much” or “I have a lot going on that week and I’d be burnt out”.

How do I navigate this? Am I looking at the situation wrong/unfairly, does anyone have advice (managers? people who have been in my shoes?) Is this one of those “it is what it is” issues? Etc etc

I have been hearing that my supervisor is asking people in my department to work while they are on PTO. This is allowed by the company I work for, but it is up to the department's supervisor to provide guidelines as to their expectations while an employee is on pre-approved PTO. I would like to request my supervisor to create guidelines surrounding this topic, but I don't know how to ask this of them without it sounding like their employees are gossiping about them. Has anyone else been in a similar predicament or know how to best go about this issue? I feel like as an employee, it should be common courtesy to provide work expectations such as these, rather than finding out while on PTO.

I'm in the midst of trying to get 3 jobs if I can, but plubic transport (buses) stop at 5:30pm where I live and don't run on the weekends, and where I live is not within easy walking distance. I'm guessing Ubers? Can be hard because where I live is a rundown drug city so a lot of them stop coming after a while. I'd get a driver's license but classes here cost outwards of $300-4000 dollars for the classes. I'm just stuck living in a motel because of the economy, and desperatly want to get out even if it means working all hours.

I have a coworker who does not believe in using deodorant. It’s worse because it’s construction so he’s constantly moving around and sweating and the smell is overwhelmingly pungent to put it mildly. He just came into my office and it took everything I had to not leave the room.

Does anyone have any experience in dealing with this? Is this an HR issue?

My coworkers LOVE potlucks. They do other activities such as trivia, games, and football watch events but potlucks are there main thing. There’s a potluck almost every 2 weeks. In between these potlucks there is constant socializing whether it’s during or after work. The room is never quiet. I enjoy the constant chatter around the room and how active it is but Im not too fond of the potlucks and team building events.

I don’t know why they do them so often when they also talk during work hours. What is there to talk about for 40hrs a week every week??? They always invite me but I decline because I just don’t know what to do at these events.

I don’t like sharing my personal life. My work experience is alittle convoluted so talking about it makes me a tad uncomfortable. I hate school but my resumes says other wise. My life is a contraindication due to lack of advise, exposure, and survival to which speaking with my coworkers they just don’t understand so anything I say is dismissed. I’m allergic to a majority of the food and i dont have much an appetite during work hours. I also am not interested in knowing what my coworkers do outside of work. I’m just not curious enough to know them in that way. I’m not a big board game person and I like to watch football on my own time (while I’m working). I overall keep to myself at work.

Well I’m looking into changing departments. Not because of the social hours but due to the work. It’s getting alittle boring. The department I’m transitioning to wants to start doing social hours like the department I’m leaving but this department is much smaller which means I can’t sneak out to my car while they “team build”.

Im gonna have to start going. Just the idea of it makes me so uncomfortable :/

Any tips?

I see two extremes happening at the same time across various departments at my company

You have the departments pushing back hard on “that’s not in our scope/not our responsibility/not something we are willing to do”…and getting away it.

Upper management having a “just get it done” mentality.

And the departments getting caught up in the avalanche of do more with less and find a way to make it work.

I’m unluckily part of the last group.

For some reason my boss will not push back with “not our responsibility”.

Maybe they’re afraid for their job or maybe they don’t want to argue over who should be doing the task but he has become the ‘ok, we will figure it out regardless’ person and we are DROWNING.

My company has put a hiring freeze in place as well and I hear the job market is brutal in general.

My fair paced job where I had some down time between tasks is increasingly becoming nonstop urgency after urgency and I’m not sure how much longer I’ll be able to take it.

There’s simultaneous initiatives and projects going on and everything is believed to be equally important. Burn out is imminent at this rate.

Anyone else?

I work in customer service doing live chat and recently my company had a layoff and laid off several agents because the company budget has not been doing well. Now we are extremely short staffed and the workload has been much more intense because there are not enough agents at closing to properly assist customers. I also had to change my schedule to work on weekends now because someone recently quit. I no longer have two days off in a row which was very important for me to fully rest and recuperate from the intense anxiety my role gives me now.

I do two chats at the same time. That doesn't look bad on paper, but imagine having to simultaneously keep up with two customers with different issues at the same time, all timed, while trying to hurry up so you can get to the next chat where the customer has been waiting 10+ minutes to speak to someone. I went through that last Friday and felt like vomiting after I signed off. I was the only chat agent at closing because someone called out sick and it was the other agent's day off. There are only 3 closing agents including me.

As far as I know, there are no plans to hire new agents even though we desperately need it. They are trying hard to keep a skeleton crew so they can cut back on costs. I have been suffering from increased heart rate (I also have POTS syndrome, so it has been exuberated by stress), nausea, tension headaches, and muscle spasms due to extreme anxiety. I sent an email to my management team asking if we could please take a look at my schedule and see if there are any adjustments that can be made and no one ever responded.

I live on single income and am single and don't have the luxury of just up and quitting until I find something better while relying on parents or a partner. I have been trying to apply to new WFH jobs but keep getting rejected. My pool of available jobs is very small because I am chronically ill and cannot do most entry level jobs where you have to stand for long periods of time, and I cannot drive and don't have money to Uber twice a day somewhere.

I guess what I am asking is, are there any tips or advice on things I can do to reduce the mental stress and nerves this job is causing? I wake up panicking every day I have to work now. I feel like I am in hell.

TLDR: a concierge at my work will come to my office to talk to me for up to 30-45 minutes everyday and multiple times a day and it is getting to be way too much for my work day. Advice for getting her to stop without going to her boss?

Hi all! For context, I (27 f) work at a retirement facility that is not a medical complex. Just older adults living there and I am a point of resource for their challenges (social work adjacent, but again non medical facility). We have two buildings with one of them having three communities and all have a front desk. My office is a little ways away from one of the front entrances (a minute walk i would say, but not right down the hall) and the concierge (24 f) is a M-F 9-5 worker who has been there a little longer than me.

The issue: She has been coming to my office for the last year and will tell me complaints/concerns about our residents. At first it was helpful but then it turned into a one-sided gab sesh where she does all the talking at me while I sometimes just stare at her. My desk is facing away from the door, so I can’t pay attention to her and my work and I am a horrid people pleaser and don’t want to be rude and turn my back but sometimes I have to for her to just get a clue… I have a lot of concerns and one being neither of us are getting work done when she is there and this is a huge stressor for me because my supervisor that shares the office is now on maternity leave and I am the only other person in my department. The concierge will come and spend up to 30-45 minutes with me just talking about nonsense (literally talks herself into different subjects without my input ever) and this is time I can’t afford to waste as I am literally managing my department and we deal with people in rehab and hospital stuff at times. She knows how busy I am and still will come for such a long time at the end of her break or right before or when she “has to tell me something” which I think is her way of getting to come to my office. She also has increased to MULTIPLE TIMES EVERY DAY now that I am alone. It is like clockwork now…

Sorry that was a bit of a rant but lord this is such a stressor for me as I don’t want to be rude but I also want her to stop coming so often and for so long. I get we are similar ages but I don’t like when she comes for long periods of time and it is making me not like her even though she is really a nice person (however rude this is…). Is there a polite but effective way to communicate that she can’t come to my office for such long periods without going to her boss? I suspect she is neurodivergent also because of this (talks about her interests only with intense excitement to many people, eye contact isn’t always there, doesn’t let anyone else talk even in groups (she will get louder to be heard), won’t get social cues or social “rules” like showing pics of her in a towel to me because of her cat in the photo, not taking turns talking, she will keep talking to me even when I say I’m just eating my lunch and it’s well past lunch time (again I’m VERY busy now and will eat when I can)).

Advice is appreciated!! TYIA

Everyone knows that most white collar only have 5 hours of real productivity. I told them sometimes I read the news or watch my bank account and they were mad business lowered their expectations.

I don’t even answer my managers calls if he calls me before my shift or on my day off because I know it’s gonna be some bullshit “so and so didn’t show up, can you come in?” Or “so and so needs to leave early, can you be here in an hour?” First of all, even if I wanted to, which I don’t, it takes me longer than 1 hour to get fully ready. As a bartender I’m doing a full face of makeup, my hair, finding something cute to wear, etc. no I can’t be there in an hour. In a bar there is also such high turnover and unreliable people who just quit at random after a few days of training. Every bar, restaurant, and club I’ve worked at is like this. And since it’s tip pay, it’s literally never worth it. Like dude, that extra 3-4 hours during the day where no one is there is just a waste of time. Like cool, so I lost 5-6 more hours of my day (time spent getting ready included) for $30 extra? No thanks.

A few weeks ago one of our main bartenders (there was 3 of us as the core group of consistent staff) randomly quit and I worked the entire weekend alone. She never even warned me, apologized, and still hasn’t reached out or said anything. And there was another time where I opened and the closing bartender that day never showed up or called. I had dinner plans.. instead I was forced to stay and work from 11 am to 3 am.

This shit just makes me mad because I literally never call in, I don’t ask to come late or leave early. If I do want a shift covered, no one ever replies. So I made it a point to never cover their shifts either, and I told them that in our group chat. Like “hey I never receive coverage when I actually need it and I never ask off. So do not ask me to cover any of y’all’s shifts because the answer will be no.”

Anyways, just bitchin’ about it because my manager called me a few minutes ago. I know it’s some bs because he didn’t text to tell me why he called, and I checked our Facebook page and the daytime bartender (who always calls in or needs to leave) hasn’t posted a promo for day shift. Like nooooppeeeeeee. No siree I already know that girl is trying to leave or no call no showed and I am not coming early😂

Need some guidance

Hi guys, This is my second job, I started in early June. Started off well, but then now I have racked up 3 bad incidents, EDIT 3 of them being ->2 behaviour complaints and one for unprofessional behaviour not joining 1 call. Manager scheduled call with the HR a week back, thought I was going to get fired, but they told me if this repeats there will be serious consequence. I apologised repeatedly to everyone involved, not sure what to do more than this. Work wise also things are not going very well, performance is not so great. Any sort of guidance can help, really confused what to do. The complaints were exaggerated and worse thing both of them were females, so company thinks I have problem with females. Despite of giving full efforts, I am still unable to look myself in the face and say that I am not performing well. Please guide me