Title say it all- one of my coworkers is having a literal temper tantrum. She had a poor reaction to my 3 weeks notice (I thought I was being helpful adding a week to help tie things up), and now will not even be in same room with me- she takes routes around the building to avoid me, won’t sit at her desk in the room that we share. Stomping around while passing me- even the boss is like “you good?” I’m just staying quiet until my last day comes. I don’t know if that’s the right move or not but I’m not sure what else to do at this point. We were friends for the last 15 years of working together and it’s just such a weird turn of personality. Like it literally feels like she’s having a breakdown. The company has pretty much just let her treat everyone like crap for the past 10 years because they’re scared of her and her temper. It’s all a bit ridiculous honestly. And I feel like it’s putting all of the limelight on her and her misery and making my exciting choice feel really crappy.

Anyway- ya’ll got stories of crappy coworker reactions to make me feel not so alone? I’d love to hear them and what you did.

I work 8am/5pm at one job and 6pm/10pm at my second job

I need to leave at 10 because I have very little time before I have to go to bed, since I have to wake up at 6:30am

However, my coworker is always 15 minutes to an hour late

I work a job where only one worker is on shift at a time (24/7 store). So if I were to leave at 10, nobody would be in the store. I could lock the doors, but we’d be closed all night (which corporate will chew my managers head off if we are).

Bottom line is, if I were to lock up and go, it would be my fault for not staying 15 or 20 minutes past

All my coworkers act like I’m lazy for not wanting to stay 20 minutes late, or that I’m not a team player for wanting to leave right when my shift ends (because they all do this, it’s the culture here that you stay until your relief shows or you get fired)

If I lock up, I’ll get fired I’m pretty sure. But I like this job, so I’d hate to just get myself fired for locking up

UPDATE: thanks to everyone that commented. I told the manager and they took it super seriously. so i'm going to see how this pans out.

tldr: a guy twice my age at fast food job has a one-sided beef with me.

I'm in my early 20s and work part time at a fast food restaurant. I'm new at the job, only been here a couple of months. Most people at work treat me fairly.

But then there's this 40-something year old guy who has developed beef with me, for some reason, and cusses at me and scolds me constantly.

Like dude, I'm half your age, this is ridiculous. Also, like it or not, you have to see me at work every week, you've made it extremely uncomfortable for both parties.

Today for instance the manager told me to clock out earlier at 21:30, instead of the usual time. So at 21:29 I leave the kitchen and go to the changing room. Now while I'm changing, this dude storms into the changing room, all red and fuming, and calls me a p.o.s for not having completed the one order that was there on the screen at 21:29. I know I'm in the right here because the manager had told me to clock out, and had I had tended to that last sandwich I would have clocked out two or three minutes late, which would have been a problem in our system; this is to say what he did was highly unnecessary. Plus, finishing that sandwich would surely have taken him less effort than running across the restaurant to the changing rooms and raging like a crackhead.

Part of me wants to quit the job because this guy is making it worse. But another voice in my head thinks: what if he's bothering me over little things because HE WANTS me to quit? In that case I wouldn't want to give him the satisfaction.

How could I go about handling this?

I have an employee who I have a pretty good relationship with; we’re chill and i genuinely like being her boss. One time she texted me and asked if she could take a bottle of sparkling water out of my office’s fridge (I work hybrid so I’m not always there), and I told her to go ahead. It’s really not a big deal if she wants to try it once. Then last week she Venmoed me $15 and said thanks, by the way, I’ve been going to your office and taking one each time I go in (she probably didn’t know it $3 each). Money isn’t the entire issue, but I just really rather her get her own if she wants to have it that often. Any how, I don’t want to look stingy and I don’t want to damage our relationship but how do I get her to stop?

TLDR: a concierge at my work will come to my office to talk to me for up to 30-45 minutes everyday and multiple times a day and it is getting to be way too much for my work day. Advice for getting her to stop without going to her boss?

Hi all! For context, I (27 f) work at a retirement facility that is not a medical complex. Just older adults living there and I am a point of resource for their challenges (social work adjacent, but again non medical facility). We have two buildings with one of them having three communities and all have a front desk. My office is a little ways away from one of the front entrances (a minute walk i would say, but not right down the hall) and the concierge (24 f) is a M-F 9-5 worker who has been there a little longer than me.

The issue: She has been coming to my office for the last year and will tell me complaints/concerns about our residents. At first it was helpful but then it turned into a one-sided gab sesh where she does all the talking at me while I sometimes just stare at her. My desk is facing away from the door, so I can’t pay attention to her and my work and I am a horrid people pleaser and don’t want to be rude and turn my back but sometimes I have to for her to just get a clue… I have a lot of concerns and one being neither of us are getting work done when she is there and this is a huge stressor for me because my supervisor that shares the office is now on maternity leave and I am the only other person in my department. The concierge will come and spend up to 30-45 minutes with me just talking about nonsense (literally talks herself into different subjects without my input ever) and this is time I can’t afford to waste as I am literally managing my department and we deal with people in rehab and hospital stuff at times. She knows how busy I am and still will come for such a long time at the end of her break or right before or when she “has to tell me something” which I think is her way of getting to come to my office. She also has increased to MULTIPLE TIMES EVERY DAY now that I am alone. It is like clockwork now…

Sorry that was a bit of a rant but lord this is such a stressor for me as I don’t want to be rude but I also want her to stop coming so often and for so long. I get we are similar ages but I don’t like when she comes for long periods of time and it is making me not like her even though she is really a nice person (however rude this is…). Is there a polite but effective way to communicate that she can’t come to my office for such long periods without going to her boss? I suspect she is neurodivergent also because of this (talks about her interests only with intense excitement to many people, eye contact isn’t always there, doesn’t let anyone else talk even in groups (she will get louder to be heard), won’t get social cues or social “rules” like showing pics of her in a towel to me because of her cat in the photo, not taking turns talking, she will keep talking to me even when I say I’m just eating my lunch and it’s well past lunch time (again I’m VERY busy now and will eat when I can)).

Advice is appreciated!! TYIA

I recently led a project for the first time. It was experimental and being developed in real time, and I probably did 95%+ of the work (including working after hours and on weekends). My coworker, M, was brought in along the way to support on one aspect of the project. Throughout the project, I consistently told her I appreciated her work, and at every 1 on 1 meeting we had I asked if she had any questions or concerns. Yet, she never raised any issues.

Now, after the project is done (and quite successful), my manager told me M expressed that she had challenges throughout this project that were never addressed and wants to do a retrospective discussion. I was completely caught off guard because M never raised anything to me and we dont have a company culture where people go around you and escalate to your manager without making any attempts to discuss first. When I asked M if she would be open to us discussing together ahead of this group meeting, she said it doesn't make sense for her to share her "feedback" directly with me ahead of time. Instead, she wants to bring it to a group meeting with my manager and her manager (who also happens to be the manager of my manager), where she shapes the structure of the conversation. She claims that having this meeting will be a way for our managers to add value and think about better ways to do things going forward (even though the project is already done). And, she said if I have any questions I can ask her after the meeting.

I feel like this isn't appropriate, since M is one step below me, she refuses to tell me what the "challenges" are, and she’s positioning the feedback discussion to happen only in front of my supervisors. She also attempted to undermine me throughout the project in question (I never raised this btw). I worry that this is gearing up to be an unnecessarily confrontational meeting. I'm a low-key person and I prefer to just have simple and open communication. I’m unsure how best to navigate this, and am wondering whether to go along with it, talk to my manager first, or ask HR for guidance.

Posted on here about two weeks ago about being an efficient full time houseman who walked over 7 miles a day but never got lunches or breaks.

My new job is in sales - I get an hourly wage, commission, and get five hours of OT each week.

I now sell to clients but also to businesses, which is very new to me but perfect for my personality.

No more picking up trash and cleaning toilets - Now Its time to learn how to sell products. 🙂

Hey everyone,

I recently stepped down from a manager role (completely my choice) and transitioned into another management position. I’m happy with the decision, but my replacement has started coming to me with questions about processes and decisions I made while managing. On the surface, that’s fine, I’m willing to help when needed.

The issue is that while asking for input, they’ll make small digs about how I previously handled things. It’s not outright rude, but more like subtle comments that make it clear they would’ve done it differently, or imply my way wasn’t good enough.

I’m not looking to get into conflict, but it does feel uncomfortable. I want to help them succeed, but I don’t want to be in a position where I’m defending my old decisions every time they ask me something.

Has anyone navigated something similar? How do I set boundaries so I can be supportive without feeling undermined or second-guessed about the past?

I may be wrong, but I feel that most people gets burnout or wants to change job because they are overworked. What about underworked? What about the anxiety and emptiness and not learning anything new at a job? Psychologically it’s mostly a conscious decision “this is not working as I’m wasting my life”, but could the feeling of burnout also occur? Another scenario is when you and your employer are not on the same page, despite everything else appears fine. To elaborate, speaking for myself, I am very successful at my current job, maintaining and developing clients, have support from my immediate boss. But the big boss has a different idea of how she wants the product to be sold, so she can’t fully embrace what I bring to the table (despite other people are not doing anything different or better), she wants that unicorn sale and client and until then, all I am doing is “create more work for the support groups”. So, it’s a schizophrenic situation where I am both successful and my company never feels happy about it.

This is more of a vent post than anything, but I'm wondering if anyone else that works in a pet friendly office has had similar experiences. My boss has 2 dogs that he brings into work around 3 times a week. One is around 3 years old and is very chill and well behaved, she really just hang out and sleeps most of the day. The other is about 1 year old and is just about the polar opposite. She is very high energy, is always getting into stuff, trying to fight the other dog, chewing on things, and also has a terrible habit of going to the bathroom inside! I feel really bad, because I can clearly see that this poor dog just isn't getting her needs met. When the dogs are brought to the office they really just are left to walk around and do whatever, to my knowledge they are not taken for walks or let outside to use the bathroom during the day at all. I can see that the younger dog is just really bored and under-stimulated and is acting out as a result.

The thing that I find REALLY unacceptable is the pooping and peeing on the ground. I have never owned dogs, so maybe I'm wrong, but I think a dog that is close to a year and a half old should not be going to the bathroom inside this often. The last few times it happened, it was clear the dog probably had an upset stomach, but yesterday at the very end of the day, she just straight up pooped on the ground like it was totally normal. Sorry that this is gross, but it smelled so strongly that I assumed my boss would have noticed and cleaned it up. But guess what, this morning I came in and it was still there!!!! So now I'm just working 15 feet away from a day-old dog turd, I guess?

Am I wrong to feel like this is totally not acceptable working conditions????? Nobody wants to clean it up because everyone is fed up with this situation and I'm kind of convinced my boss is pretending not to notice it. It's really awkward to confront him and ask him to clean it up. I really don't think this dog should be in the office at all, but since it's my boss's dog you can't really say much about it. Not really sure there's much of a solution here lol but just wanted to get it off my chest.

I lost my job earlier this year, and after some time I was hired at a local private organization that provides one-on-one support to autistic children. They provided the training (though it was unpaid), and after that I was supposed to be set up with clients.

It's been over a month and I've been on "hired - waiting for client assignment" the whole time. No contact, nothing.

In the meantime, I applied for and was hired for a different job, a state funded position for better pay and more consistent hours. While I can TECHNICALLY do both, at this point I honestly don't want to. I want to quit the first job, which I feel as disrespected my time.

However, I'm not really sure how to go about it. It's mostly online, in that the main office is in-state but like an hour away and I've spoken to people mostly via webex and the phone. So there's not exactly a desk I can slap a letter onto. And what do I even say in my resignation letter? "Delete my info; I don't feel like I owe you a two week notice so consider this effective immediately"?

I've just joined a company for about a month now, and I keep making these mistakes which are kinda bad. My supervisor is super cool and he has been helping me a lot with it, but I now seem to be making him angry about some of this. I know that onboarding processes are a part of it but at the same time idk if I should be 100% onboarded on my first month on the company. I did helped in a lot of stuff so far, but I also f* up in some. Everything being remote complicates a little bit since part of the day we work async. But yeah idk wanted to see your opinions.

We had a coworker at my workplace who seemed like the perfect employee. He was the most dependable person I've ever worked with. He never called off, never took vacation time, he was always on time- actually was 15 minutes early everyday, he worked over and covered for call offs when needed. Everyone liked him- coworkers, supervisors, clients, even the outside vendors knew him by name because he was so friendly, outgoing, and just an overall kind and pleasant person .

Then one day last week he was just gone. His personal items were cleared out of the office, his badge and keys returned. None of the other employees knew anything and upper management was tight lipped and said that they could not talk about it.

It turned out that he was terminated for theft of company funds and law enforcement is conducting an investigation. I've heard the saying that it's always the person that you least expect but this one came out of nowhere.

I have 14 years of work experience, and I feel like I'm going through one of the most stressful periods of my life work wise. So much so that it's making me physically ill...I've had regular insomnia and for the last 3 months, I can use my two hands to count how many week nights did it take me less than one hour to fall asleep. I have acid reflux and have been taking reflux medication for the past 6 or 7 years but my reflux is at its worse and on top of the prescribed meds I'm also taking over the counter anti acid medications every week, I can feel the acid in my mouth, I have trouble swallowing, I have a sore throat. I'm constantly anxious and have been through periods when I cry everyday, I'm taking psych meds but they don't stop the crying. I have diarrhea crisis where I stay in the bathroom until 2AM, 3AM, my body fighting the sleeping pills I take. I feel awful all over...

I have a new boss who seriously undermined me, I was getting some executive visibility and some executives were even talking of promoting me, my manager felt threatened and used their personal influence to change me into a different role with no executive exposure, and hired one of their personal friends to do the work I was doing. No one enjoys working with my boss and the coworkers I'm close with agree that they are dangerous and it's best I just keep my head low and don't do anything that makes me look too competent. My work environment is very cut throat in general, with people bringing in their nepotism hires and bosses taking credit for other people's work (my own boss included), there are countless stories of people being demoted, taking the blame for things they didn't do, being assigned impossible amounts of work...

I feel paranoid, I spend my days documenting things and gathering evidence lest I'm accused of something I didn't do. I do care about the work and want to do good work, but am afraid of even trying and having it backfire, spending so much time and energy into delivering something good only to have my boss take the work from me and take credit for it or assign it to their minion friend...

I'm looking for a new job but this is a tough market, I'm investing in training that will make my CV look better, but I think I'll be stuck here for the next 6 months at least.

I feel so undervalued and demotivated and I'm trying my best to reframe my mindset and not care anymore. I want to do good work and I want to have a career, and I was so close to growing professionally until my manager took it all away from me. But right now my job is just making me sick. On days when I'm not working I feel like a completely new person, my mood is much better and I even fall asleep much better.

For anyone who's been through this, how did you cope? I take meds, I have hobbies, I go to the gym, I read, I paint, I eat healthy, but for 8 hours every day I feel miserable.

My coworkers LOVE potlucks. They do other activities such as trivia, games, and football watch events but potlucks are there main thing. There’s a potluck almost every 2 weeks. In between these potlucks there is constant socializing whether it’s during or after work. The room is never quiet. I enjoy the constant chatter around the room and how active it is but Im not too fond of the potlucks and team building events.

I don’t know why they do them so often when they also talk during work hours. What is there to talk about for 40hrs a week every week??? They always invite me but I decline because I just don’t know what to do at these events.

I don’t like sharing my personal life. My work experience is alittle convoluted so talking about it makes me a tad uncomfortable. I hate school but my resumes says other wise. My life is a contraindication due to lack of advise, exposure, and survival to which speaking with my coworkers they just don’t understand so anything I say is dismissed. I’m allergic to a majority of the food and i dont have much an appetite during work hours. I also am not interested in knowing what my coworkers do outside of work. I’m just not curious enough to know them in that way. I’m not a big board game person and I like to watch football on my own time (while I’m working). I overall keep to myself at work.

Well I’m looking into changing departments. Not because of the social hours but due to the work. It’s getting alittle boring. The department I’m transitioning to wants to start doing social hours like the department I’m leaving but this department is much smaller which means I can’t sneak out to my car while they “team build”.

Im gonna have to start going. Just the idea of it makes me so uncomfortable :/

Any tips?

I just read someone here that , especially as someone who is more introverted , nervous socially in person and was bullied in school, worries me

"People you work with arent "friends". they'd throw you under a bus to save their own jobs."

So a little on me, I'm someone who really needs to socialize more in life for my mental health and to make up for all the years I lived in a bubble of fear and trauma. I still have these but I am trying to force myself to face them, I'm doing a formation online it's webcam and it finishes very soon, and yesterday I actually cried because I've liked being in this group of people during the lessons, that once it's over I know I won't see them again, and it hurts...I'll eventually have to push myself to get over it, I know my brain is being stupid, and I hang on to things mentally, but that's just life

But when in a job, I don't wanna have to be worried of people trying to single me out or gang up on me. Another difficulty is, on top of being very nervous in person, my hands start sweating like MAD..

Okay so, I am struggling at work. I struggle to stay organized. I struggle to keep up with my work load. I also struggle to think critically. I am in my first year in an administrative job. I am techinally a material planner/buyer but I am also be customer service representative, a production planner, shipping and receiving clerk. I am overwhelmed. I have so many projects and so many things that I need to do, but I just feel like I dont have the time to do it. I also dont feel like I have the experience for what my company needs. I lack so much knowledge in so many areas and I just keep making mistakes due to being overworked and having a lack of knowledge. I am getting to the point where I keep feeling like I am going to be fired. Some weeks I work 60+ hours a week because I just can't get everything I need done done. I was never really properly trained and now I feel like there is so much I truly don't know. I love this company and the people I work with. I started out on the production floor at this company and somedays I get really close to asking my plant manager if I can just go back to the floor. I would make less hourly, but I would have overtime opportunities and I would have a lot less mental stress. I also feel like when i make suggestions or speak up at work no one listens to me. Has anyone else ever demoted themselves? If so how did it go? Did you regret it?

Im just tired of being consumed by my job. Even on the weekends I can't relax because I'm just thinking about work. All I do when I talk to my family is complain and stress about work. I feel terrible but it's the only thing on my mind these days.

Any advice on how I should handle this situation?

Any advice on how i can juggle multiple roles at work?

Thank you!

Feels like half of my day goes into meetings and taking notes. I barely have time left to do the actual work. Luckily, I started using a tool (Dadan, found it on AppSumo) that records, transcribes, and summarizes automatically, and it was honestly the first time I left a meeting without a headache.

I'm already burnt out… do we really need this many meetings, or do we just like hearing ourselves talk?

I think I know the answer to this, but I need to get it out.

My job is toxic. Overwork, micromanagement, impossible deadlines, gaslighting, you name it. I am supposed to have a counterpart in my role - I'm currently training the tenth person in that role since I started in March 2024.

My mental health is absolutely the worst it's ever been. I don't recognize myself. I have had actual nightmares about my job. I'm actually a little scared for myself, because I've never been this depressed. Not to be dramatic, but I think leaving this job might actually be life or death.

My skill set is a little narrow although I do have some transferable skills like sales (sadly no tech sales experience otherwise I'd be employed by now). If I raided my savings account, I could survive for 8-9 months on a tight budget.

I do technically have a contract for a new job - however the corporation needs to get registered with the industry regulatory board so I don't have a start date yet (and the lawyer handling it is dragging her feet, long story), and the long-term viability of the business model worries me a little so I'm not sure if it's a great long term plan but it's something.

I'm a super risk-averse person, I like to be safe. I support myself completely. The thought of quitting with nothing lined up terrifies me, but I think that it's the only way forward.

Is this crazy? I know the job market is nuts right now, but a lot of the info out there is American-based and I'm in a major city in Canada. It's not that much better here but I think it's a little better?

Hi I’m 22 very young to be getting this promotion. been working quality for about 4 +!years now. I started out as an inspector and than was working a lead position doing things all over the plant for about a little over a year now but didn’t get the lead title and pay until about 2 months ago. Well now, I got another promotion to replace my current boss to be the quality supervisor , he is going to be working on second shift. I really didn’t even get the chance to say no, and I honestly figured it would be a little nice, get an office , get to learn a little bit more, get to be on salary pay and attend meetings. Don’t get me wrong, I do good on the floor, but in an office? I’m not so sure. It’s a lot I have to learn and I got 2 weeks for my boss to train me and the first week is almost over. I’m nervous because he hasn’t really showed me much and tomorrow is Wednesday. He has always been ALL over the place. And instead of him training me he’s kind of just got me doing side gigs for him like he always has me doing. I’m no so tuned in with using excel and doing his normal daily job or traveling when need be or important phone calls / emails. I’m good on the floor. So I’m nervous I won’t learn what I need to learn or even if I do learn that I won’t be good at it. I’m going to give it a shot for a month, if I seem to be an unfit person for the job, how would I tell my plant manager if I could go back to being a lead? The problem with that is, I need someone to take my current position, and I know who that person is, I also need to hire someone that is going to have to take over her position. What happens then? We don’t need that extra person if I go back down to being a lead. Will my job just let me go? I’m very beneficial for my job, I don’t think they’d let me go. I’ve been loyal, and I have to be the one training everyone, because not many people know the job. I’m just nervous. Which is acceptable, but I’m not going to put on a front that I’m doing good at the job if I’m not. Just don’t know how to tell my plant manager if that’s ends up happening.

Hey everyone!

I recently built a web app to help with workplace social anxiety. It's early-stage, and I'm looking for constructive feedback and feature ideas from the community to make it better. The idea came from my own experiences as well as hearing how social anxiety has affected others' careers.

Grateful for any feedback or suggestions.

Https://notawkward.app

I'm in the midst of trying to get 3 jobs if I can, but plubic transport (buses) stop at 5:30pm where I live and don't run on the weekends, and where I live is not within easy walking distance. I'm guessing Ubers? Can be hard because where I live is a rundown drug city so a lot of them stop coming after a while. I'd get a driver's license but classes here cost outwards of $300-4000 dollars for the classes. I'm just stuck living in a motel because of the economy, and desperatly want to get out even if it means working all hours.

I have a coworker who does not believe in using deodorant. It’s worse because it’s construction so he’s constantly moving around and sweating and the smell is overwhelmingly pungent to put it mildly. He just came into my office and it took everything I had to not leave the room.

Does anyone have any experience in dealing with this? Is this an HR issue?